On a similar topic, I hate that some people think you “can’t love someone until you love yourself” I very much love my girlfriend and my family, and also despise myself
I wish I could bash this but this is a great post. You forgot to add roasting me in the wrestling thread tho.
We've already covered wrestling, future careers in literature, and banging relatives. I wonder what else we'll get to!
I do think it's important to find happiness while alone and single, and then when you have that and meet someone, it is just the greatest feeling ever. Your maximum happiness surpasses the threshold it had when you were all by your lonesome. Was I happy before I met Cait last week? Honestly I was reasonably happy. But this all makes life much more enjoyable.
My dog scared me when I woke up this morning. I did not expect him to be laying right beside me, which was sweet, but it made me jump. I was looking on the floor next to the bed and couldn't find him and then bam! there he was.
I would say you can love someone if you don't love yourself but like... I've been with ppl where it felt like my sole job was to validate them constantly and always try to raise their self esteem and happiness and I couldn't do it because it started coming at the expense of my mental health. It was draining because it was a losing battle. Everyone gets insecure, but they wanted something they were never gonna be able to find from me and needed to find themselves. So I think you can draw happiness and validation from others to a point but I guess I dont think u should rely on it solely.
Happiness is misunderstood and overrated. Achieved via external forces, nearly everyone experiences happiness in one form or another; Seeing an old friend, winning a game, a brisk walk amongst the trees, achieving a long sought after goal, getting a MHJ etc. Joy, however, is long lasting and internal, something that no one can take from you. Something that stays with you no matter how hard external forces try to put you down. That sense of inner peace. You can keep your bullshit happiness thread. Happiness is short and it is fleeting. You can find me in The Joy Thread.
I'm v happy to be in a band now. It's a dream come true. It's stressful but in a constructive way, I feel motivated to live up to my dreams and I've been intentional to redirect my self-talk soon as I beat myself up which is something I struggle with in my career oriented goals.