LGBTQIA+ Thread • Page 18

I wish I had more gay friends. the few I had through work have all moved away, and I'm pretty fucking shy/badddd at making friends
our pride week is coming up and I always want to go to the events to maybe meet people but always chicken out
maybe this will be the year I finally do it

 

if it won't risk yr safety, you should absolutely go for it

 

Watching Queer Eye and feeling emotional

 

In case anyone missed it, I posted a thread in the Music forum about a new LGBT Spotify playlist I'm curating. Suggestions welcome!

Thread > LGBT & Queer rebels - official Spotify playlist - help me curate it!

 

I guess this goes here, mini documentary about how gay men gravitate towards having female icons
I like the theory that it's about being femme, I'm mainly hetero but femme so that would explain why I am obsessed with Mariah Carey etc

 

Did not expect it but fuck if I did not want the masculinity I was born with

 

Seen a friend share an empowering post about trans people on facebook, and the comments were predictably awful. Not to go into details, because I know that facebook is bad yada yada, but it always stuns me when people get anxious over concepts they obviously know nothing about.

Like, you can discuss their ignorant (that veers on transphobic) arguments in a polite and informative way over and over again, yet they'll still find a way to not get the point, continue to be offensive, then they'll blame you for getting defensive. Stuff like this depresses me and makes me think we still have a long way to go before transgender issues become widely accepted.

Sorry for the vague rant, I just didn't know where to put these words out. This thread seemed like a good place I guess.

 

I want to pose a question to the thread: is the word “queer” a slur? I got into a bit of a heated exchange on Twitter today about it. I’ve identified with the term for about a year. I believe it to be an umbrella term that encompasses any LGBT identity. That’s how it’s always been taught to me. I like the fluidity it gives me. I like that it doesn’t pin me down. The other person in the exchange was arguing that because, historically, it has been used as a slur, it shouldn’t be used today. I’m just curious what others think, and want to get some input.

 

it can be used as a slur, but i'm all for reclaiming it. i predominately regard myself as queer because i like the freedom it prescribes. not everyone, particularly lgbtq folks from an older generation, feels comfortable or capable of reclaiming it, which is also fine and should be noted with regards to what language is used towards them, but i think we should be free to reclaim slurs for our personal identification without policing.

to this point, i feel the same way about the word "***," although I personally don't think i'll ever like how it sounds in my mouth. for self-identification purposes, queer folks should feel free to call themselves it.

 

Yeah this is where I think I’m landing on the issue

 

I would have to say they’re just straight-up wrong and trying to police your/others identity/ies. If someone asks not to personally be labeled as or called queer then that should obv be respected but that’s clearly not what’s happening there.

And you would be right about that.

 

Skyler Jay Reveals His True Feelings on Queer Eye's Trans Makeover Episode
a nice feel-good read

 

How did most of you make LGBTQ+ friends? My two friends I have right now are a bi woman and a gay woman but that's just pure coincidence. I am also the lease confident person ever

 

I'm so tired of straight males, is that bad?

 

no I think a lot of us are tired of them

 

I don't and I am the loneliest I've ever been. Once I get a job, save up enough money to move out from my parents and go back to college, I hope it'll be easier.

 

Most of my friends are LGBTQ and I honestly have no idea how it happened

 

The few lgbtq+ friends I had were through work, they’ve all moved to other cities so I’m in desperate need of some new ones

 

Most LGBTQ+ friends I’ve made are people I’ve met at shows & the folks they’ve introduced me to.

 

I went to a very gay college/have lived in queer-friendly areas for a while (SF Bay Area and now NYC). Perhaps find a Meetup group or a "gay" activity like contra-dancing to get into and meet people?

 

have you tried this

 

I have quite a lot of gay friends, but it's possibly because I lived in a fairly liberal city (Vancouver). Met most of my initial gay friends through school or apps (primarily Growlr), and then met additional friends through those friends, and so on. I've heard Meetup is a good option (as mentioned above), but honestly it will be quite a bit harder if you live in a more rural town or a country/state/city that is more conservative and has a less vibrant gay community.

 

Thought that was wholesome.