(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 445

I dunno about websites but maybe you guys could try picking up some new activities like arts and crafts, going to trivia, co-ed sports or somethin. I'm sure if you do fun coupley things that you enjoy then you are bound to meet some other cool couples ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

This is another thing that Meetup can be useful for. Depends on the groups in your area, but it wouldn't hurt to look.

Had an impromptu visit to the lady's house last night. She'd got her days wrong and had to cancel our plans for tonight, but wanted to see me still. So, that was nice. She has maybe the fattest cat living in her house share that I've ever seen.

Getting up and leaving immediately to drive all the way back across Bristol this morning, was less fun. I'm knackered!

 

Update on my situation, she finally responded back and said she did like me. A few days later I went to message her after our last conversation and it looked like she blocked me... I went on my profile and messaged her to ask if she blocked me and she blocked me there too. She probably found someone she liked more. Whatever. I should've known better than to even respond. I'm dumb.

 

I might make a profile on a dating site/app once I start to feel better about the break-up & life in general. I'm really shy & introverted so I think that's a good way for me to meet someone else.

 

I'm with you man. For those that have been following along, I've been living apart from my wife for about 3 months now. Things seem to be coming to an end (her choice). I've been pretty devastated by it. I don't want to mess around with anyone until we actually divorce because I'm not going to jeopardize custody of our kid or affect alimony, but I feel like I need some sort of communication with the opposite sex. I know people say take the time to "focus on you" but it's been three months. I'm at a loss.

 

wow, uh, I have had a crush on my friend's mom ever since I was like 0 and I haven't seen them in years and I saw her and I recognized her but she didn't recognize me but when I told her who I was she got like super flirtatious. I told her how I'm moving to Long Beach and she said she goes there a lot and that next time she's there we should go to dinner. I told her how I have a few more months here and that we should get a drink sometime and gave her my number. The only thing she is like a hardcore Christian so I dunno if anything will cum of this but we shall see....she divorced her husband so anything's possible I guess ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

Salacious!

 

so did you tell your friends he's getting a new daddy?

 

Lol, thankfully we don't speak much anymore other than an occasional Instagram comment so if anything happens, I won't feel so bad. I love her ex husband though, he used to drive me to school all throughout junior high and high school haha.

 

Adult Friend Finder

Although I may not be sure what you mean by "hang out".

 

Hanging out with this girl a lot, having a really good time and starting to really like her. Unfortunately she's moving back home for the summer next week almost 2 hours away, we're still gonna try and get together a good bit while she's gone.

 

Felt okay all day today up until about an hour ago. Haven't been able to get my mind off her. Every night for 2 years I'd stay up late talking to her for hours. I miss that so much. I seriously feel like I'll never find anyone else, & even if I do it won't be her, so it won't even be worth it to me. She was all I wanted.

 

I'm afraid to date again. I'm far too insecure and guys don't want to be patient. Plus there isn't much of a dating pool where I live. I have a friend who tries to set me up with guys she already knows I don't like because she keeps pushing me to "give them a chance" and hook up with them. No. My other friends I haven't seen in forever so it's not like I can meet someone thru them. No cute guy has been hired in a while at my work. The last cute guy (who quit a few months ago) had a gf. The semi cute guy, idk, I don't think he's interested. I try flirting sometimes, but eh, maybe he's shy. But people need to stop being shy at my age. I'm really afraid to be alone. What if something bad happened to me, and no one is around to take care of me??

 

I feel like there is so much going on here so I'll only focus on one part. I don't know how old you are but keep in mind that it's becoming more and more acceptable to stay single well into your thirties and just focus on yourself. Additionally, when you say you are far too insecure, are you strictly meaning when trying to talk to guys? Or does that insecurity run a little deeper and stay with you even when you're in a relationship? If it does, I say fuck dating right now. Just learn to be comfortable being with and loving yourself 'cause a relationship won't work if you're insecure anyways. I know everyone is different, but when my ex broke up with me I thought it was the end of the world. I knew that I was going to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. Welp. Guess not. I was devastated obviously but now that I am embracing myself and hanging out with new people I honestly love being single and have no desire to date anyone. I guess if someone does come around, just make sure you want date them because you like them and not cause you don't want to be lonely.

 

Lol, so y'all remember that mom I was telling you about? Well, we've been texting back and forth and she wants to get drinks soon. But, uh, she is also sending me links to Bible sermons, clearly having no idea that I'm an atheist. I don't know if I can go through with this haha. I'm not even sure how to respond to her text

 

"Amen...so when we gettin drinks?"

 

I'm insecure about the way I look. Guys where I live go for girls that look/dress/act a certain way. Like I don't meet their standards. I've never had a long term relationship because of it. My relationships only last a few months before I get left in the cold. I have no problem talking to guys, but they don't want to talk to me :/ and the hardest part of dating is I force the relationship unintentionally because I don't want to be lonely. I did that with the last guy I have a chance to. I kept pushing it to see if there was a connection when I never felt any connection from the start. I regret it because he ended up being a terrible person imo and I ignored the "red flags" because I felt like I was being too picky. That guy shortly after I met him wanted to bang me and kept trying to persuade me into it and got whiny when I said it was too soon. But maybe my pickiness is for a good reason and I shouldn't care if people think if I'm picky because it never ends well

 

I feel u on that guys going after a certain look thing. Guys literally never approach me here and tbh I wouldn't approach them either lol. There's a small group of people here I've wondered if I would fit in with, but I always felt like they were too cool for me or something and I'm too shy/anxious to breach their circle. Guys express interest so rarely I had major self esteem issues growing up, and then I'd feel ashamed for so much of my validation being wrapped up in what they think. So when I got my first serious bf I wouldn't let go even tho it was abusive, partly cause it felt impossible to start over and actually find someone else interested in me. It was mind-blowing to me when I moved for college and guys were interested in me cause that so does not happen where I live currently lol. I might as well be invisible lmao. It took me a long time to sorta be okay with that and do my own thing. If it happens it happen but I figure I'll be single until I move someday.

I'm not helpful to u in any way, I just related to that part of ur post a lot.

 

I feel like I'm going to be alone forever bc I put 0% effort into dating.

 

This is exactly how I've been feeling since my girlfriend & I broke up a few weeks ago. It was my first real relationship & it lasted 2 years, I really thought she was the one. I'm mainly just worried because I'm very shy & introverted. I don't go out much so I don't really meet many new people.

 

I've only had one guy express interest in me in college and we dated for a short while until he decided to leave me one day and left me heart broken. I'm still kinda bitter about it. I feel as if I was in love with him because it hurt that badly and with other guys I'm over it the next day. I still think his friend had something to do with it because it was so random. Like his friend would but into our personal business and shit which we both hated and he would even invite himself to things we were suppose to do together. It's like um dude go away we don't want you here. I wonder if he ever thinks about me.

 

It means nothing now I know, but trust me when I say good things will come. It's almost been a year since my ex broke up with me and while I still think of her often, I no longer feel like I'll never meet anyone else and honestly, in retrospect, there were a lot of things about her that probably wouldn't have worked out in the long run. I'm not ready for another relationship right now but I've met a lot of people since her and I know eventually I'll find the person I'll spend my life with.

Edit: also, I know it's not easy but I seriously urge everyone to challenge themselves and put themselves in uncomfortable positions. I used to be so shy and I told myself that I was awkward and was bad at talking to people but when I would tell people that they'd be like, "are you kidding? You're an amazing conversationalist." It was just a bullshit story that I've been telling myself all my life and I actually believed it and allowed it to control me. I still have bouts where I'm anti-social and scared but the person I am now is so much different from the person I was a few years ago and that is largely due to allowing myself to be uncomfortable.

 

Met a really awesome girl at the party last night, and she actually asked me for my number. But of course she lives in Arizona.

It was still nice, and I'm still thrown off by someone showing interest in me first

 

Girls how would you like to be approached by a guy at let's say, the gym? I feel like I missed out yesterday.

 

Every time someone is planning their wedding and is like "you only get married once!" I'm like...... do u tho