The Parenting Thread • Page 116

Also very appropriate 25K post

 

so I'm starting a new job and this will be my first time doing so with a kid. any advice for signing up for insurance plans or things to look out for?

 

get ready to pay like 4x the amount!

 

100%. Thankfully after like 2 kids it doesn't increase for me but still

 

Did anyone else in here test positive for something called Galactosemi?

 

Okay skip that question since I have a doctors appointment about it. New one lol

Anyone here interview for a job during the pregnancy phase and if you were, did you tell the perspective employer?

 

I came close. I was job hunting and interviewing from August until about November when my wife was due in January. I stopped looking in November and just held off until the baby was born because I didn't want to run into issues with benefits and/or explain how I needed to leave for a month after they hire me lol

 

I was laid off the day after we found out we were pregnant with our first. I really had no choice while job hunting, thankfully it's worked out well

 

Wife is 11 weeks pregnant and I’m in the final round of interviews in a couple places. I feel like I’m morally okay not telling them until we hit the offer phase if we get there and just wrapping it up as part of the negotiation but she thinks I should casually mention it during the next interview.

 

No!! I wouldn’t even tell them until after you get hired

 

Wait, why wouldn’t you mention it?

 

I mean I suppose if you get an offer and then want to negotiate a certain amount of time off, but I would just take a look at the parental leave policy first.

 

Idk I know they technically can’t factor it into whether they hire me or not but I can see plenty of places not wanting to hire someone who is gonna be taking some extended leave pretty early on.

 

(That’s why I said wait to mention it)

 

I definitely would not mention it until your onboarding is finalized.

 

I feel like if they don't want you because you're going to take time off for birth of a child than it's not somewhere I'd want to work to begin with and would want to know that ahead of time.

Maybe that's me though

 

I went through this at one point for a job I eventually turned down. I didnt necessarily go out of my way to tell them, but when they'd ask about my life outside of work i'd casually mention my wife was x amount of weeks pregnant. offered some good dialogue with the people I was meeting with and what not.

 

Eh, I don't know. I don't think that is something that I'd go out of my way to not mention. If they like you, it likely won't matter about a short-team leave of absence. I mean, I haven't interviewed for a job in 7+ years, but I think if they asked something like 'tell me about yourself' that's probably one of the first things I would have mentioned. Otherwise, it makes it sound like you're hiding a family, haha. I think it'd look worse if you wait until the end to bring it up. They might think...'well what else is the candidate not telling us?

If you mention you have a baby on the way, they'll probably assume you'd need to take a leave and wouldn't make a big deal about it, seeing as...most people have kids and most businesses offer leave.

I don't know. I wouldn't overthink it, personally.

 

I get this but wouldn't YOU want to be at a job that appreciates the family aspect? I could see a retaliatory scenario and holding it against you for not being upfront from the get go, but that's just my opinion obviously.

I've definitely been in a scenario before I had kids that I would be made to feel bad for taking time off and I imagine it wouldn't have been better if I happen to have had a kid in that time as well

 

I def do but I’m also looking at a 40% raise and the chance to finally buy a house for this kid if I get this job so I’m very hesitant to risk it at all haha

 

Personally I prefer a company that truly is "family oriented" and gives a good work life balance, not one that just says it to get people "in the door"

 

This is my biggest problem haha. I’ll prob just slip it in casually and move on.

 

Understandable mindset for sure. Weird trying to preemptively look out for a growing family and plan accordingly.

Best of luck!!

 

My wife found out she was pregnant right before she interviewed for her current job. She waited until after she got the offer/started before saying anything. Luckily they didn't care and 6 months after starting she took 3 months off

 

I would never tell a potential employer anything personal about me that could factor in their decision.