The Parenting Thread • Page 195

Every now and then we contemplate a 5th but thankfully my wife got her tubes tied lol

 

Any couple you talk to has a different plan/outlook.

No right or wrong way to look at it.

I know for my wife and I, after we had our first (which was unplanned) we wanted to have our second within 18-months to two years. Life had other plans as my wife had several miscarriages within our desired timeframe and instead our second was born nearly exactly three years apart. Still not too much separation in age, which was/is nice.

Between my wife’s very difficult pregnancies and the several miscarriages, we agreed shortly after our second was born that we were done.

And then I got the ole snip seven years ago to make sure of it - which eliminated either of us changing our mind at a later date.

 

My daughter is in first grade and while she’s lost a lot of that toddler fat cheek, toddler talk cuteness she is still so cute and innocent. She loves these Disney junior shows like team spidey and I felt so many feelings when some kid told her they were for babies and she asked me why he said that. I’m going to miss it so much when she grows up just a bit more.

 

homeboy has his first real cold and i feel so bad. it’s mostly just congestion, but he’s also hardcore teething with his top two teeth, so overall he’s just kind of miserable.

 

Aw, the poor kiddo. I'm sure you've tried all these things, but I used to care for my niece and she found so much relief with steam. Like we would literally turn on a hot shower and sit in the bathroom for a few moments. (not in the shower, just in the room). Something to consider! xxx

 

This reminds me that I wanted to ask parents of that 5-6 year old range here....

So when we were growing up, there was sort of a "shared culture" of TV shows that most kids had seen or were aware of because we only had liek 3 channels that played that stuff between Nick, Disney, and CartoonNetwork.

What are the shows that a lot of 5-6 year olds are watching these days? My son turned 6 in June and is also in first grade and he's still watching some of those "on the cusp" shows in that he might be getting a little old for them soon (Bluey, Spidey and his Amazing Friends, etc)...but I honestly have no idea what "The kids" that age are watching these days once they "grow out" of those shows. So anyone with any knowledge...what types of shows are a lot of kids his age watching that I can maybe introduce to him so he can talk about them with his friends when playing and what not?

We loves some of the stuff we grew up on like Rugrats, but obviously not every parent is showing their kids those shows these days lol

 

A fifth?! Lord have mercy for you Colby lol

 

Hello! New father here! Expect some newbie questions incoming soon… no doubt I will have scrolled through all 200 pages by the end of the week!!!

My newborn son was in neonatal intensive & special care for 2 weeks when he was born just there. Definitely the toughest thing I’ve faced in my life. Thankfully, we are all home now.

The initial move from Maternity unit to Neonatal was probably the toughest part. They took him away and said they would take me through to the ward he was on once he was set up. This was maybe 10-15mins. I go through to the ward, there are 6 babies, 3 on each side. 1 nurse to 2 babies. He is in an incubator with all sorts of wires and plugs on him. It hit me like a ton of bricks. It was also the fear of how do I brace my partner to see her baby like this, bearing in mind she was still in a ward with other mothers and there children, and she was without hers.

The consultant spoke to me and said what they are checking for but it might as well have went in and out my ears. After the consultant left, I got tapped by a nurse saying they need to clear the ward as they will be operating on one of the babies ASAP. At this point I dont know what is wrong with my son, and of course this ward clearout sent me off the worry deep end.

As much as the prior two paragraphs are a fair bit dramatic, i tried to look through the lense of "this is the best place for him right now". I tried to embrace all the support from the neonatal care. The hospital staff from auxiliaries to consultants were fantastic. The kindness of folk is actually probably where i cried the most. The local childrens charity came round with a book for me to read to him and said "this was a boy who was here's favourite book". I burst into tears and i think the lady looked mortified she had set me off!!! We had an amazing young doctor in our final few days. When he gave me the discharge letter i said to him i could have picked him up and gave him one of those hugs you spin someone around with.

I have a lot to unpack from the experience and happy to share. From laughter to tears. More importantly, if anyone on here finds themselves in a similar situation... i am all ears to listen to you.

 

Yeah 5 would be kinda a lot. Our 4th is currently potty training and has been for going on 3 months. I’m very glad he’s the final time we have to do this.

also it’s been very interesting seeing people react when you tell them you have 4 kids. It’s like 3 kids is fine but still kinda a lot but 4?! You may as well be running a daycare or something

 

Took the kiddo to his very first concert last night! Blink 182 and Alkaline Trio. Unfortunately we missed Drug Church. He had a blast, as did I!

 

I swear to god if I hear “6-7!” one more time I’m going to scream.

 

One kid gang. 4 almost 5. She’s so extroverted it’s insane. She’s just like me as a kid. Talking to everyone, flight of ideas 24/7. Def one and done. I don’t have the bandwidth for 2 or more. It was planned but we were like “def want a kid but want to try it and see how it goes”. I think we got the perfect kid, so don’t want to screw it up lol

 

Can’t believe this dude turned 10 today. What is time??!

 

I really need to start using this forum more often...I keep forgetting about it. I'm a step parent so I'm still learning. When I take them out on my own, what do I do if one child is throwing a trantum and the other is perfectly fine?

 

Leave the bad one behind

 

lol

 

What huh?

 

I think after this school year, I’m going to move us into Massachusetts. I just don’t trust the NH state government and school system as my son gets older. I’ve ran it by lil dude and he’s cool with it, but still a little apprehensive. Could be the fear. I just think he’ll be set up for a better future in Mass. Anyone else deal with moving schools or living in MA?

 

We transferred schools for our 3 this year and it’s been amazing! They’ve all been thriving and teachers have been fantastic.

they were all very nervous at first but quickly got comfortable with it. I’m in Texas so take that with a grain of salt lol

 

Thank you for the input! Very reassuring, despite the Texasness of it all :p

 

Lived in MA my whole life. Haven’t dealt with the school systems much as a parent, but they’re by and large mostly good. It’s more expensive here for sure, but there is a trade off where the state government isn’t exactly begging to turn fascist lol

 

Would love to move out of Texas

 

I’ve lived here my whole life and bought into the “never want to leave” mentality for so long but I’m so tired of this whole ass states political climate and that’s even living in one of the most Blue areas

 

Hit me up if anyone needs help deciding where in California to move

 

First week back at work after paternity leave with the newborn. Tough eh!