(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1436

I used to respond and kind of kick start the conversation @bigmike and every single time it goes nowhere, much like @supernovagirl outlined.

I also can’t do one word responses. To me, that shows you’re not interested and are probably just bored and responding while waiting for something else to happen. My time is valuable too, so if you’re gonna just “good”, “cool”, “yeah”, “same” me after I write out a few sentences or paragraphs then exit out of my inbox.

 

My area is your area. I might give OKC a try. I don't know.

 

I tend to give one word responses out of an anxiety whoops

 

Oh hell yeah I see. Well if you're looking for a ""goth gf"" or whatever that meme is you should give it a shot, couldn't hurt. I actually sort of met one of my closest friends off OKC.

 

I just can’t seem to have good conversations over text or on an app with people I’m not already close with. I hate the pressure to say something witty or unique, I don’t know you!

I’ve also gotten really good at not trying to have conversations with people who don’t sometimes start the conversation themselves.

 

I agree with that, I will say I've been on literally two tinder dates (third one hopefully next week, but that will be a 2nd date) and both of them I had an idea of who I am, but had never talked to either of them beforehand. However, consider the source cause idk what I'm talking about really.

 

I generally look at the person's bio and see if there is anything I can mention in a starter conversation before I swipe on them. If they start conversation first, i'll just give a general how is your day/night before trying to go into conversation.

 

My fav is "whatcha up to"

 

Getting the "hey" or "hi" is fine and I'll usually respond with "how's it going" - and this is mostly on Bumble - but I often won't get a response to that, which like, ??? you messaged me lol

 

Right bc it’s like obviously I’m not doing anything too exciting otherwise I wouldn’t be on this dating app lol

 

You mean y’all don’t ask what their ketchup policy is?

 

I mean, I am able to not be cynical cause I feel like I hit the jackpot last spring and don't have to go through online dating or anything like that. Plus it mostly was dependent on how I was mentally. Last winter I was in a real rough spot and I was super cynical with dating apps and whatnot and I feel like that came across cause I'm bad at hiding it and that likely impacted my dating.

Yeah, time is a valuable commodity but I also have to ask: how much time out of your day is it to respond to people? Like, I would do it while I was in the bathroom or during my lunch break. Idk, on the one hand I get valuing your time. On the other hand it doesn't take that long to type out a paragraph or whatever.

Plus, like Ian mentioned, some people giving one word answers could be doing so for reasons that aren't anywhere close to disinterest. Anxiety and shyness are real things that I think are worth keeping in mind.

 

Also, i do understand that as a man on a dating site, I'm in a good position to be able to give the benefit of the doubt to whoever I'm messaging at the time, because my experience is wayyyy easier than any women's experience on there. So I get 2000% why women would be cynical and jaded about it and that's absolutely valid. In their position, I'd probably just be celibate the rest of my life.

 

the pizza on pineapple worked for a good few months when I was on dating apps a while back.

 

Whoa. That’s bold

 

I’m blocking you

 

Thank you

 

It me

I wish my brain could grasp the concept of moving on. Like, sometimes I *feel* a shift happening, and when I’m reminded of how I felt with my last breakup I’m surprised by how similar it is. So I tell myself that if I got over that, this won’t be any different. But then the other part of me is like “your feelings were different!” And I get stuck in this place where I’m just so defeated by the idea of any kind of life without him, even though I know I would ‘match better’ with someone else, and know I ‘deserve’ better

 

I just ask girls to rank Kanye albums

 

@daisy

 

I once saw a bio where a girl said fuck Kanye and I was like damn

 

it depends on when this was, now it would be appropriate, he yelled at Drake for following his wife on Insta he's a mess

 

this was like maybe right when he had his breakdown on tour

 

back when I still fucked with him

 

Damn dude, that’s crazzzyyyy