(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 923

Also not trying to be a dickhead towards people and I hope y'all don't feel like I'm attacking or judging everyone on some moralistic scale. Just tried to unwind from work and caught up on this thread and it was just kind of gross, imo. Sorry to bring the mood down.

 

wat

 

Sometimes the outside perspective is the most helpful. People can get wrapped up in behavior that's not appropriate really quickly on the internet. I know I've done it, unfortunately.

 

Laughing at something doesn’t always mean you approve of what’s being done. I didn’t say it’s ok, but I can’t help that when things baffle me, it often ends in laughter.

I also think that if I got a message that read, “the basic rules of a polite society...” I’d know I was dealing with a dumb troll. But maybe that’s just me I dunno

With that said, I think we should just let Dylan say his piece and move on.

 

I called Dylan a stalker

 

@bigmike is right. a man finding a woman on social media to send her a message about her unmatching him on a dating app is intrusive and way over the line. there are too many men who harass, stalk, insult, demean, threaten, and otherwise make women uncomfortable and the best and safest course of action is to unmatch the man completely. More often than not, men who will do those kinds of things will message the woman over and over again trying to illicit some sort of response from them as a show of power and control. that is never, ever okay and should never, ever be excused or downplayed.

additionally, women will ghost and block men on social media and on their cell phones when unsolicited sexual and abusive messages and pictures are sent. they are taking the actions necessary to remove the harassing and abusive men from bothering them. So while unmatching/ghosting/blocking outright may seem like a rude or impolite behavior on dating platforms in a vacuum, within the system of our violent heteronormative patriarchy, they are often times the best or only things for women/non cis men to do to preserve their safety and security.

the apps, the internet, and overall technology have made it easier to connect and meet more people, but unfortunately it's also made it possible to amplify the abusive and harassing men that are out there and their detrimental impact on these women's every day lives. even someone doing it as a joke is not okay. to expect a woman/non cis man to be able to parse out the one "joke" random facebook message from a well-meaning unmatched man from the likely dozens of very, very real random facebook messages from harassing and abusive unmatched men is a showcase of how little those of us who are men truly understand and empathize with what women go through every day in their lives, both in person and via online dating and social media, and we need to do better about that.

 

I’m not joking when I ask, are you going to send an apology to her?

 

who created the alt account?

 

what the fuck is going on? Holy shit.

 

Holy christ. @dylan If you don't already follow Tinder Nightmares on Instagram, start following it to see yourself on there!

 

Live look at @Dog with a Blog

 

Hey ya’ll I think things like what just happened and what I did the other day are very cathartic experiences in a way. If we didn’t have this avenue to express certain belief systems or certain unsavory traits we have we would have no one to call us out and perhaps teach us something that could genuinely help us in our lives. I think its cool that we will call each other out if things are a little out of hand, thats what real friends do. Sure, it gets ugly a little bit but 9 times out of 10 there is ultimately a growing experience from it.


Also, theres a guy in the wal mart parking lot I was typing this in playing Angel by shaggy on loop. LOOP.

 

Move back to Jersey because the guy in the Wal-Mart parking lot would have "Born To Run" on loop instead!

 

please let me be

I just wanna listen to angel

 

Oh. My. God.

 

I leave for a few hours and wow guys

 

That was probably the most Dylan thing I’ve seen in a while

 

Yesterday my friend was telling me that he's gonna break up with his girlfriend in a couple days. Today I watched her instagram story and one of them had a caption about how much she loves him and I was just like shiiiiiit, poor girl.

 

Yikes

 

ya I feel bad about that situation. he rushed into that relationship. she told him she loved him like 3 weeks in and he said it back which he obviously regrets now. I feel like she's gonna be completely blindsided by it which is rough. hopefully it's a learning experience for him though, idk.

 

Omg every time I see this thread has jumped a bunch of pages it is always ridic.


I'm going out on Thursday to celebrate my last day of work cause I turned in my two weeks without anything lined up cause I'm an idiot, but anyway I'll be unemployed and desperate and spiraling so let's see what happens!

 

Have you already planned out some Netflix shows to binge?

 

Speaking of rushing into relationships. Someone I know constantly is always rushing into relationships. When she’s single she complains about how the last and previous guys were duds, but at the same time she will say she’s going to enjoy the single life all while at times she’ll say she wished she had someone to cuddle with. When she’s in the relationship she talks about how in love she is with them. I don’t get it. I do wish shed find someone where the relationship lasts a good while because we all deserve that.

 

Sounds like she needs to learn to be comfortable with being alone first tbh. I don't think any relationship can last, or at least be healthy, if one or both of the parties are super needy.

source: a former serial monogamist lol