General Forum Chat Thread (II) [ARCHIVED] • Page 19

It always starts off Why is a pretty girl like you not married? I want to respond with It's because I'm a raving lunatic!!

 

Having kids would be introducing colossal room for error into my life. My initial instinct is also "hey, that might be a cool experiment", which means I probably shouldn't be having them.

Obviously talking about when I'm older.

 

Haha this describes me exactly too. I'm in my third year of college and just now realizing I don't really need a relationship right now.

 

Personally, I'm not sure if I want children. One hand, the family name dies with me or my brother if neither of us have kids. On the other, I couldn't take care of a child. I can barely take care of myself right now, I'm supposed to take care of another human being that can't and won't be able to do so for many years? Not really worth it.

 

Dude this is me too. I've always felt like an anomaly for not having dated seriously before or had a real relationship... I'm starting to accept more recently that it's not that unusual.

 

I don't know that Ill ever get married, I love weddings but don't see myself in one. And I have terrible genetics and feel like I'll be dead in my 40s so I don't think I want kids. My sister's already married, just need her to adopt a baby so that the pressure's fully off me to give my mom a wedding and a grandchild.

 

- most food makes me feel like i've failed. my body sucks
- @xkhiemster if i was going out with someone who didn't have a relationship before, it wouldn't matter to me. they're still human. i'd treat them like i should treat anyone. i'd give them the patience and understanding that they deserve.
- after my last relationship, marriage isn't even something i think about anymore. or at least, i don't know when i will think about it again. it will take a long time.
- similarly, i don't know if i want kids. it sounds too stressful. heck, my parents have to deal with me!

but, my younger cousins are so adorable. it's just....you know...once they hit puberty onwards. hahaha

 

It's not unusual at all, it's just that facebook would probably have you think different.

 

I just know rn I'm too selfish to be in a relationship or have kids. idk where I'm gonna end up or what I wanna do, and I don't wanna drag a partner through that uncertainty and ask them to uproot their life for me when I move. Also with kids I can't spend all my money on me and impulsively do stupid things like by Britney Spears tickets in Vegas so there's that.

 

The other thing is, it's not like whatever decision you make when you're in your 20s is permanent. People are perfectly allowed to change their minds on these things. In fact, it's probably the number one cause of break ups in most sit coms.

 

Yeah. Honestly while I get lonely sometimes (okay, pretty often), I see friends who are constantly in and out of relationships and I just don't want to deal with that emotional stress either.

 

i am so glad i have video games, tv shows, and youtube.

 

I think If I wasn't in such an isolated situation I wouldn't feel so weird lately. I think living in a foreign country where it's more difficult to up and make friends with similar interests (and not just because you're in the same location) has really done a number on me.

 

I never know what to watch on youtube.

 

YouTube Channels • forum.chorus.fm check it

 

I feel like having friends fail me is enough emotional stress in my life right now.

 

I started watching Lonelygirl15 from the "first season", it's actually not terrible. -

 

Suuweet! This will help me kill so much time haha.

 

Same, as well as various failed projects/websites.

 

Totally agreed. I've had enough drama recently with the people I live with, I don't need any more.

 

I feel it I keep moving to different websites for my music/other writing.

 

Ahh I don't think I ever actually said how sorry I was that that didn't work out. I feel like that's partly my fault.

 

Yeah I feel bad for that as well. I contributed one piece and then that was kind of it...

 

I've been staying up to watch late night, which I hadn't done until fairly recently. As a teenager and a college student, I've had late bedtimes, but now I can't tell if I'm taking naps in the afternoon because my sleep cycle is fucked or I've just been exhausted.

 

My sleep schedule flipped on me -- was falling asleep around 8 am and waking up at 6 or 7 pm. Had to stay up all day to reset it and now it's slowly sliding out of line again.