The Parenting Thread • Page 115

Was definitely getting frustrated at times before we went the pantless route. Still a work in progress now. He’s gone no2 twice now in his potty. So we’re content at the moment. Apparently yesterday though he had two accidents and one of them was on our leather couch lol

 

A couple nights ago when I put my daughter down for bed, she was perfectly rotated 90 degrees when I went to get her later in the night for feeding. Like literally just vertical to horizontal. She barely moves when we put her down for floor time and neither my wife or myself got up to move her before that.

So yeah a ghost was definitely in our room

 

Not sure if it’s the case everywhere but there’s a nasty stomach bug going around the school and made it’s way into our house :/ loaded up on pedialyte and crackers. Hope y’all can avoid it, it’s a bad one.

 

We had it about a month ago. It was super rough.

 

Potty training is tough. If your kid isn't ready, then they aren't ready. We tried at 2.5, didn't go well, and tried again 3 months later and it went great.

 

Yea we definitely weren’t trying to force it on him and were keeping it lax. Though with the other baby now we are gonna sign him up for pre school soon so wanted him to be ready. We’ve also been rewarding him with jelly beans lol

 

Yeeeeeeep. My daughter caught it Friday and it was a rough few days. I caught it after her and now, as of last night, my son has it. Started moving around my daughter’s daycare literally the week after the mask mandate was lifted. Cool stuff. We haven’t gotten any kind of flu in the last two years until now.

 

My son either had that stomach bug, or food posioning, less than 48 hours before we were to get on a flight to Florida. I am thinking the latter, simply because no one else in the house got sick. That said, he had a high fever, and I don't think food poisoning typically brings a high fever. So who knows?

 

My daughter developed the stomach bug last week hours after eating a large amount of cotton candy ice cream. The results were catastrophic.

 

Yeah this was my first child stomach bug experience and I was not ready for the amount of constant cleaning and work it would require. I have her by myself so it was an all night cycle of throw up, clean up the child and comfort her, then spend the next hour cleaning carpet and laundry and then do it all over again. Went on for 3 nights and by the end of it I was completely drained. And then I caught it myself for 24 hours. No idea what I would have done if we had it at the same time though

 

Ugh, yikes. Sorry...that's terrible.

 

Little Dude made his arrival today as planned

 

Congrats!

 

Congrats!

 

Lately, I’ve had primary custody of my daughter. Not gonna air the dirty laundry in a public forum about why but basically, her mother had been negligent and violated our parenting/custody agreement when the ink has barely dried. It’s been crazy frustrating and stressful to deal with this situation, I’m relieved my daughter is in better hands being with me but she’s starting to put things together about what’s going on and she’s been lashing out and misbehaving trying to deal with this. I’ve been pretty good about explaining things so far without bringing up the bad parts but I’m afraid it’s not gonna cut it after a point and I don’t know what to do. I want to be honest with her but she’s still too young to understand and I don’t want to make this harder then it already is. It’s totally a losing battle.

 

ugh, I’m sorry, that sounds really hard. hoping things turn around for the better, but your daughter is fortunate to have you and you keeping your head on straight and doing what’s best for her and being honest when you can will make a world of difference.

 

My daughter just threw up again about 40 minutes ago after complaining her stomach hurts. She’s still feeling bad. Can’t believe we’re doing this again already :(

 

My daughter hasn’t been down with stomach bugs *knocks on wood rapidly* but I know it’s coming some day.

 

Lately my son has been getting super worked up (we think he has like severe ADHD and are getting him checked, but not until May with wait times) and he just goes into these episodes where he's being "silly", destructive, and inappropriate (running around naked etc) and there's like no way to get through to him. You can threaten with consequences (no TV, no dessert etc) and it does nothing, like he doesn't even process it mentally. You can separate yourself but he finds you to keep riling you up. It's like the only thing that works is you losing your temper and raising your voice or like forcing him physically to sit with you or something. After every episode where I lose my cool I feel like a failure, compare myself to every stereotypical alcoholic dad in every movie/book, and get lost in a depression where I dwell on how I have failed my children for 3-4 days. It's awful and defeating.

Raising kids is hard.

 

I’m sorry to hear that and I’m sure you guys are handling it as well as you can be. I definitely feel like a bad dad sometimes when my son is misbehaving and how I react. It’s not often but occasionally I’m like “yeah could’ve handled that better”.

 

i know it's difficult but try not to beat yourself up, we're all human, we all have emotions. if you feel like you could have handled things better then sit him down after the episode is over and just apologize; that way he learns it's okay to have bad moments and we just need to take responsibility and apologize. i promise you're not a failure.

 

Appreciate it, yeah I think as parents it's easy to put expectations of perfection on ourselves that just isn't possible. I dunno, been feeling it lately I guess haha.

Thanks! I do make it a point to sit him down and apologize if I feel I over reacted etc. which I think is important just like you said. Showing that even parents are humans with big emotions and so on. Sometimes the weight of being responsible for another life is a lot haha. Appreciate it!

 

Kudos to this conversation. My father never apologized to me growing up to his and my own detriment. There are moments I still look back on and don’t understand or feel resentment over. It’s so, so important to me that I remember to apologize to my son if I snap and then to let him know that parents are not perfect and make mistakes. I can always tell it means a lot to him and it means a lot to me too. Parenting is really hard, but you are not alone!

 

I’m confident that we’re all doing better than our parents :)

 

This 3 hour sleep cycle causes some weird ass dreams