The Parenting Thread • Page 185

we're looking to move into a house in a few months and whenever we find a place that looks interesting, my wife checks to see if there are any registered sex offenders nearby and we have yet to find a house that isn't within like a street or two of an offender. So that's not been great

 

Baby sister is here!

 

Congrats!

 

Congrats!!

 

Just here to vent about my sons dad who is making me feel like a crazy person for wanting to talk to/vet his new live-in girlfriend before my son goes to spend spring break with him. I’d kinda like to know who this other adult is in the house with him, fuck me right?

 

Uh yeah, totally reasonable. I think our divorce decree has something about significant others and talking with them before they spend overnights. I think it was standard language too. But we’ve always done a meet up after 6 months with someone or earlier when they were going to spend time with the child

 

Tremendously reasonable.

 

THANK YOU

 

Norovirus sucks

 

On Saturday I did end up talking to my ex’s girlfriend and she was a total sweetheart, very understanding, wanted to help in any way but also didn’t want to overstep at all. I feel much better about his trip but still nervous and pissed at my ex for his bullshit control issues. This is also my sons first time flying solo so that’s very nerve wracking! Anywayzzz just thought I’d update you fine folks!

 

That’s awesome to hear

 

yeah at least she doesn't suck

 

Yeaaaah I would be a wreck regardless knowing my child was flying alone for the first time. You’re handling it well

 

You’re giving me way too much credit! But JetBlue has been great helping with the unaccompanied minor process, and I’ll be able to get a pass to go with him to the gate, same with his dad when he lands. But still. Thankfully this isn’t my son’s first time flying and he actually enjoys it, unlike me haha.

 

I never know if something like this is something people are doing IRL on a large scale or just some louder people online

 

I haven't gotten there yet but I feel like a hug...shouldn't be an obligation to someone? It seems perfectly reasonable to me (and a great lesson) for adults to ask a child for permission to hug them before doing so

that being said, i have borderline no interest in talking or reading about other parenting opinions online outside of this thread because there is a total inability to be normal about it, lol

 

Yeah this is where I land on it. When the hugging feels like an obligation and then the child is guilted into it out of societal or cultural pressure in place of their bodily autonomy, it’s wrong. They can be polite without giving that up. Also, if a kid doesn’t want to hug you, it’s not a personal attack on you…it’s not that serious

 

Yeah plus like the way women get asked to hug can be creepy so I don’t really like the idea of saying hugging is part of social obligations at all

 

my boy is 4 months old today ❤️

 

happy boiii

 

This kid has an almost unhealthy fixation on basketball. We go to the park and he doesn’t want to swing or slide, just wants to roll around a full-sized ball, or sit and watch dudes play and try to get run with them. He’s been absolutely locked in on the playoffs at home when I have the games on.

It’s my favorite sport so it makes me happy but he’s still noticeably small for his age and I’m 6’5”, so I’m hoping he doesn’t grow up to resent me for not passing down my ball traits

 

sick shot

 

he knows ball

 

ball is life

 

Went out and got my son a couple books for the trip, a new bathing suit, and we’re mostly all packed up. We leave for the airport around 4am tomorrow so I’ll be a nervous wreck until he lands safely