(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 601

Julian haven't you learned yet that if I actively bust your chops that means I like ya?

 

No, you can't assume. Do you use the cooties line to get girls/guys?

 

.......what

 

Hey! My wife is talking to me again! Happy Friday!

 

You should listen to Rodney Dangerfield's stand up.

 

I'd be the new king of self-deprecation if I ever attempted stand-up haha

 

It's none of my business at all, but I REALLY wanna know what the hell that was about, hahaha. I hate when that shit happens to me.

 

I'm an open book.

She was upset because she feels like sometimes I favor my son over her son(I have a son, she has 2) She was "afraid" of approaching me about it because she didn't want it to cause an argument. We had a good talk about it last night.

 

Ahhhh. Well sometimes it's a good thing to argue. It's definitely worse just bottling something as important as that up.

Also, I want to say that I WOULDN'T favour my kid over my wife's....but it seems like I would, slightly? I know that sounds terrible, but it seems like you would just be hardwired that way. I also don't have kids though, so it's impossible to know for sure how i'd feel.

 

I'm sure I'm guilty of it sometimes. It's hard not to have a slight bias. I can admit it. I think the hard part is that she (might) be more guilty of it than I am, but I don't think she'd ever admit it. Haha

Also, of course it's good to fight sometimes. Fighting shows you care! It's good to have something to fight for.

 

It's really hard dating someone who changes their mind and mood all the time, it can be so draining. You always remember why at the end of the day but sometimes... it's really tough.

 

I celebrated three years earlier this month with my girlfriend and I had the exact same thought: It has flown by. Can't believe I've been living where I am now for 2 1/2 years already, too. Crazy.

 

Congrats dude! 2 years is a big deal

 

I once tried something like that. Wrote a brief note on a napkin to give her as I walked out and then as I thought it over I panicked and overreacted and wrote a whole bunch more in case she was like 17 so I didn't look creepy. It started like, "hi, if you're under 25 years old please throw away. Not trying to be creepy but you caught my attention bopping along to your music while everyone else is about as full of life as a closed library. Here's my number, but no obligation to text me. I'll probably never run into you because I never come to this coffee shop so don't feel like you gotta watch out now for the awkward note guy. Anyway, maybe talk to you later. But you know, only if you're over 18 and preferably over 25."

 

My friend wrote down my number for a waitress once, and she actually texted me haha

She was in a relationship though, but it definitely works the one time I've tried it

 

fuuuuuck, missed opportunity i guess

though really less concerned with whether or not it works and more with whether or not it makes the other party uncomfortable to be approached by a stranger. there's no way of knowing that going in but i guess all you can do is either not do it or give them as much of an out as possible. i'll definitely remember this if there's a next time

 

I'm back from vacation so now I can shitpost about being single even more.

 

tbh fixing to do the same but im actually really comfortable being single. my last relationship left me kind of spent emotionally on like trusting people lol

 

I'm a mess. Send help.

 

Welp I made that worse lol

 

Ok I'm home to type this saga out because I need to tbh! Note: This is not as bad as I make it seem because it's mostly in my head

So, I posted a few months ago about the guy who was flirty, and I've mentioned it a few more times cause idk it's in my head! I did notice he had ~flirty eyes with me lol, but I also think his job requires that and it doesn't necessarily mean anything. my friend left her number for him and said she'd give him my number if he text. She never gave it to him, tho he did text her (and the next week my other friend said she saw him and he was like ~so where's that phone number). I couldn't care less if she gave it or not. But apparently I do care??? I kinda dropped it aside from it being a running joke with my friends, but then me and a friend saw him again and now I'm being all weird and crushy. But as soon as we made eye contact I looked down cause my instinct with eye contact is to always look away (which, sidenote, always makes me look guilty!). He didn't interact with us until my friend called him over but then he just interacted with her and my body language was like "NOPE" because I have this defense mechanism of always seeming aloof and stoic and I wanna look like I don't care. I saw him again today and again no acknowledgment of me. I thought we made eye contact a few times but then one of us would look away but idk maybe it was a coincidence. At the end of the night I was near him and he made eye contact and did this half smile. So I was like okay let me wave and break this no acknowledgment or eye contact thing. BUT AS SOON AS I WAVED HE LOOKED DOWN SO HE DIDN'T SEE IT AND I FELT RLY DUMB!!!! I actually expressed some sort of emotion like it was a pretty enthusiastic wave lol. I'll never be over it! Unreciprocated waves haunt my dreams, let alone with this scenario!

I'm pretty annoyed by the whole thing. I don't get crushes often so I feel stupid. idek this person. But like I keep wanting to bring him up to my friends because I think I want them to help make it happen but I don't want to tell them that cause stupid aloofness. But I'm sure they know cause I keep doing it. I refuse to admit to anything except indifference so I'm making this hard. Playing it cool isn't even a strategy it's like instinct because anything that makes me even slightly vulnerable freaks me out. So yeah.

tl;dr



except not even that lmao

 

You are too much. I think the biggest issue in this story is when you mentioned your defense mechanism of looking aloof and like you don't care when he finally approached you and your friend. Body language is a HUGE factor when you first meet someone. So he probably thinks you want nothing to do with him as if you've already rejected him in your aloofness.

 

I knooow I'm a mess. Its also hard cause i only encounter him while he works. the first time we were like the only ones there so he talked and hung out for a long time. The few times I've seen him since has been much busier and he's not my server person so idk there's less natural interaction and I feel more awkward. When he was just a guy hanging out I was more chill and bantery but as soon as my brain identified a potential crush I shut down!! And instead of being a normal person who is like hmm I should be more open and forthcoming to express interest, my instinct is to be even MORE aloof cause I felt like I stared to much and he ~knows so I have to pretend like I don't care now. Which logical me knows is dumb, but silly me is a weirdo