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tw animal abuse

pretty sure i saw someone throw a cat out of their car on the freeway this morning. was getting on the on ramp on a packed freeway doing probably 70 when all of a sudden theres a cat flailing and sliding on the road in front of me trying to get on it's feet. i dodged it and so did the car behind me but the freeway was so packed i'm doubtful it made it. the freeway is pretty guarded by huge cement walls so im not sure how else it would have gotten in that situation. i'm at work trying not to break down in tears. people fucking suck

 

What the fuck that's absolutely horrible and disgusting

 

We've each accompanied the other to our individual therapists to talk about her OCD and our dynamic, which is very much her not wanting to mother me and me not wanting to be mothered, but her struggling with control due to her OCD. We'll be seeing both therapists next week, so hopefully we can both get out what we need to in a safe space and find some tangible steps we can take to get healthy.

 

I love getting fucked up and I’m not sure I’ll ever fully understand why or be able to rise above it. But it’s probably my favorite thing ever?

 

Anyway, the best thing I’ve done lately is starting to read books again. I highly recommend everyone check out Unmasking Autism by Devon Price, especially if you’ve ever dealt with anxiety, bipolar, borderline personality, ADHD, HSP, autistic, neurodivergent, etc. symptoms; probably the 2nd most important “self-help/personal journey” book I’ve ever read.

 

I very much share this feeling, particularly when I am fucked up. When the anxiety comes around when I sober up...not so much.

 

I don’t know when it specifically started happening, but my self esteem has gotten lower and lower in the last few years. I’ve gotten rid of a lot of stressors in my life, but I still find myself super defensive and unconfident in any of my thoughts or abilities. It’s really started to bring me down into a depressive state.

I’m not in a spot where I can reliably go to a therapist right now (not working, but traveling a decent amount. So I both can’t afford one or have a settled schedule to go week to week). I was going to read some books to help. One I saw recommended a lot was The Six Pillars of Self Esteem, but then I read about the author being a former lover and peer of Ayn Rand so I’m hesitant to get too deep into that. Anyone have any suggestions on books or methods to try?

 

my hyper fixation is bangin dope

 

(I’m 7 months clean today)

 

Blah. My parents have been split up for like a decade now, but they seemed to at least be on ok terms. We all got together last Christmas with both of them and had a good time, nothing seemed amiss. Now my sister is visiting from Colorado for Thanksgiving and she was saying to my mom in a group text with her and my other sister that we should all get together again and my mom said that my dad is no longer welcome in her home and that she's tried hard to extend the olive branch for years, but needs to set a firm boundary now. Not sure where this is coming from. But a bummer.

I get the feeling he kinda screwed her with the alimony deal. But that was years ago and they've hung out since then so I'm not sure what changed. Her fiance is rich af regardless

 

Just sort of drifting through each day lately. Struggling a lot to find enjoyment in anything i do. Not being as productive during working hours as I should be.

 

My mom just dumped her and my dad's dirty laundry on me and my sisters in a text and the three of us are texting on the side like what the fuck she really didn't have to do that haha.

She says she respects our private time with our dad and doesn't want to put us in the middle of things and then immediately talks shit about him right after about how he is apparently taking her to court completely unprompted and it's just... Not something any of us wanted to hear

She didn't say why he's taking her to court though. I'm guessing he's probably arguing that he shouldn't have to pay her alimony if she's engaged and living with her rich fiance who takes her on fancy trips like every few fucking weeks. All she does now is brag about the cool places they went together and never reaches out to us kids otherwise except for holidays.

Like I get it, she was a house wife and hasn't worked since before I was born, so if she and her fiance ever broke up, she would be on the street with no work skills. But idk. My dad has a lot of health problems due to having POTS and took a pay cut pretty soon after buying his house because he can't work as much now. Just a shitty situation and I'm not feeling great about it.

 

man my parents aren’t perfect and even tho they’re together I know it’s barely hanging on by a thread most days but they would never in a million years involve any of their kids in their marital problems thank god

 

Yeah I don't know what the fuck happened to my mom over like the last ten years since they divorced. Growing up she was legit like my best friend and the greatest mom. She was always fighting for me with doctors and my school while I was a sick kid and was always there. And now she just blows us off and is doing shit like this and I never in a million years would have expected this from her

 

It's just been a fucked situation forever though. I grew up in a super conservative Catholic household. Then one day they sat us down when all three of us were in college and told us that my dad is gay and they've known this and been in a loveless marriage for our entire upbringing because they didn't want to burden us with having divorced parents and being bullied for having a homosexual father, so they agreed to stay married until we all became adults. I would have very much preferred them to go their separate ways when I was little and give them both a shot for happiness haha. I love them both. I love to see them happy with their current partners today.

I've been stuffing down being upset about it for ten years, but today it's just really taking a hit to me emotionally. Definitely need to find a new therapist haha.

 

My parents were experts at putting us in the middle of their marital problems lol. Loling thru the trauma. I'm with my dad's side rn because a relative is passing soon and my mom is being weird about it. Offered to go with me which I guess is nice but also weird? I don't think my dad wants his ex wife around when he's going thru this even tho they're not on super hostile terms these days. Then my mom was telling me to take lots of pics of everyone and I was like uhh it's a bit of a somber occasion and nobody wants to commemorate it like that. She tried to push and say we'll regret it if we dont take pics while we're all together because it's so rare and I'm like girl are you good? I'd wonder if she's wishes she could be here but honestly she's so awkward in situations like this I think she's just clueless. It's not a happy family reunion

 

Rare positive post, I've met a lot of great people through our local Horror Fest since joining last year but one girl in particular has become one of my best friends so quickly. We both love watching and talking movies, we do the podcast together, and her husband has OCD, so the four of us can hang out and talk through tough topics together. It's just really great to make a new adult friend who understands boundaries (so important) and shares your interests. She's hosting a horror book club on Sunday and asked me to go because she's nervous, and I'm nervous because it's not a typical social situation for me, but I feel like we have a very symbiotic and respectful relationship when it comes to gently pushing each other into new experiences. She (and her husband) rock and I'm very grateful for their company.

 

Came home last night and my dog got sick everywhere in the house from both ends after we were out for a few hours. He was totally fine before we left. He hasn’t really eaten but he’s still drinking normally. Really trying not to spiral

 

Something has been off with my boy the last few days and I’m stressing, especially since he had some serious health issues a few years ago.

 

I hate waking up anxious. Sundays are the worst. Shouldn't even count as a weekend day.

 

Fingers crossed and all love for our guys. Hope you’re doing ok

 

great way to cap off a horrible slow weekend at work where I made no money: getting food poisoning and having to call out!! I feel so guilty calling out too even tho my manager is cool as shit and I’ve made clear repeatedly I will not call out unless I absolutely have to I still feel awful having only been here for two months and already needing to call out but I am legitimately very sick

 

The last half hour has been a roller coaster. My dad found out he needs another surgery on his arm to correct a floating bone and the plate they put in after the dog bite. I guess he was pretty emotional about it because it's been five months of healing and not having full use of that arm/hand, and this will extend that healing period by 3-4 months. Then, the District Justice called and told me parents that the neighbor pleaded guilty, so no need for the rescheduled hearing. I would imagine him admitting to criminal responsibility should make the civil suit go over well. Someone also told my mom that they are looking at moving, which means whatever happens to the dog, they will feel safe being in their own yard again, which would be a major win. Not confirmed yet, but we'll see. It's a lot of information to digest, and it's emotional, but surgery aside, it's all good stuff I think. I hope. It does make me want to drink 1000 beers though.

 

Update on the above^ The cops are useless and filed the wrong charge for my dad's attack, which occurred second, meaning the dog has evaded the "dangerous dog" label and they get to keep it. Absolutely unreal. Makes me wonder if the neighbor knows someone over there. So basically, my parents get to be afraid to step into their own yard for the foreseeable future. I told them they should go after the state. I'm just so angry for them and I hate how much they're going through because of this asshole. Their lawyer said it is possible the insurance company could force them to do something with the dog, but it's unlikely. None of this will really matter if they move, but I'm worried something will happen and that won't come into fruition.

 

That is miserable, I'm sorry. Would they be comfortable carrying pepper spray (or something a little more lethal) with them? It really sounds like this dog is extremely dangerous.