Vent Your Frustrations • Page 111

We ran late at work and my lead basically denied me my lunch. She told me “no i need you back at x time. We have patients” which was not even 10 min. So I didn’t clock out because it’s not legal. I went to the accounting lady since my manager was with a patient to tell her I’m going over my hours and I get my meal penalty pay and I thought i let her know. I came back in the building and my manager asked if i was upset (I guess my face isn’t good at hiding it) so I said yes. And if I took my break. I told her no I was told not to take it and I was needed back at x time. My lead straight up lies in front of our manager (she shakes her head like she didn’t just tell me no you have to be back). I’m going to confront her about this tomorrow. She’ll tell me how the manger lies about stuff. But yeah like no. My manager then told me to go on lunch. Either way I still get the penalty pay

 

My cat had explosive diarrhea all over the back of her legs and I'm so grossed out. No idea what she's walked on. The carpet is a tan color so there's like no way of knowing. Ugh. Had to hold her hips like a wheelbarrow while my fiance scrubbed her legs with wet paper towels, but her fur is still a slight yellow.

Her food addiction is hilarious though. She squirmed while I was holding her hips, so we put treats in a bowl and she freaking devoured them while I was still holding her without a care in the world.

 

Today has been an absolute awful day and I'm just exhausted. I woke up with I think a pinched nerve in my neck and had pain shooting from my neck to my finger tips. I was on call at work and of course had to work a full day. I forgot to set a timer and burnt my rice. Then I dropped my gauc and spilled the entire container on the floor. Then I'm trying to go to bed and apparently my smoke detector needs new batteries bc it is constantly chirping and driving me fucking crazy. But the thing is wired into the ceiling and I can't get it disconnected. And of course the battery compartment has a pin locking the thing in and I can't get the fucking pin out to change the battery. I have pliers and have been trying but it just broke the top almost completely off and the pin is still in the fucking thing!!!! Like why make it so difficult to change the fucking battery??? I'm cranky and tired and don't wanna deal with this shit!

 

Very long. Sorry.

I’ve had the worst week since 2014 when my Mom passed. My dad had a stroke. He’s alive, without physical deficits, except for his speech. My Dad was very well spoken in a professional career for his entire adulthood and the treasurer of the Fire district I am in (so in charge of all of the tax money brought in) I can understand him about 40% of the time now.

I live only 3 blocks from my childhood home, where he still lives. I haven’t slept in my own bed, in my own home, since 9/22. I was supposed to go to Mayo for my one year transplant follow up that I already had PTO set up for but obviously had to cancel.

My older sister lives about 20 minutes from here and my very pregnant younger sister lives in a different state. I have been at my Dads house every single day 20+ hours a day until yesterday when I went back to work. I sleep here. My sister that lives the closest to us has been there this past weekend during the day so I could finally go back to work. I need to earn my PTO back so I can reschedule my trip. The very first day that she was scheduled to be there during the day, she had THE NERVE to see if my husband could instead. (He was a huge help the first few days but he also needed to go back to work)

I’m so exhausted. He doesn’t need much besides food prep and help with meds but the stress is eating me alive. I feel like I’m going to get stuck doing EVERYTHING. And I’ll do it, I love my Dad. Every single day that I have off I’m scheduled to be with him for his home health visits.

 

If you don't mind me asking, how is your health? Its okay if thats too personal. I wonder and think about u sometimes. Hope you are okay. That's a lot of stress on top of your own battles you've been dealing with

 

Never too personal for me to speak on my health, always want to spread awareness because you never know what can happen. Thank you for asking!

My health is the best it’s ever been! All of my labs are good and I’ve never been better. My kidney is working like it did on day one! I celebrated the one year of my transplant on a plane to the Dominican 8/11 to (also) celebrate our friends wedding!

 

That is great news! Glad you're well. Congrats on your one year!

 

How do parents with school aged kids do it??? I've been helping out with transport and whoever creates school schedules is unhinged. Granted they also presume the kids live close by and in my case the kids are like a 30 minute commute but omg. It's a sibling group and some kids go to elementary and one goes to middle. They schools are right next to one another but one starts an HOUR earlier than the other so I drop that kid off first and then watch the other kids play on the playground for an hour wasting time before I can drop them off. Then today the middle school gets out TWO AND A HALF HOURS earlier before elementary. Wtf. So I either hang out with the kid for that long or drive half an hour to take him home, backtrack half an hour, wait for the other kids to get off, then drive another 30 minutes to take them where I just dropped the other sibling off and then backtrack again.

Unhinged. Idk how parents can even have jobs with this madness.

 

Honestly I’m really dreading the drop off/pick up situation when my kids get older. I start work early so not sure how it’s going to work. My wife is a teacher and recently changed school districts to a nicer one and it’s closer to home. So the point being my sons will go there as well. We shall see

 

We have 2 kids (7 and almost 5) that right now go to different schools and it's tough. We are very fortunate that my wife works from home the majority of the time and my job is flexible with schedules as long as I get my hours in. We also live in a neighborhood with a lot of kids so if a parent can't take care of a kids someone else in the neighborhood is usually available to watch for a couple hours if needed

 

My grandma had surgery and I was supposed to stay with her for 3 days, 4 max. I’m now staying for almost 2 weeks. It’s not my grandma’s fault and I’ll do it but I’m tired. I’m trying to work from home full time while taking care of her and her dog, do all the house work then the yard work. She lives back in the woods and has multiple acres and keeping up with everything is a nightmare. What’s annoying is my stepmom and aunt both live 2 mins up the road and are both retired so idk why no one can help me out!! She’s most likely going to need another more complex surgery too so can’t wait to have to do it all over again!!

 

Can you get a home care aid through home health? Scroll up a bit, I’m in a semi-similar situation with my Dad. You can find my post recently above. I’m the one that lives 3 blocks away but I also work full time (and then some) at a hospital and am still in charge of the fire depts ambulance.

I’m sure your grandma is extremely appreciative of you being there to help out! You’re doing a great thing for her but being a caretaker is absolutely exhausting. Hang in there. Make sure you take care of yourself too, you can’t help her if you get burnt out. Arrange a day or two that someone else can be there to help her and the doggo so you get a much needed mental/physical break!

 

Unfortunately I have no one who will actually step up and help out so it’s just on me to do it. Sometimes I can get someone to come help with the yard work or something but after a few hours they “need to leave.” Last time she had surgery I lived with her for 3 months and the only “break” I got was 1 day and I helped my mom move lol it’s very frustrating bc everyone has no problem putting their hands out for her money but nobody actually wants to help. If she ends up having major surgery again though I’m gonna have to figure something out bc I can’t be living here for months again. Just not happening! She’ll have to get an aide at least part of the time bc it’s too much for just me. I know she doesn’t want to go that route but if no one else will help out, that’s the only option.

 

Ugh. That's so frustrating, especially considering it can be so hard to find a therapist you're actually happy with. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

 

I guess the world wants me to be alone because somehow my fb dating profile got deleted saying “they couldn’t verify my video selfie”, when I had been verified several times before. I can’t find a way to have them review it and fix it. And it takes a week to make a new one and who knows if it will even let me make a new one

edit: I’m gonna had that I had 3 photos of showing full face yet there’s so many fakes and people wearing masks or covering their faces that don’t get removed

 

Healthcare in this country is such a fucking scam. Just got a letter letting me know my cholesterol medication is no longer covered. God forbid someone try to take care of themselves and prevent future health issues.

 

having difficulty making rent

 

imma have to skip some meals

 

My rent went up so I’m paying close to 1500 and I’m super underpaid. I’ve skipped meals. I don’t qualify for food stamps. I loos for “budget food” but even then groceries are out the ass

 

I'm really sorry you guys are going through that. If you want to post/send your Venmos, I'll try to send what I can.

 

I think my phone stopped working on me. I've changed to a charger that I know works and it keeps shutting off and on showing charging but 1% (because it died). I cant afford a new phone. I also dont want to lose all my photos and other data on there

 

When nobody helps me around the house or with the dog despite me working full time and using any spare time to be with the dog, clean, and try to see grandparents and friends. Where the fuck am I supposed to find the time? I’m getting burnt out and angry at not having support around the home despite living with three other people. I work morning shifts on saturdays and I don’t think I’ll see my grandparents tomorrow or Sunday bc I need a break even if they guilt me for not being the perfect granddaughter.

 

Omggg my grandma is frustrating me to NO END!!! She has something seriously wrong with her health. She's on oxygen 24/7. She had to be put in the hospital last month. A doctor came in and told her she has congestive heart failure. Her cardiologist came in and told her no she doesn't. She has pneumonia and "something" is wrong with her lungs. So I went with her to see her pulmonologist bc even though I'm not a dr or nurse, I am a medical transcriptionist so when they start speaking in medical terms, I can translate it to simpler terms for her. He showed me her chart from the hospital. Everything from her labs to her echocardiogram said it was her heart. He was so upset and told her I'm so sorry, I cannot help you and I strongly advise you find another cardiologist bc this is BS. So what does she do??? Call her cardiologist who says "No I don't know what chart he's reading but none of that is true." Bullshit. I literally SAW IT MYSELF!! I told my grandma you need to get a copy of your records and that will show you who is telling you the truth but she insists she can't do that. She will not listen to me or my brother. So she made an appointment with a different pulmonologist but can't get in until March. Fine. Go for it. but in the meantime since you have to wait all this time, go find another cardiologist!!! Or better yet, we are in Ohio with Cleveland Clinic literally an hour away with some of the best fucking doctors in the entire country, skip the BS and go there! I'm about to pull my hair out I'm so mad. The hospital she went to has an app where you can see your labs and shit so my brother's going to try and get her signed up for that and hopefully her results will be on there and she will finally listen to us!

 

I need a place to fuckin rant

I’ve been in Seattle for the past 2 weeks visiting my girlfriends family for Christmas. Today was our scheduled flight back home. Originally scheduled for 7:20a pst on Delta, we woke up at 3:30a to a notification saying our flight was cancelled. Delta only refunds me $100 out of the $1000 we paid. Normally, this wouldn’t be a big deal, but she’s in residency and does NOT have any more days she can take off this week. She has to be at the hospital by 5a est. So I try calling Delta, they tell me the wait time is 2+ hours. That’s not an option, so we search for new flights. We manage to get seats on an Alaska flight at 8:45a to Charleston, SC with a 3 hour layover and connection to DC on United. $1200 later, we’re on our flight and managed to get exit row seats. I’m tall so this helped. We do the flight, and then the next flight. We land in DC annnndddd they lost our bags. We’re looking for people to talk to. Nobody is at any of the help desks. Finally someone shows up. They lost 20+ bags. The kicker? Our bags never got on the flight from SEATTLE. They’re just sitting there in Seattle. 15 hours, $1200, no bags, I might have covid who knows. Truly a great day

 

I am very bad at like... mirroring movements. It's such a specific thing to be bad at but like my brain can't figure it out. One of the most blatant examples is when I was younger and getting a dental xray and they used to put a heavy apron thing over you and she was showing me how to cross my arms to do it and I could not figure it out and it was so simple. It was a huge struggle when I took a sign language class as well. I have a much easier time when the person is next to me showing me rather than in front of me. It continues to be a struggle when I try to learn pilates or Barre type workouts via video. I don't understand what they're telling me to do and I struggle to mirror the movement. People always say try X person on YouTube and I still struggle. It's so rare that I actually find someone who does it in a way I can understand but it's so satisfying when it happens. Idk if there's a term for it but I feel like it contributes to like 75% of my phyiscal awkwardness.