I think customer service and retail people are trained to use sir and ma'am as signs of respect or whatever, I'm not saying it's okay they didn't respect your gender identity obviously, but everything is so ingrained
Yeah, I get that its a status quo thing, which obviously feels draining from that perspective to say sir or ma'am all the time if your boss requires you to or if its the best way to handle authoritarian customers that you deal with on a daily basis. I empathize, and never demand acknowledgement for my gender or anything (usually I don't even acknowledge being constantly addressed as sir, nor ask to be called ma'am. A few times I requested to be addressed as Mr. Sir). I know how grating those jobs can be (having worked in retail for a while) but I always found that keeping it neutral when in doubt instead of saying sir or ma'am to everyone who looks like they fit in a gender category or anyone who was either not elderly or not a complete asshole was more comfortable for me, but that's me. Maybe I just look like a masculine jerk, haha. Not sure. Anyway, at the end of the day the being called sir thing isn't a major issue for me, just a bit frustrating sometimes.
I hate when people call me sweetheart or honey. It's even worse when they're obviously younger than me.
I went to get a haircut today and the barber told me to close my eyes. I did, assuming he was gonna cut the top of my hair or something. He shaved part of my eyebrows to clean them up. Startled, I twitched and now there's a gap in the middle of one of them. What's worse is that I have trichotillomania and all my hard work to not pull has gone to waste. It's going to be awfully rough now that my eyebrows are uneven. As if I wasn't insecure about my eyebrows already.
So far, I've been subjected to people who are on welfare buying crabs, someone jokingly put up an "all technicians matter" sign, been told that, even though I'm on their side, I'll never be an "n word", and had the trope of black on black crime thrown in my face. I'm going to fucking kill these crackers. Or just fire them.
I went to the mall and JC Penney was handing out coupons: You got either $10 off $10, $20 off $20, or $100 off $100. Well I was super fucking lucky and got $100 off $100 (I started crying in the store) but this guy saw that I got that and I seriously was scared. He got sooo belligerent and I thought he was going to beat me up. I don't know why people have to be like that. He kept acting like because I'm young I don't deserve it and he does because he has children. And I'm like wow dad of the year over here....What a great role model for your children: Yelling at a young woman over a fucking coupon. I just don't know how anyone can act like that towards another person.
I hate it when people tell me I look or sound tired. I tend to slur a little when I'm sleep deprived. I spend more time at work than I do at home and my job is high stress. That and trying to have meaningful relationships doesn't leave me time to sleep much. I'm always going to be tired so get over it and stop bringing it to my attention everyday.
Man, I really don't want to quit my job but if this fuckstick has a job still I'm telling that place to get fucked. Dude charged into the restaurant, jumped into a co-workers face and started screaming at him and threatening him in the middle of the floor. After all the absolute bullshit they have forced employees out the door on (because they didn't technically fire them, just placed them in situations where it was basically quit or be fired) this dude better not be allowed in the fucking building.
It's my senior year of high school, and I don't really have any friends that I feel super close to. I look around and everyone has their Best Friend and I'm always alone. It honestly makes me cry because I don't understand what's wrong with me. I would go to the moon and back for some people, but I know that they probably wouldn't do the same. Usually, I delve into music for company, but it still really hurts. Sorry to get all emo.
My parents have always been strict but now I'm 19, 20 next month and my dad told me to go out to a nightclub. I started laughing, thinking he's joking and he's like "I'm serious, where are you going to meet a boy? At your small uni with tiny classes? Right. Do you want to be alone forever?" Gee, thanks. We kept talking and my mum asked if he'd rather me meet someone through the internet and he said no pretty aggressively, which is awkward, since I know my boyfriend through the internet and I have to keep him a secret for now. Ugh. I just don't know how to deal with my parents suddenly saying I can go out and do what I want, I'm too scared to do anything now, I have fucking anxiety and it's a struggle to go to uni 3 days a week let alone go out and my lifestyle change drastically. Maybe this should be in the mental health thread but I just needed to vent
I get this all the time. Sometimes when I'm actually tired, sometimes when I'm just having a normal ass day. My thing is, though, even if I do look tired why would you point it out as a person I'm not close to at all? Like there's no way that could be taken positively and all the ways that it could be taken as kind of an insult.
It's so rude whether they mean it to be or not. The worst is when it's a normal day. I work in a lab which has really fluorescent lighting so it makes my dark circles really stand out. People assume I'm sick when I don't wear makeup but sometimes I just don't feel like putting any on!
I hate that I'm such a pushover. I need to remind people that they owe me money and I feel super guilty about it. I always say but they have this to pay for and this to pay for and just keep putting it off. But wtf I have shit to pay for too and they aren't thinking of that. I just feel like everyone knows I'm nice and takes advantage of it. It's getting really old really fast.
I'm in the same boat. Someone owes me $160 and they know I haven't gotten a paycheck all summer and have had to pay a lot for my car repairs and they still haven't paid me back. Well they paid me $100 of it a while ago but still owe me $160. It sucks cause I feel weird bringing it up. I think some people hope you'll forget or something and they won't have to pay you
Yuuuup! My hours at work get cut way back in the summer and they know this but it seems like they don't care. And I'm over here watching them go out to eat every night so I see they have the money. They just want to spend it on what *they* want. But I'm the idiot who knows everyone does this to me and keeps loaning everyone money anyway lol