The Parenting Thread • Page 152

We didn't do sleep training and my son is still a terror at night at 3.

The main reason though is that because he's adopted, his brain is already processing an abandonment when he left his birth mom and came to be with us, even though that happened when he was discharged from the hospital. So since his brain was processing abandonment at such a young age, it's possible it could really incite a thought pattern of "mommy and daddy abandoned me again" if we tried the whole sleep training thing. It's impossible to know exactly what's happening in his little brain, but I believe that, because he is obsessed with when we come and go, and often needs reassuring of "mommy and daddy always come back" and gets real excited when we pick him up from preschool or even just when one of us comes back from running to the store real quick.

Could also be that my wife is a SAHM and I work from home, so he's used to being around us all the time.

We knew things would be different because he's adopted, and this is just one of the things we choose to do different because of it. A kid that sleeps through the night sure sounds great though.

 

Yeah we are attempting a "watch on the monitor and you can talk and make sure we're still there" and it... works, but he takes forever to go to sleep. There also might be some other health stuff to help explain how bad he is at sleeping. We went to the pediatrician yesterday and they said his tonsils already look somewhat enlarged, and that combined with him already snoring could indicate that his breathing at night is keeping him from resting very well. We'll probably take him to the ENT soon to get his adenoids/tonsils checked out.

 

I don't know the circumstances surrounding your adoption, but good on you and your wife. I have such a huge admiration for people who do that.

 

Thanks friend. He's done as much for me as I've done for him.

 

As a kid that was adopted yeah that’s awesome.

 

this just happened to me

 

Mine looks like she’s gonna eat your soul

 

That's amazing hahah

 

This is also the child who refuses to speak to her teachers at school AND her default setting is to cause the absolute most chaos possible.

 

Anyone got any tips for first time flying with a baby? Milo’s gonna be 18 months

 

we flew when holly was about eight months, which i think could in some ways be better and some ways worse than what you’re gonna have. everything in the airport itself is relatively easy. megan wore holly in our bjorn and she slept most of the flight. there was some fussiness on the way back but more just general whining than flight specific

the absolute worst part was this kid had one of her worst dookies ever like five minutes after takeoff and then we entered turbulence and couldn’t get up the rest of the flight so she slept like a rock with a rank diaper on for an hour

 

God that sounds terrible. How long was your flight? We’re doing Boston to Florida so it’s about 3 hours.

 

Have lots of activities and snacks prepared, or even a new toy to bring out if he gets really fussy or restless. Don’t be afraid to walk with him down the aisles to get out some energy. iPads are great too in a pinch if you are okay with him watching things.

Time a snack or use a pacifier during takeoff/landing to help with the ear pressure.

 

My wife was adopted at birth and I gotta say this past year in finding her biological siblings has been the absolutely craziest story and experience that I’ve been a part of.

 

My bio parents must be some of the only off the grid people left. I have tried but haven’t been able to track them down

 

Sorry to hear that. I imagine how frustrating and emotionally taxing it is to open all that up and not get anywhere with it.

 

If you are bringing a car seat, ask the gate agent if one person can go on with the families and set it up, and the other comes down with the baby towards the end. That way the baby goes in and ideally you guys taxi out soon after, rather than having the baby wait through everyone else boarding in the chair. Most gate agents will allow it, especially if you have a stroller too.

Download videos to watch offline. Hopefully he enjoys takeoff, I know Jameson did. Hopefully the flight is timed around his normal naptime, that will help!

The airport stuff is generally pretty easy, if you’re flying out of KBOS, they may even have the service outside that will take your bags right from your car, if you are parking your own car, and have extra time beforehand to swing by departures and drop your partner and Milo off with the bags, while you park. That’s what we did in Orlando when we left!

If your partner is still nursing, about of airports have little pods that are completely private for nursing/pumping as well!

 

Both of my kids have girlfriends now

 

Whoof

 

yeah that's too advanced for this thread

 

They went from too young for Chorus.fm to too mature for Chorus.fm

 

My son's in third grade, and some of his friends have girlfriends.

It's weird to think about.

 

I had a girlfriend for like a month in third grade. Her friend broke us up by telling her I said she was ugly. I'll never forgive her friend.

 

Had my first girlfriend in fifth grade. We follow each other on Insta and I still have a little crush. Don't tell my wife.

 

I had a girlfriend in 1st grade and she broke my heart but I’m over it