(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 845

Think I might take gym girl to a Bury Your Dead show hahaha.

 

so last night my boyfriend came into our room and basically told me that he never loved me or had romantic feelings for me and just lied because he didn't want to be alone.

I truly don't even have words to really describe how I'm feeling right now.

 

Oh my god, i'm so sorry @supernovagirl

That is all kinds of fucked up.

 

Sorry you deserve better

 

Yeah, you're not ready for a relationship at all *eye roll*

 

thanks...this is the worst I've ever felt.

 

Fuckkkkkk. I’m so sorry. That is beyond selfish, obviously. I don’t even really know what to say.

 

u and we're all here if you need

 

it is really selfish, and he was amazingly matter of fact about the whole thing and he himself said it was a shitty and selfish thing to do.
Not that that makes it better.

I guess I'm just stuck in some denial. He's been majorly depressed this week and talking about suicide a lot and how he'd "made up his mind" and then he was also talking about how he knew he would just keep disappointing me over and over again and not make me happy, and then he talked about how I cared about him more than he did me, and how it was scary and all this stuff. And RIGHT before he said all this we were having a normal (well for us) conversation about why he needed to stick it out and not give up on life.
Like none of it makes sense or adds up.
I have always been super insecure and doubting about his feelings for me and he's always reassured reassured reassured and insisted. So like part of me is like well I was right all along.
but the other part of me is like maybe he's just trying to push me away in the most hurtful way he knows how, so that I will get off his back and let him kill himself in peace.


its....a lot and this is only scratching the surface jesus christ

also @Kiana

 

honestly, this reads like a guy that is using his feelings and pain to form a reason to walk away guilt-free. i'm not saying he isn't depressed or suicidal, but it is possible to use those things as a crutch from time to time. i can look back at instances where i blamed things on my anxiety when in reality i just didn't have the character to take the pain of a confrontation so i used it to put those feelings on others instead.

 

I think you need to get far away from this person and keep it that way, it was not meant to be and you will find someone much much more loving, it is out there! But this should be the last straw, do not let him manipulate you back into a relationship. He has been showing signs for months, the truth is the truth is the truth, and it hurts but it sets us free!

 

Reverend Dank Dan

 

Let's fuck this guy up.

 

I'm not sure what you mean. he's definitely not using the depression thing as a reason/crutch. I'm just saying that he hasn't been himself this week because he's been massively depressed so it's hard to understand what's going on

 

misread, im sorry. it read to me like he came to you saying he was feeling down/depressed and that he shouldn't be with you, and when you didn't break it off for him, he buckled down and said how he felt. wouldn't be the first time i'd seen that kind of posturing from someone who didn't know how to handle a confrontation. i should've clarified before making further assumption.

 

ohh okay I see. no there were just various conversations about him being depressed and some of them involved me and some didn't. I don't *think* that's how it really happened but idk. maybe. who knows.

 

I'm just really, really overwhelmed and confused right now.
I know I've vague posted a lot in here about him, but there's no way to describe the year from hell I've had with him. I stood by his side through some truly heinous shit and for him to just straight up tell me he's never meant a word he's said... my mind doesn't even know how to process it
It also makes it impossible to think about any future relationships. How can I trust anything/anyone at all anymore? If I can't even tell when someone's looking into my eyes and lying to me day after day after day, how am I supposed to believe anything anyone says

 

I know this is hard to process right now, but please know that this says nothing about you and everything about him. Maybe a weird question, but did he show any signs of narcissistic behavior? Cause my ex was a textbook narcissist and she pretty much told me that I meant nothing and really belittled me. It’s very common for those with narcissistic tendencies

 

My ex kinda did that too even though she had no reason to be narcissistic. I honestly didn't even realize how bad that relationship was until i got out of it. It was odd.

 

I don't know...it's hard to really put a finger on him. He's basically had multiple mental breakdowns in the past year and has just not been well mentally at all. I know he has his fair share of issues I'm just not sure narcissism is one of them.

 

We gonna German chocolate cake super plex him?

 

We can double suplex him.

 

I've never even heard of a suplex cake. Is that like, some fetish shit?

 

Pretty sure I've had a duplex cake