We always knew we wanted more than one. If anything having two was more of a “we are done at 2” thing bc we both had always said we’d like more than that prior to having our second
I have one sibling and my wife has three siblings, I've always just wanted two kids and she had originally wanted three. After we had our first kid, we both decided that we wanted two and then done. Didn't want one, because we wanted our son to have a sibling/friend and didn't want more than two so we wouldn't be outnumbered.
We had always talked about wanting three (I grew up in a house of three siblings and she grew up in a house of four). Then we had our second and my wife's postpartum was just so bad after both births that we decided we were good with two.
My wife and I never wanted kids at all tbh. Our first was an accident. Shortly after we had one, we decided we wanted a second and were hoping for them to be two years apart. That didn't work out, but we had our second nearly exactly three years apart and then we decided we were done and we agreed for me to get the ole' snip.
It's not all that bad. Felt like a quick pull at one point, but no real pain. Didn't even take any medication for it. Just do not look down after it's all done. There's a lot of blood lost. I was walking up and down stairs the next day no issues. Recommend having three bags of frozen peas going to continue a nice 30 min switch out to assist with swelling/any post pain. And a good bottle of whiskey.
My vasectomy took hours but I can't imagine how much worse my divorce would have been with even more kids.
I got it done…two years ago? No scalpel procedure way - it wasn’t bad what so ever. Didn’t have to ice afterwards and got a Detroit style Big Mac pizza afterwards
A bit of a unique situation here, as my spouse is 11 years older than I am and so we have two children from her previous relationship. They were 9 and 12 when we got married. My wife was 35 when we tied the knot, so we knew we wanted kids, but as to how many, we were not decided. We had a rough path post-birth with food allergies and such after having our son, but ended up having another child 3 years later. If navigating the maze that was food allergies in rural midwest was less of a fucking nightmare, we may have been more enthusiastic about attempting for 3+... ah well. the two older ones and two littles are great.
Basically it was self-inflicted, low glucose levels at the time which made the experience worse. So I wouldn't count it against the process itself
My two month old has been sleeping a little over seven hours every day this week. It’s a game changer waking up when my alarm goes off and not in the middle of the night. Today was an exception, but she did a huge poop and that would wake me up too.