Mental Health Thread • Page 501

All the therapists I’ve seen have been at government agencies or large group practices. I’ve experienced a ton of roll over in these places so I’ve had a new therapist like every year or so. It’s really annoying but it’s too hard for me to search private therapists myself. I can’t imagine the stress of having to drop a therapist because of a betrayal like that, good luck and thoughts to you.

 

I would ask for my money back if my therapist took a hard right turn in the session, especially as they should know whether you'd be into it or not from your previous sessions.

 

I’ve been trying to go do things alone more bc I’m sick of constantly feeling like I’m missing out bc I have no one to ask to go with me. I’m getting more and more comfortable with it but some days it just really hits and I just feel so alone. I just thought things would be different and I’m honestly terrified that things aren’t going to ever change and this is just how my life is going to be. And everyone always says things will get better but I’ve been alone my whole life so it’s hard to picture anything changing when it never has before. I just want to feel loved for once. To feel like I’m actually someone’s priority and not an afterthought. It’s just hard coming home to an empty house every day.

 

Same sis. The feeling of loneliness is just a normal feel and I just want to be loved. I don’t think it’s in the cards for me. ):

 

I really want to try therapy again but it’s so expensive or hard to find someone that takes my insurance and the thought of paying or putting in the effort just to not like my therapist and start over seems like such fruitless endeavor to me right now. I really did not like my experience the one time I tried it, but I know it works for so many people. And I know I really need help right now I just have no idea where to get it.

 

It's daunting, but I feel really fortunate that my psyche referred me to a new counselor who was able to get me in within two-three weeks.

 

Having all my medical diagnoses be considered “women’s issues” really fucking sucks bc that just means none of it will be taken seriously. And if you finally find a dr who does it’s basically well bc this issue is something that affects mainly women, there has been zero funding or research so you’re on your own!!! It took 10 years and multiple drs to finally be told I have endometriosis only to find out my only solution is birth control which only lessens the issues. I can have surgery but it’s only a temporary relief bc it just comes back and good luck trying to get a hysterectomy bc I don’t have kids. I’m 34 and have never wanted children but I’m always hit with “what if your future husband wants them???” Then he’s not my future husband bc I’m not going to marry someone who wants kids and fuck your hypotheticals! I’m a grown woman, let me do what I want. I’m also 99% positive I have PMDD but every time I say hey, I feel like I am literally going crazy every month for an entire week before my period and am suicidal, they just say it’s PMS and normal. No it’s not!!! I’ve been to literally every OB GYN in my area and have received zero help. I just want to feel normal!! I shouldn’t have to find random home remedies on TikTok to try. I’m exhausted and defeated and want to scream!

 

I'm really getting steamed about the state of American healthcare and insurance and how bullshit it is. Something needs to change soon because we can't keep going on like this. I can't take this. It's insane.

 

Feeling stressed and overwhelmed at work. Feeling alone and completely vacant at home. Just completely aimless

 

She’s free to choose the work she wants but the evangelical questioning at your therapy session has to violate some licensure ethical standard. So inappropriate

 

I’m a therapist AMA

Can’t promise I’ll fix your issues, but I am a therapist and like talking about this stuff, so what’s good

 

I feel like ozempic has helped normalize eating disorders and it's so bizarre and sad. I know of a few ppl on it and I guess I always thought it would help curb your appetite so if you overate it would help you eat a more idk typical serving size? And maybe these people just take a high dose but it's wild. My good friend was confused why she was hungry because she had one of those single serving yogurt cups and one slice of cheese the whole day and it was noon so she shouldn't be hungry already and I'm like ??????

Everyone I know on it talks about how they barely eat anything all day and it just weighs on me. Sometimes it's legit upsetting to hear and idk what to say or if I should say anything. And then other days when my clothes are snug I wonder if should be on it too. Ugh.

 

Have a final interview next week and i am so anxious and ready for it to be over.

put a ton of effort and time into this presentation they wanted (not a product, but presenting why i am the best candidate) because i want to make it obvious i care and want the role.

if i dont get it, i might die lol that might just be it lol

 

I really don’t know what thread to put this in. I was looking over my bank statements because I wanted to see how much money I was spending on groceries/food per month. Then i decided to go through and see all the places my ex made me pay for my own meal when we went out to eat (mostly his idea and we didn’t go out to eat very much). I came to find the only time he paid was our first date, and when he had a gift card. Then one other time, which was about a month before he broke my heart. I also came to find one place we went to, was no where on my bank statement or debit or credit, and I never pay in cash nor do I carry cash on me. And I know what we were doing they day. All those times I was humiliated because you don’t do that to your partner. Idk why it didn’t come to me at the time to talk to my therapist about it. Also if I confronted my ex at the time, it would have caused an argument so I never said anything.

 

Going with a positive post tonight,

I didn't start building a life until I was 26, I was a miserable drug addict before that. Tomorrow I will finally move into my own apartment, my own space, i've never had anything close to resembling that. It took much longer than I thought it would, but looking back I wouldn't change anything. Being patient with my life and staying out of my own way has done such wonders for me in the past decade.

I've learned so many lessons, about life and mostly about myself. Especially these past 5 years, i've been extremely single and have truly just focused on myself. I stand today feeling better about myself than ever and it just would not have happened had all the things I wanted just came into my life very quickly. Tonight feels surreal, tomorrow will feel surreal, for a long time I wasn't sure any of this would be possible.

 

doing horrible. experienced an ultimate betrayal that has made me have to reevaluate everything I thought I knew about my relationship with this person. I have been experiencing every manipulation and gaslighting tactic in the book since confronting them. I am reeling. I am sad. I don’t understand why or how. I don’t know how to move forward. And I hate myself for still wanting this person to have a place in my life when all they’ve done is hurt me. I don’t think I’ve ever been hurt this much by another person

 

I can relate to this

 

I'm struggling. Things are good in the day-to-day. Great wife, new exciting job starting soon, good circle of friends, and I'm enjoying sobriety after years of struggles with alcohol.

Right now I've got my 5-month old boy sleeping in my arms and I'm enjoying time with him on the couch, but it all feels, messy and uncertain.

Not the day-to-day life stuff I mentioned, just the state of things globally. It all feels like it won't get better and we're just in a cycle of every day getting worse. Today's shooting is causing so much discourse. Social media is a cesspool of doom. AI is now everywhere, with people saying "ChatGPT it" instead of "Google it.". Everything is getting more expensive and my salary will soon not be able to keep up. There's just so much chaotic noise everywhere and I want it to stop. It feels like rational and kind thinking is long gone, and I'm longing for a world that no longer exists, and I'm only 35.

Is getting off Instagram for a while the answer? Is all of this social media/AI shit meant to make me feel like this and by me engaging with it it's just doing its job? I'm just in a pit of despair over the world my boys will grow up in, and how the back half of my life will look. It's all fucked.

 

Glad to hear you're in a great space in your life. That's gotta be the motivating factor to push through these dark days. I feel the exact same way and just don't know how to react/respond. Is just getting off social media all together the answer? Putting the phone down a little more and disconnecting? Honestly, I just don't even know. But all of it feels like its completely smothering me with negativity.

 

I don't know if getting off social media is THE answer, but selfish as it is, disconnecting from a media machine designed to make me feel despair day in and day out has 100% helped me become more present with the blessings and problems that are right in front of me. I only use a select few sites for specific things now, and I highly recommend that selective approach.

 

I relate to you on so many points.

ChatGPT i used for fun to make logos for my friends home gym... little did i know i would use it a week later for 2 weeks in hospital with my son to help me understand his issues. For all it was good... i saw the writing on the walls for my job with it. Already starting to see it in practice.

Is getting off social media the answer? It probably is a bit. I remember when the 6 o'clock news was religously watched by everyone in the UK prior to rise of social media/web. It ended up just an hour of negativity. Through my uni years i made a point of not keeping up to date with news. Mainly as i didnt have the time for it. I think i was happier for it. Yet here i am, new born in tow, and flick open bbc news to see the latest Kirk updates. With all respects to Kirk, why am i stealing time from my family to look at it? I dont even stay in the same country. Ironically... me moaning about the 6 0clock news, also it compartmentalised it to that time. Rather than continously doom scrolling.

 

I've been off Instagram, the last social media platform I used, since June and feel so much better. I miss it sometimes when I just want to share something dumb that pops into my head, but the positive of not being on there far outweighs whatever I was gaining from it. I know I would've been a wreck all day yesterday getting into it with people I know and strangers alike. We're not meant to digest all of this on 24/7 basis. If your gut is telling you that separating yourself from that will help, it probably will. And if it doesn't you can always go back, but maybe with a reevaluation of your relationship with it. I feel like we've been trained to need to hear about something first and to immediately process and comment on it when that is not important and is actively doing harm.

 

Are there any people in here who struggle with anxious attachment and have any advice on how to actually work through it? I understand the problem but putting solutions into practice is hard to find information on. I met someone and she's amazing, but I'm afraid of sabotaging it.