(Reasons We're Probably Not) Dating Or In A Relationship Thread NSFW • Page 1435

*intensely deep sigh*

 

is this a chorus user?

 

what the fuckkk

 

No. The mutual friend of one who added me on fb
I dont blame the chorus user lol

 

knew that was gonna be bad after "so ripped i forget my name" but sheesh

*insert Jerry leaving the theater gif*

 

So I finally got bumble to work on phone - any of y'all wanna take a crack at my profile? I can just post it here, I actually have changed it a lot since yesterday and I kinda like where it's at but constructive criticism is always welcomed

Did you that person know? Not that it is my business but I'd wanna know if someone I'm friends on there with was like that cause that's not cool!!!

 

I told them of the original encounter but not the follow up. But obviously they frequent all these threads so I’m sure they will see it lol

 

I’d help because I used to have huge game but according to @CobraKidJon my bios only work for LA girls

 

I have zero idea what I would ever put in my profile. I can't think of anything that would make me stand out for a sea of other dudes.

 

Honestly I just used a quote from SpongeBob, it worked pretty well

 

I’ve had tinder for like 6 days and zero matches is exactly what I expected tbh.

I just don’t think I’m cut out for dating apps.

 

which one?
yeah I think I'd do a quote or pop culture thing that portrays my vibe more

 

I just reluctantly signed up for Bumble, mostly because I'm not in a position currently to message first. In the first day I've had 10+ matches, but not a single one was my vibe at all. Does OKC or POF have more "alternative" girls? Or Is just the whole world on Tinder?

 

"I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning I break my legs and every afternoon I break my arms. At night, I lie awake in agony until my heart attacks put me to sleep."

Works every time

 

Yeah I've noticed that too - also literally every message I've gotten has been what's up/how are you/hey, dunno what I'm supposed to do with that. Pretty annoying tbh if this was Tinder and I said that I would get a message back 0% of the time

I've never used POF but OKC does in my experience, could be ur area tho.

 

when i used online dating sites in the past i would specifically call out in my profile, "please say more than "hi", "hey", ":)", "what's up", "how are you" in your message. there is literally nothing i can do with that and probably won't take the time to try and craft a message back since you're too lazy to send an original message."

and 90% of the messages i'd get would be those type of messages.

and sometimes i'd message back, "did you read my profile". and every single time the answer would be no (to those messages).

guys pretty much only look at pictures and women pretty much do the same damn thing - based on who messages. i've had success with online dating and those successes have come from women reading my profile and sending an actual message i can respond to. but i imagine the people who just send "hey :)" messages look at a picture or two and then send the message.

 

Why would you respond back? Seems clear they didn’t read your profile

 

sometimes i'd try and figure out why they didn't read the profile. usually i'd only respond back if i'd read in their profile that they didn't want guys just emailing "your hot" so i'm like HELLO POT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK, YOU JUST DID THIS YOUR DAMN SELF!

 

Nice, man. You definitely taught those people a lesson they’ll never forget

 

improving the internet one at a time. every little bit helps.

 

Getting short messages like “hey” or “how are you” never bothered me because that’s how conversations start in IRL. It isn’t that hard to say “I’m great thank you, how are you doing?” And after that response spin into an actual conversation.

Why’re y’all looking for something super specific as an opener? The person took their time — no matter how small of an amount — to message you out of thousands of other thirsty motherfuckers, so roll with it.

 

Thats deff my problem I want “alternative” partners and everyone around here are rednecks or normies lol

Omg nooo it’s becsuse literally 99.999% of the time the conversation consists of “hey how are you/hey what’s up?” “Hey, I’m good, just at work, you” “yeah, I’m just watching some Netflix” ....end of conversation. SOMETIMES as a woman there’s the bonus round “want to meet up for drinks tonight?” Or my favorite, some variation of, “let’s fuck” I absolutely do not have it in me to have 1000 conversations that go nowhere. I also think having a personalized message that shows they read your profile is just the no brainer way to have a conversation topic AND prove they read your profile/care about more than your pics.

 

Well, obviously things are different for women, @supernovagirl. Whole different world in online dating y’all have. For men though, they get one tenth the amount of messages. I don’t know, maybe because of my work I’ve conditioned myself to entertain every ridiculously boring conversation but I just never viewed it as “they messaged me they must drive the conversation.” If I’m not gonna meet them half way and try to spark more of a conversation than “I’m good” or “not much” then I shouldn’t be on the website in the first place.

As always, that’s my experience/opinion and obviously it’s not universal.

 

True, I’m also at a place in life of only even entertaining the idea of someone if they’re going to put in the amount of effort I desire, so I guess that weeds that out as well.
Also, I mean, the bolded could probably be said about me too

 

I mean your attitude is much better @bigmike lol mine is cynical and bitter and will leave me dying alone because I didn’t respond to my soul mate’s “hey, how are you?”