Mental Health Thread • Page 433

You absolutely don't have to apologize. I'm alone as well and finding a new place is mentally taxing.

 

All the good places start at like 1700 for a 1 bed. I’ll read reviews and if there’s any recent mention of bad staff, drugs, crime, rodents/roaches of the sort, it’s a nope. Only bc I’ve been through that. I would just move back home but my dad doesn’t like how much my cat sheds (plus he’s a terror and would break things), and i would get treated like a child and it’s just damaging to my mental health.

 

Have you considered Nor Cal? The Central Valley isn’t so bad in a lot of places and is much more reasonable. At least it was when I was there.

 

I live in nor cal. It be hard to find time to visit the areas of the Central Valley and I have to find a new job, which isn’t an issue and makes it easier for my to leave my current job, but the hard part is finding a new one. I rather move to the bay but it’s so fucking more expensive.

 

Found an apartment complex that might work. Decent reviews, compared to nearly everything that has poor reviews. I did a virtual tour and it seemed like there’s plenty of storage space for my needs. Maybe this is a sign for me to (finally) quit my job and find somewhere else and get paid more so I can maybe afford it. I hope they take co signers if I can’t make it on my own (a huge problem these days is you can make enough to afford rent but everything skyrockets in price that nobody can afford it). According to apartments don’t com there’s no availability as of now.

 

I think I'm gonna snap.

For over a month now I've had extremely painful ulcer symptoms where my stomach feels like it's on fire and like I got shot simultaneously. I can only eat stuff like plain chicken, brown rice and multi grain bread now. My doctor referred me to one gastroenterologist who booked me out to May. And then we're trying to get me in with another but the referral has gotten screwed up twice. I broke down to my mom sobbing because I'm scared I'm gonna die because no specialists will see me (I also have a bunch of other medical issues I don't really wanna get into), when I rarely talk to her these days. Then today I saw a different doctor in that practice because mine was busy and she was immediately so much more knowledgeable, I felt seen and heard, and she goes "do you want me to test you for an ulcer? I just gotta look for bacteria and then I give you antibiotics". ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. My primary care NEVER told me this could be done. I'm so heartbroken, let down, and feeling betrayed.

When I got home I immediately called the office and said the woman I saw was fantastic and asked if I could switch to her. They said they'll give a note to my primary care to talk with her about it (awkward) so we'll see but I really hope that works out.

 

The healthcare industry is so horribly broken and is actively letting people suffer. I am so, so sorry you had/have to go through this. I have so many female friends who just get their symptoms dismissed as anxiety or junk because the doctors won't take them seriously. It sucks so much but you just have to take charge and go to as many doctors as possible and get multiple opinions until one of them actually does something. Waiting for someone to help heal you isn't fair. So many doctors also don't know shit. I have had to educate doctors on my conditions before.

Either way, I hope you find the relief you deserve. You don't deserve to be in pain.

 

okay narc

 

It was my birthday the other day and it's one of the few times my dad would call me during the year. It was a tough day realizing he wouldn't be calling.

 

having a harder time these last few weeks. feels like its just diminishing returns at this point with my current meds, idk. just felt like I needed to get this into the void today.

 

I feel like my spirit guides are telling me to leave my job and find somewhere else. I think depending where I’m at I barely make enough to qualify for rent without a co signer. Don’t get me wrong, the doc I work with is great and I feel like I can learn a lot and trust his judgement, but I can’t work with the younger generation that doesn’t listen. I think the headrest part is leaving my patients I’ve got to know over the last few years. Which is why if I moved to a completely different town it be easier. I’m considering it but i don’t really know anyone except for one friend and her family

 

How do people live minimally in an apt? I feel like I can’t have stuff. Like I can’t bring in my things from childhood. I feel like I can’t live. It doesn’t feel like “home”. It’s so depressing

 

I definitely feel you on that and it's definitely why I've developed a bit of a hoarding problem. The real problem is that our parents both sold their houses when we were moving and insisted we take a bunch of crap from them. And then my fiance will tell her mom we have absolutely no space for anything in our kitchen and she buys us this huge fucking Ninja haha

 

So there was no leases for the unit they’re moving me into less than 12 months which pisses me off because I want out of here. Which means I’m here for even longer. I wanted to move anyway at the end of this one. This depresses me so much. I’m stuck here for another year after already being 3 months into my current lease.

 

Effexor has been kind of a godsend, literally has kept me off klonopin for for almost a week, but my wife just went off her birth control as we prepare to try to have kids (she still has a few months to go getting off her meds) and it's creating a whole new anxiety for me. One week I'll feel ready to move forward, then she does something actionable (as she should) like going off BC and suddenly it's "real" and I'm panicking about how insane of a life change this will be and how this will effect all of our physical intimacy and emotional relationship moving forward and it's just...paralyzing. Saw someone online describe it as a "lifestyle extinction," which, yeah, I know, but Jesus that kind of terminology doesn't help.

 

Lost my grandpa last Sunday. He had some health problems but I didn't think it was going to happen this soon. I wish I visited more he always asked when I was coming by but since I live in the city I've not visited out to long Island as much. He was a really good man and had a great sense of humor. He always asked what was going on in my life and told me how proud he was of me and said how good I was looking which is probably typical grandpa stuff but always made me feel good even when I wasnt feeling it myself. As kids me and my brother spent so many weekends at their house with him and grandma. Was some of my favorite childhood memories. He lived a good life to 88 and from what I understand he didn't suffer too much at the end so I'm grateful for that. I'll miss him a ton

 

Losing someone like that is always difficult, but you'll always have the memories. He sounds like a great man. Wishing you the best, friend.

 

I used to live in a 500 sq ft 1 bedroom and since moving into an 800 sq ft 2 bedroom my mental health has gone way up, it may not seem like much more room but having an extra room makes all the difference in the world. I still can’t have all the *things* and interior decorations I would like but I’ve made sure to do a good job with what I’ve got and deliberately decorate in a way to make it feel more cozy and like home which I had never done in any of my previous apartments before.

 

Having a lot of extreme anxiety about my wife going off birth control even though we talked about it and both feel like we're very close to being ready to start a family. It's just such an insane leap to take that changes everything, and taking any real actionable step towards that melts my brain. But I also feel like I can't express that to her because she will immediately get sad and question whether we're doing the right thing, even though I think it's a pretty normal thing to feel intense anxiety about.

 

I had a freak health thing happen and now I'm worried I'm permanently fucked this way. My brain is so different now and it really hurts. I'm pretty scared. The doctors I've talked to so far say I'm going to be okay but I think I have an underlying condition that's never been properly diagnosed that's making this much worse than they think it is. Why did this happen?

 

Nailing down the right SSRI can take time, unfortunately. It depends on the person. But if she truly has regular depression, hopefully she finds the right solution soon! There are also SNRIs like Effexor that my fiance has been on for years and it really helps her.

I personally had no luck after taking many SSRIs and Effexor, but ended up being diagnosed with Bipolar 2 and got put on antipsychotics, so I've got a different situation personally.

Things like Xanax should only be taken in very short bursts because they are benzos that can be addictive. My psych practitioner refuses to prescribe any benzos at all

 

Likewise, I heard many horror stories about SSRIs, and I may just be lucky, but I was initially prescribed sertraline (Zoloft) and had no major issues other than some sexual side effects that I would work around on the weekends. That worked for me for about four years, and I just started Effexor and it dissolved probably about 60% of my general anxiety overnight. I used to take clonazepam (Klonopin) almost daily, but the Effexor has helped minimize my usage of that, making it even more effective now when I do need it.

All this to say, it's kind of a crap shoot. Hopefully you'll be lucky like me and the low dose won't cause her any unwanted issues, and most importantly, will help. If she does experience side effects, make sure she's not afraid to speak up and try something new. I'm all for people getting medicated when they need it, so she shouldn't feel embarrassed or ashamed of that. The world as it is is not easy for most people to handle on their own.

 

I tried idek how many ssris and none helped but they didn't hurt either. It made me start to wonder if I was even really depressed and if that's why they had no impact, positive or negative. They just did nothing so I started to question if it's cause I didn't have a problem and just invented one in my brain.

I've been on effexor for a while now which is not an ssri but it's been going great. No longer feel paralyzed with dread and anxiety. But it's def a trial and error thing, and I got lucky that I had no negative side effects of the various ssris I tried. Hopefully her doctor is clear with her that it can take some time to find a good fit so she has that expectation going in and that it's not her fault!

 

I’m on 20mg of generic Prozac and I think it helps but more or less I attribute a majority of any success I experience to therapy

 

I don't think I like my therapist anymore but she's willing to help me get my masters degree and doesn't charge me a copay so I'm thinking about riding it out a few more years lol