Mental Health Thread • Page 498

Has anyone had ANY luck finding jobs lately? I desperately need a new one and I'm really struggling. The market seems so bad. I've seen so many videos and heard so many stories of people going months and months unemployed. If anyone has any guidance or tips that would be great. My job is sucking the life out of me and I don't think I can last much longer.

It makes me miserable to be around. I wake up, I drive all the way to work, I go to work, I get out of work, I drive home and then I go to bed and do it all over again. This is no way to live.

 

We see the occasional success story in the Job Discussion/Complaints thread, but largely those feel like the minority these days. Still, if you’re looking for any tips, that might be the place to poke around. I personally spent the majority of 2024 looking for a new gig before just getting burnt out and resorting to deal with my current job, which despite its flaws I am very grateful to have right now

 

just a few weeks into the process so haven't gotten anything yet but all I can say is just be prepared for it to suck, getting ghosted, going through ghost jobs on Linkedin that are magically filled overnight, having to figure out what's spam and see the words AI in listings so much that your eyes roll out of your head

But I've been running on empty and burnt out for years and that was gonna kill me, which would be an issue because my old job did not have health insurance

 

The spam thing sucks so bad. You’ve gotta have a rotted, hollow pit where your soul used to be if you’re out there trying to scam folks who are just trying to keep food on the table and a roof over their heads

 

I’ve been on the job hunt so long I have no hope. Just sort of keeping onward anyway

 

It took me about 4 months to get an offer. Only company that I interviewed with and it’s not something that pays well or really what I want to be doing but I don’t really have any other options at the moment. I’m still looking for something that is more in line with what I want in terms of salary, job duties, and location but can’t afford to be picky right now. All of which to say I feel for you all, it really sucks.

 

I'm tired, boss. Every time I think I'm doing well and on the up and up I get knocked down.

Our Air Conditioner is broken so it's just absolutely miserably until tomorrow (hopefully) when we can a replacement stalled.

I applied for the VA Burial allowance for my dad but apparently I don't qualify for it because he wasn't on VA Disability or anything.

I hate to be angry at my dad for dying but fuck me. He took my entire disability payment from my GBS. 2 months of payments just gone. I'm frustrated and sad and angry and I hate that it all boils down to money but God dammit.

 

Hearing about the job market, which I already mostly knew, just really brought me down. I can't physically keep doing this job. Everything is so fucked in this country.

 

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's also the worst fucking feeling when something bad happens everything seems to stack on top of it. It's like being dogpiled by grief and misfortune. I'm wishing you the best through this. I really wish everything didn't revolve around money.

 

Adding on to this, because literally nothing has improved:

I'm fucking tired of everything always going wrong, and I'm fucking tired of people feeling sorry for me. And there is nothing I hate more than being called "resilient". Yes, I'm fully aware people usually mean well when they say it, but I shouldn't have to be. Like, I'm "resilient" because I have to be in order to survive. But I should not have to be in the first place. It's not fucking fair that people like my brother get to cruise through life because he had everything handed to him on a silver platter and I was basically always told to fuck off whenever I asked for any sort of help. I don't want people to feel sorry for me because that doesn't fucking help anything. I just want all of this to fucking stop, but it feels like it never will.

 

man a lot is going on. I am learning to support myself emotionally through the constant disappointments instead of overrelying on other people like I used to. but shit is HARD lol. I'm craving any kind of positive response from the universe to the point that when Zohran won I just dove into all the coverage for a week and basically ignored most other stuff. I feel like I might be gradually getting better at handling all the setbacks and tragedies piling up and then something else happens that'll just like debilitate me again.

I guess I never picked up the skill of picking myself up and now Im getting way too much practice

 

does anyone feel guilt when someone close to you is really severely struggling while you’re doing fine? and then you get a little resentful they refuse to reach out to you even though you know when you’ve been in that situation the last thing you wanted to do was reach out to anybody and you’d ignore every supportive text you got? I feel selfish for even thinking this way

 

Just found out I have shingles.. at 30. Wtf man

 

Sorry to hear! I got it in my late 20s, so it definitely happens if you had chicken pox in the past. Wasn't a huge deal, just some itchiness and irritation on one side of my middle back. A few days of antivirals did the trick! I did hear it can cause nerve issues if you waited too long for treatment, but I think that's still relatively rare, especially in young adults.

 

Yeah it looks like we caught it early. It’s funny cuz I’m having muscle spasms all week and I assumed it was just cause I moved 2 couches last weekend. When the rash showed up yesterday that made me question things

 

Does seem like that's a symptom of shingles (didn't happen to me), but moving couches absolutely could do it too! I have a history of back issues and know muscle spasms all too well lol. That's great you caught it so soon after the rash showed up, though!

 

I got shingles in my late 20s out of nowhere. It was on my face and neck, I remember I had to cancel a job interview because of it

 

Oof that sucks man, I wasn't aware you could get it on your face too!

 

Thankfully work was very understanding lol

 

I got it at like 27 I think

 

I got it last year at 38, somewhere right around now actually. Actually might have been September. As you can see from the other responses in here, it's unfortunately become less uncommon with younger people. Too much fucking stress in the world to keep it together and you shouldn't feel bad about what's happening to you. It sucks, no doubt there, but I was so grateful last year when other folks in here told me last year to hang in there so I'll repeat that to you. Take care of yourself as well as you can.

 

Yep. Happened to me

 

Had a very stressful time three years ago. Started out as a really weird sharp pain in my shoulder and neck randomly. Then went away. A day later my wife spotted the lines of rash marks and luckily got on antibiotics right away. I was lucky cuz it was on my back and shoulder mostly. I’ve heard horror stories of people getting it on their face

 

I don't even wanna tell y'all where my mom had hers. For me, its mostly on my thigh, with the spasms. Which, all things considered, could be much worse.

 

Thanks for the well wishes y'all!