(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 22

Sign her up to Chorus and spend your day on Chorus, together.

 

Browse dank memes on the web together.

 

Been in two horrible relationships so kind of torn between the loneliness and not wanting to be fucked over again but I spend most of my time recently listening to music and talking about it to strangers on the internet so not going to have much chance in changing it anytime soon lol

 

I began posting a lot on AP after a relationship back when... and now here I am.

 

I was seeing someone long distance but it didn't work out. Single again... Blah

 

I was supposed to meet up with a girl today that I met online. Everything seemed pretty cool she was talking to me like nonstop for hours at a time and we had a lot in common. Once I started to attempt to get to know more in depth about her and get her to know me she started reacting strangely. She was constantly bringing up bars and alcohol, she seemed totally fine with the fact that i don't do those things but once I started to give her an idea why and asked about how often she did those things she started getting distant. She kept telling me to chill out when all I was doing was explaining why I feel the way I do about certain things, my uncomfortableness in shady bars and aren't belligerent people... I thought she understood.

The next day we talked a bunch and she went to a party, the strange thing was that she didn't say "I might not respond because I'll be busy" but just basically said not to bother (kinda strange). The next day out of nowhere she doesn't message me till like 4pm, tells me she's been thinking a lot and she thinks that I'm too "intense" and that isn't what she's looking for right now....

LOL

I guess that's a good excuse, just find a word that doesn't have a legit meaning and use it to tell someone why you're not interested. Just pissed me off, hipster scum is the worst. I should've known better, nothing worse than too cool for school transplants.

 

Haven't had an "official" relationship for more or less exactly four years, and that only lasted a few weeks. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

I hear you about prioritizing alcohol though. That shit drives me insane. While I agree it can make a good night even better, I think it's important to be able to enjoy life without being inebriated.

 

Pretty much. I'm not against anyone drinking every so often but she talked about it for an amount of time that isn't exactly the "norm". All she mentioned for like 20 minute spans was how she knew about this bar and that bar and what kind of booze she likes. I figured it was pretty important to mention how I felt about different situations that might impact her likeness of it. I dont need it personally but I get how other people enjoy it and there's kind of a level. If you tell me something like "I would drink every day if I didn't have work" and you tell me you drink mostly weekends then my antennas going to go up, naturally.

 

I might not have the money or emotional capacity for a relationship right now, but it doesn't stop me from trying!

 

It's been over three years since my last relationship (2+ years) ended and I went on my first date since then on Monday. I had a great time with this girl and I hope there's more.

That being said, I've really enjoyed the single life the last few years and I'm glad it happened. It allowed me to really focus in and work on myself

 

I can relate to that a lot, three years broken up as well. My relationship was about 6 years (with a few breaks here and there) but it ending really allowed me to focus on some important and essential things that I had been putting off. Sometimes those things are just for the best.

 

Sometimes I want to go back on dating sites but I know they don't work and its always the same guys on there. Can't afford match or eharmony, so not like I have that option. I'm just really lonely most of the time, and it would be nice to have someone to talk to when I'm down or just someone to vent to. My friend keeps trying to set me up with this one guy. Honestly I don't find him attractive and I had no interest in getting to know him when I met him. We're not compatible anyway.

 

I know Living Social has a special on Match. I think like $15 for a month or $25 for three. I was considering it but I'm not sure it'd be that much better than okc

 

Thats what I'm afraid of. But I feel that it might be better just because people have to pay for it.

 

Yeah I'm sure people there would probably be more serious about it. Less people on there to just browse and more willing to actually date.

 

Nice. In the three years since I'm now 4 classes from getting my degree, I've purchased a new car, and made some pretty strong friendships that I probably wouldn't have if I was still in that relationship. Sure it was lonely sometimes, but I look back on these last couple years pretty fondly.

 

How do you people feel about someone who messages you back like a week later?

 

As in it takes them a week to reply to a text or that's the first time they've texted since your last interaction? If it's the first one, that sounds like some shit to me.


Message/text/close enough

 

Right, if you message them and they don't respond for a week. That to me sounds like they aren't interested, move along. I sent a girl a message that seemed cool and she finally wrote back, like its been a week or two... Sorry the guy before me didn't work out I guess?

 

I mean, life happens. One can give people the benefit of a doubt.

 

Valid point.

 

True, hard to justify someone being on the site every day and reading a bunch of other messages though. I mean if you're really into them it doesn't matter but it you're luke warm, "eh"

 

If they've been online between then, they're likely not interested. They could have genuine reasons but probably would have told you, you can't give everyone the benefit of the doubt