Mental Health Thread • Page 484

that got better pretty quickly for me. the first 2 weeks i was petrified i would hurt him in some way and now im so much more confident. we also had a very traumatic birth experience which made both of us incredibly anxious, but it faded as he started doing better and better.

 

All 3 of my girls were smooth (relatively speaking - for me at least)

SUre, they were all jaundiced, one was born with severe multiple food allergies, but at age 21+ for all 3, they are managing just fine.

 

the last six months have been so rough since we put my daughter in daycare. we haven't had back to back weeks since august that one of the three of us, if not two or all three, haven't been sick or injured or something and it's weighing on me lol. just want things to get back to normal but the more I hear from my friends with older kids they're just like "yeah this is normal! enjoy!!" and ugh. Sorry to vent, I know this is relatively small potatoes, just frustrating and it has had me in a funk the last few weeks/months.

 

It’s not small potatoes at all! Being sick all the time or worried about getting sick constantly is very stressful. It’s so bad in schools around here that they’ve been temporarily closing at some point each winter because of low attendance due to illness. I do not remember it being this bad when I was a kid. Im sitting next to a sick kid right now. I’m happy if we go a month without being sick.

 

its rough with my wife and i's jobs too, if she's sick and has to stay home either I have to take a day of PTO or my wife works from home while with holly and can't really get anything done while also still having to do emails and shit and not able to fully dedicate the time to holly. I'm hopeful that with the weather warming up a bit we'll get a bit of a break soon

 

I posted like 3 weeks ago but yeah we’ve all been sick 3-4 times the last 2 months. It’s been rough. I totally get it

 

Just like simple stuff a cold here and there. Then 3 weeks ago we all got the flu BAD. I missed work which I never do.

 

we've had sinus infections, pneumonia, ear infections, RSV, norovirus, pink eye, and then our dog had an infection in her stomach and my finger currently has stitches from an accident lol. just one thing after another. enough already!

 

A day full of self-doubt over my potential moving plans. maybe it's foolish.

 

and now my daughter has the flu. fun!!

 

my mom died unexpectedly when i was 6 weeks old. my son turned 6 weeks old yesterday. my wife has been having intermittent chest pain since just a few days before he was born. all the doctors she’s seen so far have said it’s probably related to her anxiety, but i know my wife and i know it’s not just anxiety. yesterday she had all the symptoms of what id usually consider a panic attack except without any feelings of panic. that lasted for about 20 minutes, but the chest pain remained for hours. she describes it as tightness and like a fist is pushing into her chest. we decided the safest thing to do would be to take her to the er to get checked out. we ended up dropping elliott off with a friend so i could be with shyann in the hospital. we’re both so anxious about exposing him to illness since the flu is going around so bad right now. shyann is fine and they ruled out all the scary stuff, but we still don’t really have answers. she’ll have to follow up with her pcp and potentially see a specialist. going through that when i was already having all kinds of feelings about elliott turning 6 weeks really fucked me up. literally no one knows exactly what happened to my mom. it’s the greatest mystery of my life. there is no possible way i could do this without my wife and the idea of losing her was so overwhelming. i’m going to be on edge for a while, i think.

 

That is really tragic about your mom and scary about your wife. It’s easy to make that connection but hopefully it’s reassuring that tests are ruling out some really bad stuff. I know when I was going through a period of stress about 10 years ago I was getting chest pains to the point of going to the ER. I was told over and over its stress and mental but that was just baffling to me that it could cause such distinct pain. The mind body connection is really wild, hopefully that’s all it is and it will get under control. I haven’t had that pain since.

 

My health anxiety has me spiralling. I just want to be okay.

 

back at the er for the same stuff. this shit sucks.

 

I'm sorry. That's gotta be brutal right now.

 

*whole house

 

Sorry you are going through the sicknesses, but yeah - this is all part of having kids.

My 3 daughters are now 21+, and when all 3 were younger, there were colds, therre were all sorts of things. They were not in day care, as wife stayed home with them, while I worked.

There were days missed from school, doctor appointments constantly....

It gets better, But the early years are lots of 'is it this....' ? Lots of trips to CVS for ear thermometers, cold medication, RX'es, it never ended....

But it did end, eventually... And you just have to ride it out. Young kids going to school, daycare, etc... They will bring home everything.

Do the best you can!'

 

Both of my kids have been on and off sick for the past 2 months. Some seasons are just worse than others

 

My wife somehow dodged it but I’m sorry to hear. It was a very rough week and a half for us.

 

I had a fever and aches that would come back at night for three nights in a row

 

Currently spirsling because they sent back my wife's post-birth umbilical cord tests back, which I didn't even know were a thing, and our baby's oxygen saturation was CRITICALLY low, and even though his oxygen was fine in the hospital after birth, I have no idea what that means or how long it was like that because no one fucking called to review the results or tell us anything so now I'm gonna panic about my child being brain-damaged until I can get someone on the phone tomorrow. Un-fucking-real.

 

if it helps at all, elliott didn’t take a breath on his own after being born and had to essentially be resuscitated because he wasn’t breathing and his heart stopped. it was only about 5 minutes. but it was 5 minutes without oxygen. he’s completely fine now and has shown 0 side effects from the whole ordeal. hoping the best for your little guy.

 

This is helpful and I really appreciate you sharing. I'm glad Elliott and you all are okay