(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1513

WhY iS tHaT oh my GOD someone take me out of here

 

Yes. I learned that I was in an abusive relationship and that he was attempting to isolate me from my family and friends by looking thru my phone. With time I was able to see that and leave and no longer be defensive of his behavior, but it was a process and I wouldn't say one born out of ignorance on my part. I was groomed and manipulated over a long period of time and eventually learned how to get away

 

Oh my bad I guess I just took you at your word when you said this:

And implied that her boyfriends awful behavior is some indictment on her as a person, as if someone likes being manipulated.

 

I know I said it rather aggressively, but I am serious when I say read a book on abuse. Or a website. An article. A brochure. Fucking anything. Anything that will stop you from making really messed up victim blaming statements about the VICTIMS of abusive relationships
Because it’s literally base-line, text book stuff, and is incredibly easy to educate yourself on.

That way you don’t make really offensive statements and can be a more decent and understanding person all around.

 

a partner who is controlling will go to any extent to manipulate and lie to have power over a situation. and theres no way them being awful is a reflection of someone who is on the receiving end of that. you cant devalue a victims character for that. that just aint right.

 

Nice, coworker is gone that shares room with her tomorrow so I can feel free to stop by her office tomorrow. Lol

 

It’s like the coworker is always talking 100% of the time and I think it’d be awkward tbh.

 

You're goin' on a date to her office?

 

No, just don’t want to talk to her when the coworker is there lol. The coworker is nosy AF.

 

Oh true, i could see how they'd be weird

 

NOSEY

 

Ok so when you got out of that relationship would you say you were ready to start another one or did it take time? Like a healing period?

Also I can admit my use of the word "ignorant" was wrong. I apologize for that, sincerely.

 

just stop

 

I wouldn't call it a healing period. With me personally yes it took a long time to be ready to date again and I'd say I still haven't rly dated since, but I know lots of others who have dated a lot quicker after and seem to be okay. Just depends on person/trauma/trauma response/tools/resources. Your tone towards the woman came off v negative as well as ur subsequent responses to others so I would be aware of that in future posts

 

Coworker is here WTF

 

I’m 100% bring back old cobra today because this playlist is still perfect

 

Things were gud today

 

i'm crushing so hard on this bumble lady. second date last night at her super cute apt with her adorable little pug. trying not to get too mushy but i got a good feeling she's gonna stick around for awhile

 

#PugLife

 

I just had the weirdest experience with the co-worker I have a crush on and I’m really upset about it.

we were talking at work last night and she made a joke about how my boss was behind her so I looked and no one. She did the whole just kidding and then proceeded to say oh shoot don’t want to jinx it so I need to knock on you. I went uhh why would you do that? She said she needs to knock on a virgin so are you a virgin? I just felt uncomfortable with that question and said I’m not answering it. She is like ok so I can assume you are a virgin and I said no and she went ok dang it.

It was just really weird and uncomfortable.

 

Does that change your feelings towards her?

 

what the hell is knocking on a virgin

 

she said it was her friends’ version of knocking on wood and I told her she is weird.