(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 32

That's true, I'm a guy, I'm not too worried about getting kidnapped or something lol. I've never actually put myself in someone else's shoes that way. But I'm not much of a texter anyway so it does make it hard to do anymore than I do do. How do you talk to someone you haven't met over days/weeks? Do they just ask "how was work today?" etc etc? I find that too weird if that's how it is.

 

I think it really depends on the person and the current conversation. I'm no longer using dating sites, but yeah you can ask about work. Sometimes people like to rant about their job. Maybe weekend plans with friends etc

 

what baffles me is that there is a question on OKC that asks, "how soon would you be comfortable meeting in person?" and the answer options are: 1. right away if they're cool, 2. after a few weeks, 3. not sure, 4. never.

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4. Never.

WHY JOIN A GODDAMN DATING SITE IF YOU WOULD ANSWER WITH 4? If you answer with 4, you already have all the significant others you need on World of Warcraft or Xbox Live or some shit.

 

What I never understood is guys who exchange like two messages (for maybe one) and then say "text me I don't like going on here" .... makes me think why are they even on a dating site. It doesn't make any sense and sounds lazy. They find a girl who replies to their message and they don't even come off with the effort of wanting to talk. At that point I just stop replying, and find it funny when I see the "online" symbol

 

I was always eager to text before I had a smartphone. With the app it doesn't really matter to me

 

I never given out my number. Usually they're the ones who give me theirs. If I feel comfortable enough to text them, then I will, if I rather chat online more, then I just tell them. The ones I had a decent convo with usually respect it

 

Is going on a date with the main intention of getting free food fucked up? Cuz I think it is.

 

I think it is also. If its ever happened to me, id just rather not know...ouch to thy self esteem

 

it hasn't happened to me but I have a friend who uses tinder for that sole purpose. I'd feel shitty being on the receiving end of that.

 

Can't be any worse than people who go on dates with the main intention of trying to hook up (and lie about it in their profiles)

 

Both are deceptive and emotionally manipulative.

 

I've been considering trying online dating but the more I read about it on here, it sounds like a complete waste of time. I don't want random hookups and I certainly don't want people dating me for food lol yikes

 

As the great Jim Gaffigan says: "it sucks being turned down for a date because that's like saying 'i don't want to eat a free meal around you'".

 

I could see why it hurts but I def don't think going on a date for a free meal is the same as going on a date to sleep with someone and never call them again or whatever

 

Still bummed I spent like $100 on one date in February and then she ghosted me after the second date, haha

 

Ya both those scenarios suck and I wouldn't really compare the two for which is worst. Just don't use people. It's mean.

 

ugh that is the worst, that is why i generally try to keep it casual the first date (coffee, drinks, walk), it is pretty basic. but a long time ago i spent about 70 or so on a first date and fell into the same situation.

 

We got drinks but it was at a wine bar, which ended up being pretty pricey

Then we saw a movie

 

If I'm on a shitty date and know I'm never going to see him again I pay for half. It's only fair.

 

I never expected anyone to pay. I always bring my wallet and offer to pay my portion which then guy is like blah blah chivalry blah manhood so usually we compromise and I pay the tip

 

for the guys: do you bring flowers on a first date?
for the ladies: what do you think of flowers on a first date (whether it's a surprise or not)?

I always used to. Mostly because I'm very "old school" in terminology and how I do things in general and also because it always seems to strike the woman as being completely out of left field.

I don't do it anymore though because flowers are fucking expensive and i no longer care about remembered as "that guy i dated for a bit who bought me flowers".

 

I used to bring flowers on first dates but now I don't go on first dates

I think it all depends on context though, like what kind of date you're going on

 

Never brought flowers on the first date, and I don't think I'll start anytime soon. It just seems like a little much, besides...strong chemistry on a first date would likely outweigh the bringing of flowers.

But yeah, the chemistry part is just luck i suppose.

 

I don't think I'd know what to do with them unless they met me at my house so I could put them in a vase. I think I'd feel a bit awkward and overwhelmed. I wouldn't mind if a more serious bf or someone I was seeing consistently did it but I'd prob be uncomfortable with it so early on

On the other hand my rm had an ex do that for her and she loved it!

 

It's usually pretty easy to tell whether or not it's something the person you're going on a date with would enjoy on the first date, like whether or not it matches their personality to appreciate flowers that early on without it feeling forced