(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 433

I have such a hard time playing it cool...

 

Open mic night date was great fun. Really good mix of acts and they were mostly very enjoyable. Had a rather lovely time with the woman and we've arranged to see each other again on Friday evening. She's going on holiday the following day, so we're having a quiet night in at mine.

I'm excited for two reasons. The first is that I'm really looking forward to spending some more time with her. The second is that I might finally wake up on Saturday without wishing that I'd died in the night!

 

^^^That got dark lol

Come August I'll have been single for a whole year. This is longest I've been single since I was 18 I think. Not gonna lie, it feels really good, think I'll keep it that way for awhile.

 

Whenever you're ready to get back out there, I've got this really attractive friend that I'd like to introduce you to. I think you'd get along great.

 

LMAO. Holy fuck dude.....You've got me questioning this whole "single" thing now.

 

damn tell her dadbolt says what's up

 

Don't cheat on a lawyer, she'll sue you

 

damn, good point

nevermind @dylan

 

Hey, I have a question. While, I enjoy being single, I still like going out, meeting people, sharing a connection, having fun etc. All that good stuff.

So like two weeks ago I met that girl at the rave, an environment neither of us were used to. Anyways, we bonded over our love of music and she asked me for my number. We texted a few times after and our last exchange was over a week ago when she said, "Sorry it took so long for me to reply. Yeah it was great meeting you too! cant wait to chill next time I come to the Bay!" to which i replied, "No worries. Do you come to the Bay often?"

Never got a response. Maybe I'm reading too much into this but I find it interesting that she asked me for my number and again said she wanted to hang out but then didn't respond and I havent heard from her since. I didn't send another text cause I didn't wanna be annoying but my window of opportunity is steadily closing (some night even say it's already shut) and I was wondering, do you think I should contact her again? I genuinely felt a connection with her and I would greatly enjoy getting to know her, even if it meant just hanging out as friends. I kinda hate the whole texting thing. Before texting I could just give someone a phone call but now that's considered creepy and you have to go through texting first to get to that point. I guess I have nothing to lose since shes basically a total stranger and at the worst she'll ignore me or tell me she's not interested and it's not like I ever have to see/talk to her again but I dunno, I overthink this shit. So should I text herrrr or?

 

I understand your feelings completely, dude. I would be nervous to text her again and risk annoying her as well but it could all be worth it. Worst case scenario is she ignores you and thats that. Best case scenario is she hits you up and you guys hang out and something happens between you two. Either way, I'd give it a couple of days and text her.

 

i would say go for it. as you said, not much to lose at this point. as long as you're not like blowing her phone up I think you're good.

 

It's been like ten days since I texted her asking if she comes to the Bay often

 

Yeah, text her. Some people are super bad at reading a text and then putting their phone down to do something and then forgetting to go back and respond. I'm one of them. Worst case is you're exactly where you're at now. Just one short text should be good like "hey, how've you been?" or something

 

This is going to sound so dumb but, "Hey, how've you been?" Literally sounds genius to me haha. Like I probably wouldn't have thought of that just cause I overthink things and would have wanted to concoct the perfect text. Simplicity is key I suppose.

 

haha yeah man, it's a good balance between casually conveying that you're still interested and want to keep the conversation going without being overly pushy or annoying.

 

whenever someone says okc, i immediately think of the basketball team and it throws me off for a second. Even in the dating thread

 

@Bloodsucker II you could maybe also use something like, "whoa, just heard music from the rave playing in this Christian book store!" Or something and leave it at that. Reminds her you're still there without possibly coming off as 'I've been randomly thinking about a person I met once. Why won't you talk to me more?!?!' (Although having something remind you of a complete stranger may also come off as creepy - I overthink things too)

Also, if she doesn't even live in the Bay Area she may feel it's pointless to text back / have conversations until she is back. Like, she may just text one day in a year and be like, "hey I'm the Bay Area, what's up" and not want to do all the bells and whistles of getting to know you / talk before a return trip because she isn't there and some people find that type of 'relationship' and / or 'getting to know' you pointless with the distance.

 

Yeah, I too was thinking the latter. Connection or not, she lives an hour away, and I don't even have a car anymore so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

me and bae are driving to St. Louis to visit my family tomorrow, anyone remember when I was scared as fuck to ask my parents if she could come visit me last summer? throwback Thursday fam

 

If that was aimed at me, I was only referring to the fact that I'm old and hangovers really hurt.

 

No relationship news. I am, however, going to see Agoraphobic Nosebleed with a fellow DSA member, which is cool.

 

^I'll be at that show too.

Random quick question for those with significant others here - do any of your partners have vastly different tastes in music than yours? My girlfriend of five years absolutely detests most of the music I listen to and only really listens to oldies and jazz (which I can get into and tolerate). Despite that, our relationship works incredibly well. I just avoid playing Insect Warfare and Full of Hell when she's around. Considering how big of a part the music I listen to plays in my life, it's just interesting to think that I'm absolutely in love with a person who's a polar opposite of me in so many ways.

 

They wasted no time with that gender swapped La La Land reboot

 

I wouldn't say we have VASTLY different music tastes but Laura's favorite stuff is very different than my favorite stuff, and I enjoy it because it's cool to be able to show each other things we would've never listened to otherwise, and go to shows together we never would have otherwise.

 

My girlfriend is very much in the alt-rock/modern rock scene of, like, the late 90's-early 2000's. So she loves bands like Creed and Finger 11 because she has followed their careers for like 25 years. I don't like any of that type of music (though Finger 11 isn't bad per se), but it isn't an issue at all. If i'm not feeling up for going to the show I just tell her and she says that's cool and goes by herself. She's been very open to music I like, which sometimes makes me feel guilty but then, you know, music is just a hobby and it's okay to have hobbies that you don't share with your significant other. In fact, it's healthy to have that.