The Parenting Thread • Page 109

The Elmo/Rocco memes have me dying

 

Was not aware of that but they are indeed pretty hilarious.

 

Last night was our first night home with the baby

Lol what is sleep

 

You'll find out in a few weeks, and it will be glorious.

 

Please elaborate because this is our first child and it's been tough lol

 

Like I said, first few weeks- months are brutal

 

Yeah that first few weeks are rough, there’s no sugar coating it. Hang in there!

 

Eventually your baby will figure out the proper day/night rhythm and the two-hour stretches will turn to three, then four, and THEN you get that incredible five-hour stretch and you remember what it was like to feel rested.

It takes several weeks, but it will be over before you know it and eventually you’ll forget how tired you were. In a year you’ll say, “let’s have another, that wasn’t so bad”.

 

First few weeks home with our first child is still a complete blur to me.

 

Took 8 months for my first one to get out of that 2 hour routine. Have another coming at the end of next month and just hoping it’s nowhere near as bad this time

 

Yep our second is due 2/26 not looking forward to those first three weeks out of the hospital. Plus no idea how the dynamic is gonna work with 3yr old now.

 

My daughter is about to turn 14 months and at no point in these last 14 months have I ever forgot how I tired I was (and honestly still am) or thought that lol.

 

Ah man, I'm sorry. We've been pretty fortunate with our two little ones. I hope you get some rest soon!

 

Honestly, our daughter sleeps great and has for several months now. In that respect, we got incredibly fortunate too. I don't know, maybe I value my sleep and flexibility more than others, but even raising an "easy" kid is exhausting and frustrating! She gives me so much joy, but there are very few days where I forget how difficult it is. Each day is basically like ground hog day, the same routine over and over again, you know?

Maybe its because of the pandemic and the fact that neither of us have any nearby family to help us...but this shit is HARD. I've never really struggled with my mental health, but this past year has been the toughest of my life by far. I guess I never truly understood how much I needed the small creature comforts that are just now gone.

 

I know exactly what you mean and we are in a similar situation with our parents. Raising our kids is a ton of repetition and physical and mental effort, and with the pandemic we have to juggle work and watching them all day and some days I just want to give up. I will say this though, once they start talking more and gain a little bit of independence it becomes a lot easier and a lot more fun. Something to look forward to!

With respect to the pandemic the silver lining that I keep coming back to is that under normal circumstances I never would have been able to spend this time with them. They would have been in daycare 5 days a week while we worked and I likely would have missed a lot of firsts that I was lucky enough to witness. Not sure about your situation but hopefully that is one benefit you get out of all this craziness.

 

I definitely am grateful that I got to be with her for the first year of her life. It has been such a blessing. Especially given that my "paternity" leave was only scheduled to last 2 weeks. But because of the pandemic I was basically there with her for a whole year working at home. As you said, it was incredible to be there for all the first. I genuinely couldn't imagine having it any other way (another reason I am hesitant to have another kid is that I won't get to have anything close to that).

 

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Tried some different things last night and she only woke up every three hours almost on the dot! Not bad for the second night at home. I think we're gonna incorporate a heating pad to warm her bassinet before laying her down. Anyone try that?

 

My daughter turns one in two weeks, we're still trying to get her to eat table food. She only eats baby oatmeal, jarred baby foods, and yogurt. We can get her to put banana, teething crackers, and other foods in her mouth but she spits it out or gags. Did anyone else go through this? The daycare told us she's far behind, but the pediatrician think it's normal, so I'm not really sure what to make of it.

 

I can't really recall either of my kids eating habits at 1-year-old, but I don't recall them eating too much table food, if any. Maybe some baby snacks. So long as your pediatrician thinks it's fine, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

My daughter is turning 14 months in a week. She eats some table food (scrambled eggs, cheerios, berries), but she still prefers purees and yogurt. Its been that way for a few months now.

After her one year visit we really tried to push table foods, but she just isn't having it most of the time. Our plan has been to just push them on her as much as possible, which has produced mixed results. I suspect it is often a texture thing for her. So hopefully when she gets used to more textures she will be a better eater.

 

Yeah - it's tricky, when we push too hard it backfires on us, she'll then also refuse her baby foods which is a worse outcome. Definitely think it's the texture thing too. It's just been trial and error, hopefully she'll have a breakthrough soon.

 

Covid plus this second kid has turned me into “Ben Affleck smoking a cigarette in an alley.meme.” I kinda hate that it’s such a struggle. I started therapy this year but idk how much it’s helping.

 

we're all in this together, friend

 

Anyone deal with the lip/tongue tie stuff for feeding infants? All of my wife's friends are buzzing in her ear about them while the doctor doesn't seem to think it's that big of a deal and it makes it hard for her to advocate for our kid

 

just had another conversation with my ex today, this has been my situation for the past several months

Divorced Parents Are Clashing Over COVID-19 Vaccines

anyone else dealing with this?