Discussion in 'General Forum' started by dylan, Apr 7, 2016.
I have no idea to what you are referring
@dylan help this man
I was going for like, here’s some info about me without devoting any time to constructing well thought out sentences or giving it any thought
Edit: okay yeah I put myself in someone else’s shoes reading that and I just come across like a nut. Gonna delete it and just put straight facts about me that reads like a resume
are you so tall you've cut off your head in your lead pic?
need punctuation and need to be witty
except not like the office witty that is just no
So you want him to die alone?
Ok here’s what I changed it to
I know dyl can plagiarize something again
Not writing a run on sentence would help
I was trying to appear carefree okay I have added punctuation sir
so, I’m definitely still not over this breakup.
have tried to stay in contact while still giving her space, basically texting ~once a month, just trying to keep things friendly and stay in contact. she takes her time responding, but has always been super genial.
until sunday. don’t remember if I brought it up in here or the album thread, but Copeland has always been a special band to both of us. tickets for this tour went on sale right after we parted ways, and I just instinctively bought two tickets. finally got the guts to ask her if she wanted to join me at the show next month on sunday, and also asked if she would want to catch up over coffee before then. and no response yet.
I’ve been seeing posts on IG of her and an old guy-friend of hers hanging out, they hung out before we started dating as well, but never while we were together. now he’s teaching her to drive stick, and it’s got my heart all torn up.
I’m not sure what to do at this point. I don’t want to be a creeper and straight up ask if they’re together, but also kinda feel like it’d be courteous of her to let me know? idk. when we last spoke irl, she told me if were meant to be together it could still happen someday, and my response was that I’d be willing to wait until she was ready again. and now, this.
sorry for babbling on, just had to vent a little.
Damn man, it really is a painful thing to be in that position, look really I think with break up stuff it is best to completely shut off communication, block on social media, block on anything you can see her and just let is stay that way for up to a year. That's the only thing that has ever worked for me post break up. Time will heal the wound but texting every now and then, seeing every now and then, seeing pictures of her every now and then (with or without guys) will keep that wound fresh. Just completely remove everything that can make you see or interact with her, it will be hard the first few weeks, and then you will just be used to it. If the thought comes to reach out, DONT, FUCKING DONT DO IT. If she does reach out? That's a tough one, i'd say be polite and honest and let her know you think its better you dont speak to each other right now. She will most likely undertsand.
The hardest part about this is genuinely letting go, i'm guessing she is the one that ended it, I do the same thing. I've gotten dumped and then I hang on to the idea of us getting back together when I really need to just fully let it go. There's no formula for doing that but doing what I'm suggesting is your best bet dude.
relationships are cool cuz I can have ppl bring me food free of charge. not sure of other perks.
Yeah, I'm just gonna second all of that. I'm still dealing with a somewhat similar situation from October and everything got so much easier when I decided to just unfollow/block her everywhere.
Yeah usually the person who breaks up with the other person is the one who's all "If we're meant to be together love will find a way". It's like, they enjoy the attention even though they prolly don't have malicious intentions. So they don't mind you texting them, though the ball is entirely in their court and they've probably already "moved on" or are over it while the other person hasn't.
Basically the whole reason I said that was to say, @oldjersey is weirdly correct--cut off all communication with them. Take a friend to the show and enjoy yourselves. Time is what it takes to get over it.
lmao "weirdly correct"
that’s the route i’ve been considering. I just don’t want to seem like I’m bitter and cutting her out because of that.
I did a triple take at the username after reading the post.
That's fair, that's why you make sure you are polite in doing it, you are absolutely entitled to do it. Maybe she won't react well, that doesn't matter, if she doesn't its because of reasons @Mr. Serotonin just mentioned. If she's a half decent human being (im sure she is) she will understand and be civil. If she doesn't understand good riddance bro.
yeah, I think she was trying to let me down easy but that’s the part that hurts the most.
One of my biggest regrets when I was younger (about 10 years ago - when I was 23) was spending almost a year of my life trying to hold onto a relationship that ended abruptly after four years of dating. I made myself miserable trying to keep in contact, trying to hang out, trying to keep the relationship alive and although we would continue to talk and occasionally hang out, I would always eventually be let down and hurt again and just kept digging myself deeper and deeper into a hole.
Don't do that to yourself. Move on, stop communicating, block social media accounts if you have to. Don't put your life on hold. All things I wish I had done ASAP following the break-up.
I know it's easier said than done, but it's the truth.
Yeah it is way easier said than done but it is so fuckin liberating to do. Just gotta take it a day at a time, I feel like having a friend know about it and holding you accountable to it also helps alot.
This sounds agonisingly familiar.