(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 482

At this point I'm continuing to sleep on the couch, I think she should instigate the in person conversation, and not hide behind her phone. Thoughts?

 

No. You initiate it, you tell her exactly how you feel. You're suffering from heavy resentment right now, which means you drink the poison and hope she dies from it (just a metaphor but you know what I mean). You sleeping on the couch and hoping she feels bad because of it or gets a signal from it isn't productive. You need to be the one initiating and stand up for yourself!

 

Fair enough

 

You got this!

 

I think you have to weigh how much this means to you and how much you're willing to put up with. If you continue to sleep on the couch she may eventually apologize again but is that going to fix anything? She's gotta realize she's being ridiculous and be open to working it out too which really doesn't seem like is the case here.

 

I feel like that's why I've been hesitant to head upstairs and talk to her because in past fights and disagreements she's never been willing to see my side, despite saying I don't ever see her sides. She rarely apologizes, and I'm always the one apologizing. When she apologized today, it wasn't even sincere.

 

Got to the love the old 'I apologised, so you should too'.

I learned a while ago that things are considerably more smooth if you don't apologise when you aren't sorry.

 

Man... this one girl at work... idk (not that I ever did).

She's one of the "Engaged Eight", as I call them.

Lately we've been talking more and just friendly coworker banter as we're both newer to the office and sit nearby / cross paths a lot / get lunch as a group a few times the last few weeks.

But this week! And today! Oh man...

I've noticed that she seems to go out of her way to talk to me sometimes and won't let a single opportunity pass to have a conversation. Then today we're both on the patio and this is the conversation:

Her: not engaged or married yourself? Might be the only one in the office *we laugh*
Me: yeah, that's usually how it goes
Her: any special someone around?
Me: no, not for awhile really
Her: does it take you awhile to figure out how much you like someone and warm up to them or no?
Me: usually awhile unless we hit it off, which happens very rarely but when it does it's pretty special
Her: tell me about it
Me: is that what happened with you and your fiancé?
Her: ummm. No. Not with him.
Me: oh *awkward laugh*
Her: I think it's happening now though

AND THEN SHE WALKS AWAY

 

wonder if she's into you...hmmmm

 

aww thanks

 

One of my exes, who I would take back in a heartbeat, liked stuff on my twitter and he never does. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?! I know it doesn't mean anything but it got me all up in my feelings right now.

The break up was because we moved to separate cities for work and didn't want to do long distance. So there are no bad feelings.

 

Time to lurk brb

 

He been thinkin bout you gurl

 

A guy that tells me that Coke shits on Dr Pepper doesn't deserve a chance with me

 

Anyway, a guy that seemed interesting messaged me, and I replied back. Just hoping the replies continue.

 

Dude

 

Got a super cute girls number on tinder but our schedules won't line up to meet until after the 4th.

She sent me pictures of her 3-legged cat today tho so it's getting real obviously

 

And no that's not a euphemism

 

Are you living in a romcom?

 

In reference to the last romcom comment, a movie called 'The Engaged Eight' where a dude who starts a job as a venue bartender gets hired for 8 weddings, and forms an attraction and friendship to each bride at each wedding, but knows he can't do anything as they're getting married, but at each wedding as well, there's a girl who works as a florist, who he has good banter with but there's "nothing" there, until the final wedding when they realise they should be together. There you go New Line Cinema and Katherine Heigl, do your thing.

I think about movies too much.

My thoughts with your situation though, be careful. People who would cheat or fuck around on an existing partner are risky af, even if it is just 'flirty' for now.

 

TBH, comments like that are a lot easier to say when you know you won't or can't act on them.

Admittedly, it's a bit of a dangerous thing to say in general, even she doesn't have any intention of acting on it.

Get worried if she starts trashing her fiance though.

 

Get worried if she starts playing with your penis.

 

Exist in a state of constant worry. You'll never have to worry about when to worry again.

 

No point in worrying at that stage. The shit has already in the fan in that situation. In for a penny and all that.