(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 316

yeah pretty much. id be open to trying to work through it

 

PSA: Never get involved with a married person. 90% of them won't divorce someone for you and that's fact. You'll be the one to get hurt and dropped in the end. From personal experience, it isn't worth it and it took me almost 6 years to get over and my heart still aches a little when I think about him. "But we're different from everyone else! We'll make it." No you won't.

 

ive been cheated on and i stayed with the person. it was hard....and it made our relationship toxic over time. the underlying problem always existed. even years after it happened, the issues never resolved and it still ruined our relationship. i'm a very understanding person and i thought i could understand and learn to get over it. i thought that i could overcome it but it wasnt me that needed to overcome something.

 

My fiancé cheated on me w. the dude who had been my best friend since 2nd grade and basically my brother so it was a double whammy for me. Maybe if both of them hadn't violated my trust and the relationship that we had, I would view it differently, but I cut off contact w. both of them immediately, moved away, etc. I don't want to go through that again ever. But I can understand how others would be able to work through it, I just couldn't in that instance and I don't know if I ever could even if circumstances were different

 

Preach sis! I think the most jarring part for me with the girl I know is that she insists the wife is crazy and won't let him get a divorce and all these other things he's told her and I'm like now sis. what kinda married guy interested in starting an affair is like "my marriage is awesome and my wife is just the best" like naw wake up they all say that!! she says the wife is crazy cause she wouldnt sign papers and it is taking everything in me not to mention that she also initially refused to sign papers when her husband served her lol like man, love makes ppl dense af

 

If I was cheated on I'd probably have to think it over while listening to Lemonade before considering what to do next.

 

getting cheated on is fucking tite 10/10 would experience the ultimate loss of trust in literally any human being again for sure.

 

Only been cheated on once. Completely broke things off because it had been multiple times in a row. She got pregnant and felt it better to stay with the father. Now she complains to me about his abusive behavior... still doesn't listen to my advice for the sole reason that I won't take her back if she did listen to it.

 

I dumped a girl on Christmas one time cus she told me she could cheat but I couldn't. (I would never, she was a psycho, to the point she even tried to fake a suicide on the phone with me and called me the next day "From the psych ward" lmao, crazy chick). I feel like being dumped on Christmas was a suitable punishment (it happened then lmao) for such bullshit.

Cheating in general though is crushing, of my ex's only 2 of them never cheated, one died while we were together (first gf) and the other had kids already (last gf) lmao.
I have done the rebuild thing and it's only worked with one person. Getting that to work really requires I feel a love that is damn near meant to be lived through, but good luck finding that.

 

Just had a long and frustrating blowout conversation with my girlfriend. These are the end days. Which one of us will pull the trigger? I'm too scared to do it yet.

 

My girlfriend and I just broke up after two years because of my mental health and I couldn't meet her emotional needs. I'm fucking devastated and paralyzed.

 

I'm sorry to hear that. Know that we all are here for you if you ever need it, either openly in the forum or through PM.

 

Sorry to hear this man, I fear this happening a lot myself in my own relationship. Hope the hurt don't last too long and you'll come out the other side better.

 

It took me a long time to trust anyone after being cheated on. He lied about it too and I only found out bc one of his friends and I grew really close and she told me. We broke up and got back together for a few weeks but he was still seeing the girl he cheated on me with. It was never her fault. I did blame her at the time, but he cheated on her with me and it was just a big mess. I still deal with self doubt but I have the most patient, understanding, loving boyfriend who knows everything that happened and comforts me about every insecurity. Cheating sucks and it took me a long time to trust people, and I kept dating people who hurt me. It took me a long time to be happy and move on and accept that it wasn't my fault, or the other girl's fault. He's the one who hurt both of us and strung both of us along for years.

 

nows the time. i gotta spend the whole weekend with the ex for a wedding. im totally capable of going and having a fine time. theres are our friend's and we both want to be there. we RSVP'd together, we booked a hotel together (its out in the country) all before we broke up. we haven't even told people we broke up cause its really not about us and we definitely aren't there to make a scene in any way. just two things i'm scared of: making it too easy to want to be together being swept up in the moment and it being too emotionally difficult to process since we haven't seen each other since we broke up.

 

Most all my relationships ended with the person cheating or the infamous "Removing of the mask" and seeing they're nothing like they pitched. I became numb to that lasting pain of clouding my future relationships tbh.
I still was always so driven by finding that true love that while I'll burn from someone else I know I'd have to love and trust someone else to get what I'm looking for.... Which probably set me up for taking more of the same sometimes lol.

I've alluded to things that went wrong in my relationship where we both needed to grow up and realize the love we have is the love we wanted and how to have that. I needed to get out of my own way and not get sidelined by mental so much and she had to be more honest... So count me in the group of "It can be worked out."
But there's that whole "(but it's damn near impossible because it requires so much forgiveness, actions to words, and the elephant in the room: people changing)" and we all have our own beliefs on if people can change or not, that's another can of worms lol.

 

My BFF and I just got of the phone..she's in a boyfriend cheated on her with a guy sitch. I am terrible when it comes to comforting people.

 

I feel like it says a lot about me that I'd be way less mad in that type of situation, like I'd just assume that's because of the fluidity of sexuality that I'd want to support

 

I wouldn't be as mad only because I got the feeling that she wasn't aware her boyfriend liked men. But there's a lot of different factors there, who knows. I'd be bad at comforting her too. Not good with comforting people. Or people.

 

id be just as mad and im sure my gf would be too but we're both aware of each other's non-straight sexualities

 

Yeah, cheating is cheating period. She's just never been in the situation before and she is upset that he didn't even mention being Bi. We all know you can't build a successful, healthy relationship unless you're completely honest with your partner.

 

Eh this makes no sense to me. Nobody said anything about being mad cause he's not straight. I just see cheating as cheating, and I'd hope the other person would be comfortable enough to talk to me about their sexuality.

 

I'm not sure it makes sense either but I don't think feelings always make sense haha

 

Now that I look back this year, I've been too many wedding. Why folks getting married so young?

 

I don't know how they can afford it