(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 957

Dylan Dynasty

 

I went to go hang out with the girl I like in the Bay Area and it was amazing except for the fact I learned she is aromantic so that is not fun for me.

I mean I always knew she was asexual but I didn't realize both.

 

@dylan the one good thing about you profoundly fucking up your romcom meet cute twice is that if fate/the universe brings you two together again it will be romantic af
I'm picturing you walking down the street and you see her and say "hey dog park lady" and she says "It's Megan" or whatever her name is
Then again if you fuck it up again I'm going to have to fly to Denver and give you a swirlie, in this particular instance I don't want to, everyone deserves a good love story even you

 

Ian I got bad news for you




I will fuck this up

 

NO!

 

too fuckin late double d that's what you're in my phone as

 

I don't have you saved in my phone at all so we're even

 

Wife and I got into - not even an argument - maybe a disagreement? We are doing pretty poorly financially but I’m managing it as best I can. We recently had our second miscarriage in 6 months so tensions and emotions are high and chemically for her it’ll all over the place. We’re trying something out FOR that which has her on medication but not sure that’s having an effect on anything, just crap to pile on top of things going on

Today she went to get her nails done after work. $60 but the only card she had on her got declined. She was embarrassed and I felt for her. It sucks. I was just off work so I rushed over to essentially bail her out. I had a card that her mom gave me for gas since she’s not driving currently that I could have used and would have kept us from adding to our credit debt however we didn’t want it to seem shady since it wasn’t my name on the card and we weren’t sure we would be carded so I wound up using a card that could have very likely declined but didn’t. On the way home we talked about how it sucked and I felt bad for her, we were NOT carded so I mentioned that I wish we would have known so I could use her moms card and that rubbed her the wrong way. Wasn’t my intention but it also likely wasn’t the right time. Well I fucked up worse when I suggested that right now for us financially nails should be filed under a luxury and next time she should use cash because then she won’t need to worry about a card declining. Her question was where would she get the cash so I naturally said “the ATM - if it’s something you want done you’ll work the time into your schedule” or something to that effect. It was only a few minutes after I picked her up that we had this conversation and she got pretty emotional and shut down on me. Later we spoke about it (she broke the silence after several attempts made by me) and she took a LOT out of what I said that I didn’t mean - again, timing. She acknowledged that o have 100% valid points but that I shouldn’t have said what I said WHEN I said it - which I agreed on. However, she also wouldn’t let go something she inferred form what I said that I very much didn’t mean which was that she “didn’t know we had that kind of a relationship.” When I asked what she meant she basically took that I was telling her what we could and couldn’t spend when and where and more that SHE had to run everything by me. I’m not saying she’s wrong for drawing this conclusion but it’s not why I was saying and she’s not letting me say that that was not the case at all. I suppose for the most part I am the one that handles our personal finances but I feel we both are very communicative about what’s getting spent where and when. For the most part most of the purchases on our credit are made by me - I just don’t know what that had to do with this situation. She says it was me saying that I wish I knew we wouldn’t have been carded because I really didn’t want to use the one card I had on me but it was just that - the only card I had on me that could cover it.

Anyway, not asking for advice, just sharing while in the dog house and thought I would seek out a relationship leaning forum here so here I am. Also did a lot of auditing of our credit debt to see where it all went. Makes you never wanna eat or buy anything ever again, really. Oh well, see you in Vegas for blink, I guess.

 

Read the first spoiler as aromatic. Painted a very different picture.

If @dylan fucks up with the dog park lady again, someone needs to kidnap Bear to teach him a lesson.

 

If @dylan ever tries to communicate with dog park lady I won't be mad, I'll just be disappointed.

 

I fucking know it

 

What's aromantic? It's not even recognizing it as a word when I type it out.

 

Aromantic - AVENwiki

 

aromantic - without romance. So not inclined towards romantic feelings

aromatic - having a pleasant and distinctive smell

 

huh.

 

Yeah, you sound totally sane, @dulam You really got Ian!

 

Man I can’t explain how much I did wrong over the weekend and how things still worked out like incredibly well.

 

well, now you fuckin' better! haha

 

Well, if you're going to tease us with that, you better try.

 

I’m not typing all that shit out.

 

whadda tease

 

I’m on my phone and supposed to be working. Hassle @Joe4th for the info if ya must. But don’t hassle him because he’s like the nicest human alive. So tell him a compliment instead.

 

i think you tagged the wrong joe

 

@Joe4th

*hassle*