Vent Your Frustrations • Page 68

This weekend, the reality set in that my father will not be with us much longer. I've been sad but mostly angry about all of it. Fuck cancer.

 

Sending you love and hope you can spend as much time with him as possible while he is still here

 

Sincerely sorry that you and your family have to go through that right now. It's bullshit and it's not fair.

 

I feel lost in just about every aspect of life right now. I know things will work out but in the meantime it really sucks.

 

Going places with my mom is so frustrating. I try not to say anything bc I can't drive so I don't feel I really have a right to complain about people's driving but omg......She has zero sense of direction. She has gotten lost on the road she has lived on for like 10 years (seriously...she had no idea where she was bc she took the dog for a walk on the opposite side she normally walks on.....). So she has her GPS and it will say "turn left in 8 miles" and she tries to turn left immediately. I'm telling her NO you still have 8 miles but she says she just doesn't "understand miles." WUT??? Then I say keep straight on this road and she'll try to take an exit on the left???? And I say no stay straight and she says I'm being "confusing." I mean straight is pretty clear.....Then we went through a toll and she didn't take her ticket. She said bc everyone else was "zipping through" so she didn't think she needed to take the ticket...Like they have an EZ pass that's why!! So she had to pay a $51 lost ticket fee and has to go online to get a refund but she won't know how to do that so I'll have to do it for her and the whole way home she was screaming at me bc apparently it was my fault she didn't take the ticket. I hate going with her anymore. I about have a panic attack every damn time.

 

My wife of 3.5 years told me over the weekend that she was no longer in love with me. She then told me that she had fallen for someone else. That someone else just happened to be her best friend's husband, who is one of my good friends (ex-roommate, in each other's weddings, etc). They live in TX but he visited a couple of weekends ago for a mutual friend's wedding. Nothing physical happened but I guess old emotions between the two of them sparked up over the course of those few days.

She also said she's not sure she wants to start a family with me.

A month ago I would have told you that everything was great. She packed up and left to a friend's house an hour ago so we can take some time apart. Just me and the dog here. It really fucking sucks.

 

Omg I'm so sorry that's rough af. And takes a lot of betrayal cause she's hurting u and also her bff like dang sorry ur going thru this

 

Fuck man I’m so so sorry. I know nothing I can say can help but you can always DM me.

 

Holy shit I’m so sorry. That’s devastating.

 

Thanks friends. At first I was pretty numb to it, thinking that if she wanted to go and didn't want to be with me, then I couldn't stop her or change her mind. But now that she's gone it's a whole new level of pain.

Luckily our dog is a v good boye and he'll hang tough with me

 

Pets, especially dogs, are the best when it comes to things like this. They know when we’re in pain and they do the best they can to help. I hope the Mariners provide some sort of solace as well.

 

this was a nice sentiment until the last sentence. damn Mariners /s

 

sending love your way @theagentcoma thats a really terrible situation and I feel for you

 

I'm starting to get into this rhythm where I basically plan out my days off and I end up just being lazy and doing nothing at all.

It's sucks because with school starting soon and also juggling a job it feels like doing stuff is going to get 10x harder.

 

I feel this dude. I’ve found that it’s taken a few things to counteract this. For one, I’ve set my sights a little lower. Rather than think “on my day off I’m gonna do this and do this and do this,” which becomes overwhelming, I’ll try and just accomplish one thing that’s important to me that day. Then there’s a good chance I’ll do that one thing and I’ll have the time to do something else. Also, and this isn’t as easy, but just sheer fucking willpower. Sometimes we just need to get started a bit and then the rest is easy.

But yeah I’m in the exact same boat man. Like, I had this vision of my summer being relaxed and a lot of fun, but I’ve been working a lot and when I’m not at work I’m just exhausted and I end up doing very little. It isn’t until the last two weeks or so where I’m just like, no, fuck this, I need to get my ass out of bed and do something.

 

More reasons I ned to quit my job...NOW. The higher ups be spreading your personal business around to everyone and the majority of employees have big mouths so info gets spread like wild fire. Note the info wasn't about me about about a co worker and that they were actually fired and why they got fired.

 

This isnt an issue for me currently, but I hate the notion that going to HR is a good work solution cause so often it's not. I dont think HR would be like HEY KIANA SAID YOU DID THIS AWFUL THING, but also I feel like there's a real fear of someone finding out it was u by process of elimination and it could hurt you at work, espesh if its a higher up. And I hate how not going to HR could negatively impact your unemployment even tho again it doesnt always feel safe to contact HR, espesh when it's a small organization/business. I feel like it's on the employers and HR to make employees feel comfortable and safe speaking to them instead of like punishing them for not doing so. Even at jobs I loved I never felt like I could go to HR if I had a problem.

 

The only reason HR exists is so that you don't sue the company one day.

 

Yeah HR is in place to protect the company, not the employee. An unfortunate truth.

 

I worked in HR and this is 100% the case

 

So sick of being exhausted when I'm on my period. I could sleep 12 hours and still fall asleep during the day. I eat the right foods, I force myself to exercise but nothing works. Tried talking to my doctor about it and all she said was "that's PMS and it's normal." I kept bringing it back up and asked if she knew anything that could help "Get more sleep" She did this same shit when I brought up how my depression gets BADDDD right before my period. "that's PMS and it's normal." THANKS FOR NO HELP AT ALL!! And I don't feel like wanting to kill yourself EVERY SINGLE MONTH right when your period is about to start is fucking normal and should just be brushed off. It is just so frustrating bc I've already been to so many doctors when I was trying to figure out all my other issues going on and this one finally helped me out and figured out I have endometriosis. I don't want to go through the process of finding yet another doctor after already going through a bunch already who were even worse than this one. I would leave in tears bc no one would take my issues seriously and were just flat out mean to me.

 

have you considered going to a place like Planned Parenthood instead of a traditional doctor's office? Obviously I can't speak to every clinic, but every time I've gone I've felt the most at ease, the most respected, and like I was really being handled with care. They're usually better with these kinds of health issues because it's mostly what they deal with. Because you're right, it's not normal, and your doctor is supposed to care about that, not brush off your concerns.

 

That's actually one of the few places I haven't gone to mainly just bc it's a bit farther away. I can't drive so I always feel guilty about someone having to drive me places so I usually try whatever is closest and go from there. I feel like I've exhausted all my closer options though, and my mom (who normally takes me) has seen first hand how much I've struggled trying to find someone who will actually listen to me so I know she would be fine with going a bit further. Thanks so much for the recommendation! I will definitely try going there next time!

 

Pretty much me right there and been that way for a long time. I try to eat better but I don't have time to eat properly with my job (trying to leave but I haven't found anything). When I tried exercising it just made me tired in the day quicker. Although for me I don't think mine is related to my period because I don't see my depression get worse around that specific time or the tiredness around that time, its just always is there. After reading your post it makes me wonder if I maybe have endometriosis, I've looked at symptoms and Im still unsure. I've ready it can be very mild and hard to detect. I won't see my doctor until another 2 years so I can't really go and ask about it. Anyway I hope you eventually find a good doctor

 

Yeah endometriosis can be hard to detect. People like my mom had no symptoms at all until she went to have kids and had fertility issues. That's when she found out she had it. I had a huge list of symptoms plus a family history of it and it took multiple doctors and like 8 years to finally find a doctor who believed me, took me seriously and did a bunch of tests to figure out what was going on. I'd definitely say if you are having any symptoms at all it's worth talking to your doctor about next time you can see them. My personal symptoms were heavy, irregular periods (sometimes lasting 3+ months at a time) and very, very severe cramps. When I brought those up, my dr instantly said "sounds like endometriosis" But everyone I know who has it all have different symptoms so like I said, if you think you might have it at all it's def worth looking into. Hope you can figure out what's going on!