When I was like 24, so an "adult", I was with the girl for the first time and I figured since we were "adults" she would just swallow it as the previous ones did, so as I was about to finish I told her I was, she took it out of her mouth and it went everywhere, face, hair, bed. Cringe worthy stuff.
^^^^lol yikes. That'd be awkward as fuck. I've just always felt the need to at least warn the girl, even on some of my 'one night stand' hook ups. I've gotten a surprising amount of one night stand blowjobs without sex back in my single days. Lucky enough that they all kept going when I warned them it was about to happen.
never met someone who doesn't swallow (at least within my age group). it's sort of the norm now I guess. Either way I always give warning.
Every girl I have been with has swallowed, but I’ve only been with like one or two who were actually passionate about facials, the rest of would accept them on occasion. Definitely more of a porn thing. My problem is that when I cum I just wanna cum everywhere! Mouth, face, on the booty, in the booty, you name it!!! I can never make up my mind lol.
I can think of 3 who didn't in my life, and two of them had never given head before being with me, so that was pretty understandable. The 3rd was a hook up who def didn't seem against it but I think she was just not really down to do that with a guy she had just met earlier that day.
I've literally never considered doing anything except swallowing haha Or really wherever the guy wants. I don't really care hah unless we're about to go somewhere or something like don't do it on my face or hair other than that we good.
every girl I been with has swallowed but I feel almost problematic saying/assuming that so I figure if I ever did cross a situation where she didn't id just try and be understanding..... I mean I wouldn't want to but I'm a straight male so.... idk lol. but fingers crossed been with my girl 7 years almost, that really isn't a concern anymore..... bigger life and co-financial concerns now lol.
Simple solution is to just let them know you're getting near and let them decide what they're going to do with it. Most women I've been with have just responded with an affirmative noise or made some sarcastic comment about that being the point, before carrying on. Weirdly, I did learn from a girl who was quite hesitant about it that the experience can differ quite wildly. She wasn't too sure about taking it in her mouth, because she'd done it before and the result had been nasty in some way (not sure what? Bad tasting? Lumpy? Who knows), but then decided to give it a go with me anyway. Luckily for me, she quite enjoyed it and was really quite forthcoming with such things from that point on. That being said, I've had some pretty funny/embarrassing incidents too.
this swallowing convo made me think about the whole "lemme get you a towel" situation if you cum on the person and I been with my girl 7 years but whenever shes laying there with some on her tummy or behind or whatever we both have that look at each other after that while this was great she looks silly with her arms up at her side leaning on her elbows, hands hanging like she don't wanna touch it lmao. she called her belly button a "reservoir" last time lmfao, thank god we both have a good sense of humor cus I couldn't imagine being SUPER socially awkward or just not having the same chemistry in a situation like that lol.
warm water causes semen to congeal i believe. cold water cleans up easier. baby/sanitary wipes also work well.
There was an "/explainlikeimfive" a few days ago that was about this. Something about the protein, calcium, etc. in semen congeal in hot water. But yeah, according to that, use cold water to clean up. Also, never directly tasted - but I've had a few girlfriends try to kiss me afterwards. I'd give them a peck out of respect, but never kissed with tongue.
Today my friend/coworker told me that in a convo with her brother (who was my first ever boyfriend in high school) he revealed to her that he still finds me "like, soo attractive" (like to the point that he got all flustered when I saw him the other day) My question to y'all: how do I initiate a casual fwb situation here? Some other relevant info: -after dating in high school we stayed good friends, had a couple drunk makeouts/snuggles but nothing more than that -he kinda recently (in march I think) broke up with his gf of like 3yrs I'm very much Not Smooth so any help is appreciated
message him or text him first and strike up a convo about seeing him the other day, ask if he wants to meet up to grab a drink and catch up, feel out how he is feeling after the break up ("i heard you guys broke up back in march, how are you doing?"), then ask if he's been trying to date ("so, have you been trying to get back out there and date again or are you still figuring out what you're looking for?"), if you feel like he'd be up for a fwb based on his answers invite him back to your place, initiate the sex let him know you want to be fwb if he does too. easy peasy