“I want no one in my home” is such a conservative-ass mindset to me. It’s different if you don’t have the, like, space and general capacity (unfortunately the case for me). But, if you would be able and just don’t like any human beings enough… that’s weird, imo, lol.
Idk I think it's okay for your home to be your personal/private space. Some people enjoy hosting, some don't. It would be a little strange to completely ban your good friends or family from ever stepping inside but not wanting to host company seems fine to me.
There are some brief times where you might want people in your house or to be in theirs, but staying the night or having a party is the wrong way. Go to a bar or restaurant to hang out and a hotel to sleep in.
I can't find an appropriate gif to illustrate the joke I'm trying to make by quoting this. I regret this.
I seldom have people over and honestly the main hindrance is wanting to avoid others seeing how I live. I grew up with a mother who was very much into keeping up appearances and strict about cleanliness, so although I know most people wouldn’t be judgmental about my apartment, that sense of shame is a hell of a thing to overcome
Best thing about having people over is you have to clean first then afterwards you have a clean apartment.
My mom never wanted people over because of the house looking bad to her. Like, my older brother was dating his now wife for I think 4 or 5 yrs before getting engaged, and she didn’t let her come over until they were engaged. And even then, I remember mom strategically having the living room light off so she would only see the kitchen, lol. I’m so shameless with my car usually being a mess. I only care insofar as, if I’m giving someone a ride without planning to, I feel bad throwing the passenger side trash into the backseat (because I don’t like being inconvenient). Maybe I’ll care more if someday I get a car that isn’t well worn by the time I get it.
Saying you don’t want people in your house is a conservative mindset is such a reach. I can be very outgoing and extroverted but when I want to be alone in my own home I want to be alone. It is my comfort zone. Other people can do whatever they want. Such a weird ass comment. I do have friends and family over I just prefer to go to other’s peoples houses because then I can leave when I want.
I have a friend who constantly invites people over because he can be bothered going further than 10km from his house. We’ll go over and he’ll complain about how his wife made him go to dinner with other friends at a restaurant
Are you deliberately trying to bait me into screenshotting the times your wife and her friends went to karaoke and drag and you stayed home?
This is correct. It isn't about shutting people out. I enjoy being with people at work and at restaurants or concerts or anything else.