I’ve been stewing all morning because my future father in law decided to send an email to my fiancé’s rich aunt and uncle about how Ben needs their “help” repairing his credit score because of his “massive credit card debt” which is 1) deeply inappropriate and fucked up to do without consulting us and 2) a total conflation of inaccurate facts. I am the one with credit card debt. We share the burden of it the same way we share the rest of our finances. Ben was showing him a spreadsheet he had put together to create a “debt free in x years” plan and he clearly didn’t pay attention to a single thing that was said. I am absolutely furious because it paints an incorrect picture of Ben- he has worked so hard to turn himself into a better person over the past 5 years and they continue to view him as a messy idiot. I’m also mad because it puts me in a position to have to reveal/explain things about my life and financial situation that they do not need to know. Like Ben and I have figured this out and have a plan, we work super hard. Why can’t people mind their own goddamn business.