(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 334

Anybody else have a really hard tim moving on? It's been 4 months since she broke up with me and I'm still struggling. I don't cry anymore and I'm definitely doing better than I was 2 months ago but I just can't seem to fully let go even if she has. I know I can can make better choices that will allow for me to move on but it's like I don't want to.

 

It took me a long time as well with my ex (despite us getting back together years later) it took me really changing how I lived in general. I'm usually a very too myself, homebody... I was still having the super vivid dreams 2-3 years later (matter fact had one of her THE NIGHT BEFORE she came back into my life).
But I went out of my way to get all my old friends back together, I started smoking pot again (to take the edge off my mind cus I chronically overthink EVERYTHING), and iunno.... tried to keep social with other women who gave me hope for better future luck, even though I didn't really TRY anything with them cus I knew I was too hung up still.

This stuff has happened with a few ex's of mine (barring the vivid dreams, that's only been with my fiancee), it's normal man. Some people feel deeper and hurt longer, that's fine the wound needs to heal. Just avoid picking the scab and do what ya can to give yourself things to feel good/see the good & fun in life even if the heartache is still lingering. The positivity around you will eventually overpower the pain.

 

It's tough. It's been I think two months for me, and it's gotten a little easier, but I still see her post about her new boyfriend, and it bums me out that she moved on so quickly, but it's probably for the best. It takes time, every day is going to be different and some will be harder. But in the end, you'll be better off and will wake up eventually feeling okay with everything that has happened. Stay strong and stick in there, try and stay preoccupied to try and not let your mind wander.

 

Man the dreams are the WORST. I even just had a dream that all he did was text me and I woke up so depressed that it wasn't real.

Yeah that's definitely rough. My ex is only now starting to see people but I know she was over me right away, like our relationship meant nothing. You see her post about her new BF? Do you follow her on social media? You sound like me, I'm a total emotional masochist. I'm holding onto the past as the thought of letting go and forgetting her sounds too painful but it's stupid cause while I'm regressing she's moving on.


EDIT: I mean, my ex fucking broke up with me and moved to Holland, I should just move on lol

 

Me and my gf share a lot of the same tastes. There's some bands she likes a lot that I can't stand and I'm sure she's not all that into the metal and experimental music I listen to. But we overlap in emo and hip hop a ton

 

It took me a year and a half. Everyone gets over it in their own time. Don't make yourself feel bad and don't let others make you feel bad.

 

Everyone process and moves on in different ways. Two years later I'm still feeling bits of resentment and having dreams that are really vivid.

Pick up a former or new hobby. Running and weightlifting have been very beneficial for me, it's alone time during training and let's me kind of meditate on the trail or in the gym, but races and the gym also provide a social aspect that helps too. Find something that interests you and gets you around other people. That's my advice, it might work or it might not, but one way or another you'll get there

 

yeah, after we broke I became a new version of myself. I started eating incredibly healthy, worked out everyday and got in the best shape of my life, was doing well in school etc. Then we met for coffee in October and it went so terribly and I allowed it to fuck me up and now I'm back at square one.

 

I may scrap it all and start over.

 

Yeah, I still had her added on Instagram. I ended up unfollowing, because it's probably better that way. I'm glad she's happy, I really am. The fact that we didn't work out doesn't make me hope for her to be miserable. I try to not let it bother me, but I'd be lying if it didn't a little bit. I just had to realize it's something I don't have control over, and that in the long run, it's best for us both. I do feel happier now, even through the harder days, and I think that's what matters in the end.

 

There is no playbook or script that you follow. Some people can move on quickly in a healthy manner; others need many months or years to move on in a healthy manner. You do you and don't worry about trying to get over it as quick as possible. Just do what is healthiest for you.

 

I feel like this should go before/after 99% of dating/relationship advice because it's the absolute truth

 

I ran a nickel package zone coverage.

 

Gotta do cover 1 and bring the safety into the box

 

Damn I can't stand not getting the attention I don't deserve

 

I don't give you attention. Probably set a qb spy.

 

I usually take the safety out of the box and put it on the package

 

The best play is not follow rules, not even your own.

 

sports!

 

Man to man, bruh.

 

Never been stood up before. I waited 30 and then left.

 

My friend has been crashing here last few days, great to see him after 2 years but my girl and I haven't been alone all week and we're both like..

 

That sucks. So sorry to hear that.

 

sorry, you text him or are you just like fuck you fuck this

 

I text and called and then said fuck this.