(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 315

Did Pennsylvania go red for governor too? I should check. Shit better go back to blue next presidential election

 

They had their gubernatorial elections in 2014. They have Tom Wolf who is a Democrat and was rated by OnTheIssues as the most liberal governor, even beating out Gov. Dayton in Minnesota. PA-Gov: Wolf Rated Most Liberal Governor in U.S. Not too sure how good he is overall, but I remembered reading that article last year about him.

 

For as little as I actually know you, I think you'd like it a lot.

 

You're only an hour and a half away from Bmore!

 

We need to get together and overthrow the ruling class

 

Word. I'd like to show you a place called Red Emma's. It is a radical book store, run by a Marxist/anarchist collective.

 

Fuck yeah, I'll have my car so I'll take a trip up to bmore at some point

 

Red Emma's is world famous

 

We have a bookstore named after Lucy Parsons

 

I saw some Kropotkin book there when I went to buy some books the other day, and thought of you.

 

Internalized misogyny is horrifyingly fascinating. I know a woman who divorced cause her husband cheated and she called the mistress every name in the book and blamed her for stealing her husband and basically didn't hold him accountable at all, like he was tricked into it. now she's having a thing with a married dude and justifies it by saying his wife is crazy. I'm like sis, really now sis

 

Srsly talking to her is so wild. she was talking about how much she hates her cousin's baby mama cause she tricked him into having a baby. I expected some ridic story about stealing sperm or something, only to find out the cousin knowingly and willingly had unprotected sex under no false pretenses. ur cousin being a dumbass =/= tricked omg

 

I never understood the logic even when i was younger and didn't know shit. it's so backward.

 

I've never gotten it either. I asked her about it and she said it's easier to forgive someone you love but I guess I'm just cold lmao cause I feel the opposite. I have high standards for the people who are supposed to love me like because they love me they should respect me and I tolerate less bs. I've been cheated on and tbh I wasn't mad at the other woman at all, tho I get why some ppl do. I didn't have a commitment with her and she didn't force him to do a thing so at the end of the day she was just a random face and if it wasn't her it would've been someone else im sure /shrug

I guess it's easier for some ppl to place all blame on a 3rd party so they don't have look inwardly at themselves, their partner, or their relationship idk

 

If I got cheated on I'd be pissed at the SO. If the other person knew we had been dating I'd think they're scum but I wouldn't say anything to them cuz what's the point

 

I've been cheated on three times now, and I can't even bring myself to slam any of my exes that actually did it, let alone the person who they cheated with. I'm too passive

 

Well that's just petty. I would literally just tell them to never talk to me again and block them. Cuz that would hurt and I would just get depressed.

 

I didn't break up when my ex cheated. he was always super paranoid about me cheating in "retaliation" tho and had that thing going on where he projected his guilty conscious on me even tho I never once brought it up or threw it in his face when we were together so I do wish I would've just ended it there and prob would be hard pressed to stay together with someone if it happened in the future. I do think people can work it out if someone cheats. I don't know many relationships where someone hasn't cheated honestly but I also don't really have a framework for a healthy relationship lol

 

Although hey even though I've never cheated or been the other guy I've done dumb shit before so I guess I can't be too harsh

 

I'm not a jealous person and I put a lot of trust in my SO's so being cheated on would be such a huge slap in the face. I'd feel like all of that was taken advantage of.

 

I just have a very hard time trusting people as is so if I was cheated on I couldn't bounce back from that

 

the worst part about being cheated on is learning to try not to be paranoid about the other person in every situation. completely ruins your ability to trust and thats the hardest part. i'm not saying its not fixable but it takes work and time. even when things are fine, it eats away at you.

 

i think id be able to get over it

 

For a cynic I'm pretty trusting. like I'm reserved and have major commitment issues but once I trust someone I trust them pretty completely unless obv they give me a reason not to. I get too exhausted doing anything else. Like I get exhausted managing myself lol let alone stress over what someone else is doing. I'm more fearful of my autonomy or independence being taken away in a relationship than fear of cheating

 

Eh. It would depend on the context, i.e., to what extent it violated the parameters of the relationship and whether or not it was representative of terminal problems in the relationship itself.