The Parenting Thread • Page 9

No idea what that means, wonder why it doesn't say Chorus.

 

It's just the same code I've had for years, I didn't wanna go through the process of signing up for a new one, so I just kept it. It just lets Amazon know you came from this website and if you then buy something a small % goes back to the site you found the product from.

 

Gotcha! That's cool, I never knew that was a thing!

 

Due Oct. 6 with my first, a girl. Scared! They say girls are "cuter but harder"..........

 

Congrats and good luck!

 

Thanks. :) It should be an adventure that's for sure!

 

No problems with pregnancy so far right?

Our little guy just turned 7 months so it's all pretty fresh on my mind haha. Unfortunately my wife had Gestational Diabetes throughout the pregnancy so it made things super difficult. Hopeful for smooth sailing from here on out for you.

 

No problems so far. I'm 17 1/2 weeks and I have another appt at 18 weeks in a few days. I had to switch doctors due to moving so this will be my first appt. with a new OB. Hopefully I like her as much as my last. Eek.

Ugh, my cousin had that, sorry to hear and glad she got through it okay! I'm afraid of something like that coming up. I've always had thyroid issues so I have to stay regulated on those meds very closely.

 

Congratulations!

 

Thank you. :) It was super unexpected so >.<!

 

Haha, as was mine. But she's 13 months now and I wouldn't change a thing.

 

Mine was definitely planned. Got married in Oct, started trying in December, and she was pregnant in February. We were shocked how fast it took because she was on birth control up until October/November.

 

Unfortunately I am in the shitty situation of basically doing it alone (I had broken up with the guy a month before I even found out...). I mean, my parents are amazing and I do have a current bf but he lives far due to me having to move to be closer to my mom for childcare. SO, basically alone. And that's the one thing I have to go off of -- all parents say they wouldn't change a thing, no matter how hard it is/was.

 

I'm sorry to hear that, I can't imagine doing it alone, but hopefully your mom is able to help out a bunch. We've been extremely lucky in that we live one town away from both of our families, so we haven't had to pay for daycare at all. Best wishes for you and the little one, and everyone in this thread is here for you if you have any questions.

 

Our's wasn't necessarily planned but we were definitely trying. My wife has PCOS so it wasn't a definite thing that we'd even get pregnant, we had to take prescription drugs. They actually worked quicker than I was expecting and I was a bit surprised they even worked at all.

There are definitely things i would change because alot of shit went down between when we got pregnant and now and I wouldn't wish it on anybody honestly. Also, I know alot of people say that their child is PERFECT or whatnot but i don't agree with that sentiment. I love my child unconditionally but it was a rough few months at the beginning and he's anything but easy now but he's definitely better. Maybe i'm just an asshole idk, i don't think i am, but what do I know.

Sorry to hear that you are having to go through that bullshit @yourfaveweapon, I hope that your current bf is supportive and that the child's father steps up and does the right thing.

 

To be fair, I would change a thing -- I would've waited a few more years haha, but it's weird to imagine life now without her.

 

How old are you guys? I'm 29, timing was right for me, any longer and I feel like I'd miss out - when I'm 50 he'll be 20, that's crazy to me.

 

Just turned 27 in January, the wife turned 29 in February. She just said she wanted our 1st before she turned 30 and wants to be done by 35.

 

Gotcha. Yeah I also have PCOS along with the hypothyroidism. I'm like a mess, haha, part of the reason I really wasn't expecting anything. I was also on the pill! Apparently this kid just needs to be in the world because it's pretty much against all odds. I had just met with a doctor a month prior who was outlining how difficult it would ever be for me to conceive and was telling me I'd never get pregnant naturally and would need the meds... Talk about a shock to wake up puking one day after those kinds of things being in your head!

Glad the drugs worked for you guys though, because I was always nervous about conceiving with the PCOS. It's a struggle for sure.

Yeah, the dad pretty much told me to have an abortion or he would kill himself (kind of the reason I broke up with him, realized the instability there...) and all this crap so I am at the point of no contact. And that's how I want it to stay. He's just not someone I want in either of our lives.

 

And oh yeah, I'm 27.

 

I'm 24, so I definitely could have waited another few years, but we've been managing so far.

 

Glad to hear another story similar to ours, you have no idea how happy that makes me feel. It's one of those things that you get so tired of everybody asking about children and such and neither of us are the type of people where we want anybody to feel sorry for us because we are both incredibly independent by nature. When the day actually came that we WERE pregnant not only was it a shock but it was a little terrifying because you start worrying about if the child is even gonna make it the full 9 month gestation period and what not ya know? I didn't want to get my hopes up too much because I didn't want to be devastated if/when something did happen. That's what was tough for us, there was alot of stress that went into this pregnancy essentially from the get go and things just kept happening one after another that we're glad for him to be here. Another thing that I think i've kinda said too is I didn't really have much expectations for when he actually arrived and figured I would just "wing it" but after talking to people at work and just others in general about how things would be when he arrives it just really makes you think. I wish that he wasn't/isn't as difficult as he has been from the get-go but nothing I can really do about it, basically just do our best to keep him alive and hope things get better "eventually.

I'll stop rambling now.

I truly hope the best for you these next 5 months! You'll have to keep us updated on progress for everything(as much as you want to share that is, of course).

 

I know how you feel. So far I do not have any reason to believe it won't go as planned without complications but you never know. Every appointment I'm kinda nervous that I'll get bad news, even though I have no reason to be really, except my pre-existing conditions. I know what you mean about not getting your hopes up too high. Sorry to hear it's been difficult. I hope things DO get better eventually! :( I will def give updates!

 

Thanks! Things have definitely gotten WAY better than they have been in the past year or so, I just feel like I have a different perspective on things it seems since things with us have not been "normal" or the status quo as others have seemed to be so thought people might want to be in on my side of things a bit hahaha.

I'm surprised they already did gender confirmation for you, they wouldn't tell us until at least 20 weeks. Have any ideas for names picked out?

 

That's good to hear. I know all about not feeling "normal" with all of this/my relationship status. People keep asking me, "Are you EXCITED?" and I just kind of cringe and go, "Sort of? I mean, it's all wrong." Which then they go on to explain that it really doesn't matter the circumstances and children are a blessing, yadda yadda, but I still feel weird. I never expected my life to not go the way things are "supposed to". Oh well.

Yeah, I wasn't sure she'd be able to see anything but the tech was able to see at 15 wks. She said she wouldn't tell me if she wasn't sure so I trust her. She said I have clear labia lines on my ultrasound, so...yay? I will probably get another confirmation when I go later this week, just to be sure. For a girl I have the name Audrey Jean picked out. :)