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The Anxiety Caused by Forum Notifications

Discussion in 'General Forum' started by Dominick, Apr 16, 2016.

  1. Dominick

    Prestigious Prestigious

    Because you see that someone quoted you, but you don't want to respond too quickly, otherwise you feel as though they'll judge you.
  2. The_Effort

    Regular Supporter

    I'm having anxiety about whether or not I wanna respond to this thread as we speak
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  3. ReginaPhilange

    Trusted Prestigious

    Isn't this what dating is like.

    ps take your time.
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  4. muttley

    "Fuck you, Peaches!" Prestigious

    Sometimes I don't know what to say to keep a conversation going. In those cases I'll 'like' the post so I can at least acknowledge the person. Or I feel like I've forced a conversation already and the other person wasn't interested. I already live here so the amount of time between responses doesn't bother me too much.

    If I leave anyone hanging, it's not you, it's me. I promise.
  5. Dominick

    Prestigious Prestigious

    Dating is easier. Most of the time, you know where you stand enough to respond. The variables of forum life are different.
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  6. aranea

    Trusted Prestigious

    this is why i appreciate the like feature haha
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  7. OhTheWater

    Let it run Supporter

    The like/not like dynamic is stressful as well. I.e.: someone likes everyone's post in a conversation but yours
  8. The_Effort

    Regular Supporter

    Hadn't thought about that one but now I'll never not notice it
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  9. iCarly Rae Jepsen

    run away with me Platinum

    or when you keep quoting the same people over and over again and you worry you're quoting them too much
  10. Dominick

    Prestigious Prestigious

    I feel that way about liking the same people's posts over and over. I don't want people, particularly women, to feel as though I'm stalking them online.
  11. OhTheWater

    Let it run Supporter

    I think I've liked all Dom's posts on the site so I agree
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  12. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    I def respond to people too quickly. I like all of you so I like your posts.

    I think I feel weirdest when I relate to what someone posts but it's not necessarily a positive post. a "like" sometimes feels inappropriate lol and I don't want to offend them by thinking I like their misfortune.
  13. Raku


    My problem is when I post something in topic 'A' and I'm really interested in said topic, but then another 'topic 'X'' gets frequent posts. So that each time I check to see if anyone responded to me, or added something to said topic 'A' I'm often found disappointed when I get 10 notifications telling me that "so and so posted in topic 'X'" which is somewhat frustrating.

    That being said, I don't want to unfollow the overactive topic 'X' because I might want to keep up to date with it =/
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  14. muttley

    "Fuck you, Peaches!" Prestigious

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  15. cybele

    set our hearts ablaze Supporter

    Honestly any time I get a notification my first thought is "who did I piss off".
  16. Iago

    forbidden chalice.

    I respond to people who quote me asap because I'm always like "Yes!!! Friend!!! Let's continue this lovely discussion!!!"
  17. oldjersey

    Pro Podcaster Supporter


    I stop short
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  18. alex

    notgonz Prestigious

    the anxiety caused by never getting forum notifications
  19. Preserved Moose

    Amateur Hour

    Once i had TWO unread notifications. Boy did I feel like Mr Popular.
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  20. AelNire

    @RiotGrlErin Supporter

    Before I changed my notification settings I would get like 50 of them.
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  21. Neo Cassady

    Summer taunts the weak. Prestigious

    I just liked every post in this thread. Enjoy your notifications.

    Okay but really yes I get anxious about them too.
  22. St. Nate

    من النهر إلى البحر Prestigious

    When I see a notification I assume either it's someone who enjoys my quality posts and wants to make it known or someone eager to have the privilege to start a conversation with me.
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  23. Richter915

    Trusted Prestigious

    100% truth fact
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  24. Miss Heartcore

    Let's build something Together Prestigious

    exactly the same for me
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  25. J.C.

    adorkable Prestigious

    i hold one hand over my eye and refresh the page
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