Say Anything Band • Page 96

I think I lasted less than a week in that snark sub. At the surface level, it seemed like people just voicing concern, but the deeper I went the more I realized how fucking sad those people are. After Sherri’s mom died, they had a whole thread dedicated to shitting on a woman who hadn’t even been dead long enough to be buried yet. That seemed to be in pretty poor taste. I usually try not to be too demeaning, but at this point I think that sub is just pathetic. Maybe there was a period where it was just hurt fans voicing their irritation, but now it’s just people obsessed with (and creepily proud of) the downfall of a bipolar guy and his family. Really fucked up.

 

anyone that posts on that sub is a fucking dork, quote me losers

 

I like seeing the snark targeted at those dweebs

 

We should start a new sub, r/BemizFamilySnarkSnark

 

I’ll stop posting in that sub when that con artist returns the money he stole from me.

 

You do you, but I never asked to be a part of it and would love to be left out of it. Not getting something you paid for is a valid complaint, and the fact that it's happened to a number of people is definitely grounds for a community discussion about it. Making fun of Sherri's appearance? Max's weight? Dragging anyone who points out how unhealthy and bizarrely parasocial it is to obsessively follow a pair of musicians with five kids? Yeah, that's gonna be a no from me dawg

 

There’s a way to communicate legitimate grievances with someone without being an absolute ass hat about it.

 

Fuck anyone for doxing Aaron

 

I get losing money sucks, but is it really worth becoming a weirdo Reddit villain over? I also can't take the "I'll stop being a piece of shit once I get my money back" excuse seriously. If that was really your main concern, seems kind of counterproductive to be an active member of a group that is seemingly proud of their influence on Max's current situation. If you want your money back, Max needs to first hit a point where he's healthy enough to take care of himself and his family. You are actively in a group trying to bring down Max and his family. Maybe just learn to have a bit of empathy and let shit go sometimes? Nothing is going to improve by you and others being asshats on Reddit. You're literally just making shit worse.

 

Oh, sorry for the double post, but I went through this thread and deleted my comments that included info from the snark sub. I didn't delete more general comments with public stuff, but I don't really want to be attached to the snark shit in any way at this point and I'm genuinely sorry for ever going down that rabbit hole, let alone sharing about it. If anyone ever goes back through this thread and sees a comment of mine that I missed please message me about it so I can delete it. Thank you, and again sorry for bringing that shit up months ago.

 

You don't have to apologize, I've also deleted some comments for a few reasons (mainly everything happening here being too sensitive for a stranger on the internet like myself to need to speak on). I'm just very grateful to have a forum/thread nuanced enough to take accountability seriously without stooping to gross/unwarranted behavior. At least recently, this thread seems to mostly be on the same page and not at each others' throats.

 

I'm super critical of Max, but that sub acts like they're hunting him. It's offensive, it's disgusting... but in all seriousness it's such a horrible attribute in a human to wish for someone else's downfall. Regardless of the circumstance.

I've been where Max is mentally before. He needs a shit ton of therapy, the right med combo and to alleviate himself from stress. Kudos to Sherri for sticking by him. And regardless of my thoughts, I'm going to root for him as a human being to find himself a healthier version of himself.

 

I think this is basically the take I wish everyone had some version of. It’s okay for people to not support his music anymore, that’s a personal choice. But someone becoming a better healthier them is always going to be a net-positive for everyone.

 

I think that we really need to be careful telling people to “let it go” when they’ve been cheated out of hard earned money. Same goes for reducing people’s feelings down to not supporting Max’s music anymore.

Max and his wife have been destructive forces in the lives of others for a very long time now. Let’s not try to tell people how they should or shouldn’t feel about that because we happened to see a manic episode we weren’t supposed to see.

 

I wouldn't try to tell anybody how to feel, but I would certainly tell someone what's fucked up to post (harmful speculation, doxxing unrelated people, body shaming, etc.)

 

No one has said to let it go and multiple people have said having legit grievances with Max and his family is fair but rooting for his downfall is just weird and in bad taste. And I say this as someone who is not a fan of max.

 

It's understandable to want Max to go away. It gets much weirder when you want him to "break" while his family tries to pick up the pieces.

 

One of my posts did say to "let shit go", but that wasn't me saying to just give Max and fam a free pass. I was just referring to the fact the person I was replying to said they were gonna keep being one of the toxic assholes from that snark sub for "as long as they haven't been refunded". Absolutely be mad and cut off support for the Bemis family if that's what your conscience is telling you, but also don't be part of some weird celebration that a bipolar dude and his family are in a rough spot. There's a line between justified anger/frustration, and becoming a weird internet stalker with gross intentions.

 

I feel like I don't care

 

I know I don’t care.

 

?

 

Dang. Combo breaker haha should have gone with

I see I don’t care.
I believe I don’t care.

etc haha

 

I'm missing something because I have no idea what you're talking about hahaha

 

Someone asked if they had a new album coming out or if Psyche was a one-off single. They then deleted the post after the comments