Vent Your Frustrations • Page 113

Closed on a house today. Like getting congratulations emails from the title company closed. We were supposed to get the keys tonight only to be told that the former owner’s brother (that we were told was already gone) is still living in there. And this dude wanted to close ASAP. After some heated phone calls with our agents, their agent, and local law enforcement it has been made clear that if anyone is in that house by noon tomorrow it’s gonna get Jerry Springer (RIP) status up in there. Never wanted to call the cops on someone before but I guess this is growing up

 

This is mostly me being frustrated with myself because I used to be so on top of completing little dopey adult stuff way ahead of time but have just been too busy with work and whatnot to pay attention like I should.

my bank is doing some massive update so we can’t access any accounts and our debit cards don’t work and the new ones they sent us won’t work until Monday. No biggie, I have credit cards and some cash if I absolutely need to buy something but I forgot that I had a handful of shit ordered from random places that are all shopping next week, but I have them being charged to the card that no longer works after Sunday so I’m hoping I get email responses and chats back to change my payment method to a credit card and not that the orders get cancelled. Even better that some of the orders are for hard to find / limited edition/time shit so if they do cancel the orders I may not be able to reorder and I don’t want to try and place new orders with a different card because some of the items are expensive and don’t want to get charged twice and then try and do a return later if both show up.

 

The contradiction between companies doing a "mental health awareness month" marketing campaign, while actively discriminating against mentally disabled applicants and ignoring their own employees mental health. I applied to something like 500 jobs over the past few years and have only landed 2 interviews. Later, I found that checking yes on the "Do you have any disabilities?" questionnaire will absolutely have a negative impact on your application. Me being honest, transparent, and gullible, I've checked that box on all my applications.

 

Well I have bed bugs. Been waking up with bites for maybe a week or so now and finally found proof of one. Legally my landlord has to deal with this within 30 days but I bet it's gonna be a nightmare and my lease is up in August so I bet they're gonna screw me over come then. Hoping to have this dealt with as soon as possible it really skeeves me out.

 

The healthcare industry in America is a fucking joke and I shouldn't need to go through all these hoops to get my fucking antidepressants refilled.

My doctor denied my refill. I've been on this medication FOR YEARS, why the fuck did you suddenly change it?

 

Received an email late yesterday from HR saying something was screwed up and they haven't taken health insurance deductions from my paycheck since coverage started 5 pay periods ago and that I owe them $300. The situation is what it is, someone made a mistake, but it really pissed me off how they handled it. Essentially sending me a terse email saying there was an issue, how are you going to give us our money? No apologies, no contrition on the part of the company, no options on how to deal with the situation or how the company will help. Basically a collections bill. This is from HR, the people who are supposed to know how to deal with people. A face to face would've been appropriate, at the very least, if it had to be an email, a heartfelt apology and spelling out all my options and letting me know their door is open to discuss would've been nice. Not making me feel like a deadbeat who doesn't pay their bills and they're here to collect what's owed would've been appreciated. HR department sucks shit here, and they're supposed to be the ones you go to when you have an issue, not the ones who cause them. I went over and talked to the lady who sent the email, but was admittedly upset and didn't handle it well, I went back shortly after to apologize, but know I'll never get the issue address and the apology I deserve for their tactless and disrespectful approach to a situation that someone else caused for me and is now costing me a not insignificant amount of money.

 

My job is very much business develop/Program develop in the non-profit workforce sector.

Majority of my career thus far has been working independently in my own role.

This job I’ve had for the last year is different in that I’m on a team with people who share the same duties and this is the first time I’ve been on a team like this since my cross country/track/basketball days.

My frustration is that I’m very much finding myself in the middle of my team and it’s not my job to be. As in I’m being told I’m the glue of the team. I’ve built relationships with each person so I know how to communicate with them and redirect them so we can stay on track of our jobs and what we can control.

my name is now being thrown around in other conversations so people can prove their point by saying that I’m on their side. Seriously is like high school all over again.

 

A BUG CRAWLED IN MY EAR WHEN I WAS SLEEPING I AM DEAD AND WILL NEVER SLEEP AGAIN AND I HATE MY LIFE I LOGICALLY KNOW IT HAPPENED BUT I WONT ACCEPT THE REALITY AND AM IN DENIAL OMG

 

Actual footage of me rn trying to handle this

 

My bf put a trap out, one of those plug in blue light sticky traps we got last year and omfg no. So many. And I was talking to him in the bedroom and looked up at the ceiling and there's like 10 up there. I'm moving. I'm done. This didn't happen last year. Idek. They win the apartment. I'm sleeping on the couch. I think they are getting in thru the window ac in our room. I quit.

 

I'm not like seriously looking to buy a house but sometimes I check out what the rates are and stuff because I feel like honestly I could buy a house if I understood how the process works and all because I do have a decent career job and am good with savings. Saw one I thought was cute and checked out the sales history and since it was last bought and the listing now, the price has gone up 150% . It's just ridiculous. Media, keep writing articles about how millennials aren't buying houses like it's shocking information!!!

 

This actually really frustrates me as well. I don't get paid well and I'm not sure I'll ever get a job that will so buying a house seems like an absolutely impossible task. It seems like they go out of their way to make it harder for people like us.

 

Truly like when I was a kid my teen parents didn't have college degrees and had working class jobs and they bought a house that fit three kids. It was a small modest starter home but I can't even imagine the price of that house now. I'm fortunate to make enough for a woman with no kids who has decent credit and can save up, but it's so discouraging still. I think I could swing a modest house if i really tried, but I am also always considering my masters degree and no way am I gonna be able to afford both of those things. And say I get my masters in the next few years and am in fresh debt with that, then it'll be about the time my car will prob be starting to have problems and a house would seem even further away and it's like an impossible hole of constant debt. I don't have any debt right now for the first time in my adult life, and I feel like that's enough incentive for me to just stay stagnant cause every "adult" milestone costs a trillion dollars

 

And having parents with no financial knowledge to pass down and that whole world of like investing also seems so inaccessible. I've tried researching it and I truly don't understand any of it no matter how hard I try or how it's broken down for me. I remember my well off college friend telling me once that her grandma got her a CD and I had never even heard of that before and thought she meant the music format but naw girlie has just been set up for financial success since childhood. I get so overwhelmed thinking of all these financial things that I just rage quit. I'm lucky enough to have insurance and I don't understand any of it. Like pls send help!

 

Not sure where I saw it or if it is true to a large extent but I guess people are only putting down 3% to buy houses currently? I thought it was still super high demand and you had to go $30K over the asking price which, I guess you could still do that and only do 3% down payment but damn your mortgage and whatnot (but who cares if the world explodes in 10 years).

I remember in elementary school thinking everyone was really good at saving because even though I didn’t know how much $110K was or whatever I assumed that everything people had/owned they had to save up for and pay in cash like I did when I wanted new action figures

 

I’ve also always been irked by people who say, “why rent? You should buy, my mortgage is the same or less than your rent!” and I’m sure there are cases where that makes sense but where I rent I don’t have to shovel, I don’t have to cut grass, I don’t have to replace every goddamn thing and hire someone to replace something if it breaks/dies, I don’t (currently) have to pay for cable and internet, don’t pay taxes in property, etc.

owning a home has a lot of add-on expenses and it seems like everyone defaults to “it’s cheaper to own than rent!” which while I know those cases exist it’s not a high percent.

 

Yeah the thought of all that stresses me out. My dad rented his house for years and the owners didn't wanna be landlords anymore so they offered to sell to him with his past payments counting towards it. He finally bit the bullet and then a few months later had to pay a ton to replace some pipes or something. He enjoys having constant projects so it works out for him but I feel like everyone I know who has a house has been working on it for years and years and it's never done and that would stress me out

 

I think it was the first or second year I was in my current apartment, Christmas morning, and my kitchen sink started leaking underneath - couldn’t use the sink at all. Called and left a message for maintenance and they were at my apartment within 30 minutes and had the issue fixed in another 15 (replaced the garbage disposal).

Now, I get that the situation could go terribly because I lucked out with having great management and maintenance but if they would have been an issue with a house I owned I can almost guarantee you I would still be grumbling about how much it cost to fix or I would simply not having a kitchen sink to use to this day lol I know none of that shit and unless a quick google search makes sense to me, it’s just not gonna stick with me, I just don’t have those skills.

For reference, I once replaced the blinker bulbs in my car myself and that ended up taking… 4 trips to the store, about 10 hours total time lost, a bunch of bruised and scratched up hands due to how you have to remove the entire fucking headlight in my car and then the bulb for the blinker and no, I did not feel “smart” or have “pride” in doing something myself. I was more irritated at the end of the day than the start. If I have to get bulbs again I will gladly pay whatever I need to not have to do that myself ever again lol (and housework /breakages would be the same way if not worse)

 

Being unsupported at work fucking sucks. I told my boss last week that I need more help and we need another person on the team since more responsibilities have fallen onto me, and his response was that it’s not in the budget to hire someone new. OK, I get that, Australian music media is a really tough place to be. But at least decrease the amount of tasks allocated to me? Nope. It’s just, here, have these three new tasks to do tomorrow on top of the 10+ 300-450-word news articles I have to do each day without even asking me if I have the capacity to take on more. I don’t know how much longer I can go at this pace without burning out.

 

I just quit my last media job in Melbourne a few weeks ago for this very reason. Nothing I did was good enough and because they kept assigning project after project to me, I burned out and resigned. Wasn't an easy decision but I moved on to a different, smaller agency and even though it's still early days, I can tell I'm going to be much happier and supported here.

When speaking to your boss around all these responsibilities, even though he said there was no budget for a new hire, did he indicate the possibility of sharing the workload among your team/colleagues? Is it part of your job description to have this much work?

 

Hey Rob!! I completely understand and support that decision - I’m so glad that you feel much happier and supported there :)

he was saying that he was working on re-allocating everyone’s responsibilities and this week or next, he’ll tell us what everything will look like. I’m not sure if my workload will change - it increased a lot after we had someone leave maybe two months ago? and then someone else works more in another area now, so I’m the main staff writer. Exhausted

 

Fingers crossed it eases up. Office/job politics can be the worst.

 

"it's not in our budget" well, what IS in your budget? Losing good workers and having to rehire positions because of constant burn out?

 

Spoke with my editor this morning - we’re bringing on another person after all! She’ll be joining part time, two days a week on our busiest days, which is a really good start. My editor was also really good on the phone today - told me to let him know if I needed anything and apologised for putting so much on me. Pretty happy with the progress

 

That's huge. So happy for you!!