Mental Health Thread • Page 428

You absolutely did not derail or overshadow. I'm pretty sure we all try our best to give as much attention as we can to everyone's posts but that's also very hard to do. Everyone has lives and doesn't check this thread all the time/have the emotional energy at the end of the day to respond properly. Anyway, you're all good.

The other thing is that you're aware of being privileged and even if you are that doesn't take away from your feelings and how your brain interprets things. Your issues are valid and your troubles are part of your life. Comparison of pain helps no one. You can tell your brain "I'm privileged so I shouldn't be feeling this way!" but that's not how that works.

I'm glad your wife is working on/works on herself. Having a partner who actively wants to work with you must make you feel a bit more at ease. I agree with the sentiment about the new year new me mentality. The new year doesn't mean anything. It's just another day. But it can be good to use as a sort of marker to say to yourself "I started here and six months later look at me" and having a concrete date or a forced feeling of renewal with a new calendar year. It's never worked for me, but I know it does for some.

I'm pretty horrible anxious and depressed all the time. It makes my life considerably uncomfortable for me and the people around me, but I focus on what I can at the time and I make improvements as I go. I'm never going to be able to make all these improvements or changes all at once and it is probably harmful to take that much on. I would suggest just finding one or two smaller aspects of your life that you want more control over and finding some happiness with something new. And just start looking at job listings or writing down a pros and cons list of stuff you do and don't like about what you want from a workplace if you truly do want to leave and find something new. I know a lot of people who can just up and leave jobs and have done it multiple times over the past few years, find a better job each time, but some people can't do that. I'm very afraid of losing what I already have on gambling on an unknown quantity. But you and your wife have each other and will figure it out together.

I hope I didn't overstep any bounds or give too much of my own advice. I'm trying to be supportive and all of this is just my thoughts as someone who is in a very similar position to you. Take any of it you want!

 

I’ve been trying to take my vitamins but honestly I think they just make me feel worse. Has anyone experienced this?

 

Yes. Some taste disgusting, some increased certain levels of like calcium or iron or something too high. It sucks.

 

I just take what my doc recommended. Vit d3 and iron. No multis. But I feel more groggy in the morning

 

Life isn’t meant to be lived alone. Being single cost you more than being coupled.

 

Damn, don't do this to me. I'm having a hard enough time as it is.

 

Didn’t mean to. Realizing that made me feel worse :( I saw a girl on tik tok talk briefly about it. Like how what you’re spending in rent a month is cut in half, bills. Cooking food isn’t meant for single people leftovers go to waste.. got me thinking life sucks even more now bc I’ll forever struggle

 

Feeling super low today for what just feels like all the reasons. Just especially struggling in that I can't find a new job. Like I've been looking since summer and I had a period of interviews and now nothing. absolutely fucking nothing. I'm just so so tired. I don't know what it's like to be optimistic or hopeful anymore. I just want to be done, to not wake up on this shitting hell of an existence and planet. just fuck this and fuck it all.

 

Not doing well. Can't quite understand why someone would want to keep going in this world. It seems so heavy. Everything is so difficult and unfair.

 

I know how you feel. Single parenting is really hard.

 

I can’t afford to fucking live and it’s depressing as shit. When I try to do things to lower my bills, something else goes up astronomically that I can’t get out of

 

I’m in the office 1 day week, remote for 4 and it’s been this way for 2+ years and I know humans can adapt to things quickly and I love my team at work but even with that said, holy shit I am so mentally and emotionally fatigued at the end of each Tuesday (our day in the office). I cannot grasp how I used to do this 5 days week endlessly. Today wasn’t even bad - was relaxed and fun and a lot of laughs, but I just am so used to NOT spending 8-9 hours straight with 9-10 people on top of endless calls, emails, chats that I barely have the energy to drive home and make dinner before crashing by 8-8:30 lol

 

I wish I liked working from home it would make my life so easy

 

i wish i had a job. right before i got laid off we had just moved to in office 4 days a week and i thought it was corporate torture. i would take 5 days a week in office in a heartbeat right now lol

 

Five days a week in the office is killing me right now.

 

I just want my own office in the city. Not some stupid corporate crap

 

I downgraded my medical insurance plan because it was too late to switch companies. The plan still sucks and my deductible is astronomically higher so I’m hoping I don’t need any services where I have to pay my deductible first. That’s why I always choose the high plan bc I have medical issues that can causes serious problems at any time. But I can no longer afford it and I’ll be taking home less in my paycheck.

 

Pretty disappointed in how my psyche appointment went on Wednesday. My anxiety and depression have been the worst they've been in a long time (in that order), and I went in with the goal to 1) discuss all med options on the table and 2) get back on something short-acting for my anxiety, because while the propranolol helps, it isn't cutting it when I'm having an actual anxiety attack. Instead, my PA doubled my Zoloft - despite the fact I purposely asked about Wellbutrin because it isn't as associated with fatigue, weight gain, or ED. Asked her opinion on pursuing a medical card so I could get something high in CBD to calm me down and night and she said there wasn't enough evidence to support that and that it would interact with my Zoloft. So now I'm just expecting to be as anxious as I've been, but more tired and experiencing more issues while my wife and I try to plan for a family.

 

I know I'm going through it because the chorus of "Changes" just made me cry and it was the original Black Sabbath version, lol

 

I have been very disappointed with how psych appointments have gone in my life recently as well. I feel like in the last five years I have seen massive declines in quality from these appointments. To the degree they sometimes don't listen or are straight up dismissive. It's frustrating and I hope you find an avenue that works for you and helps your mental state.

 

Thank you, friend. She's usually very good, but this is the second time I've walked away with a negative experience. Prepared to give the dosage a shot for a week before calling and requesting she reconsider my situation.

 

I think I’m just incapable of holding onto friends. Or making them in the first place. It was an issue when I was a kid, and it’s still an issue now. Outside of my wife, my only friends exist in very contextual situations. I have my bandmates, who I do love, but I’m well aware that without the band we would pretty quickly fall out of touch. It’s not like we ever hang out outside of practice and shows anyway. And that’s it. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’ve tried being cool and distant, and I’ve tried being warm and upfront. Nothing works. I get left on read, people say we should hang out soon but never commit to plans, and I’m left wondering where I’ve gone wrong. Some of it is probably because I don’t drink or smoke or use any drugs, but that can’t be all of it… can it? And I also recognize that I absolutely hate bars and clubs and shit like that while a lot of people my age use those places to meet people and socialize, but outside of that, I’ve got nothing. It’s just been a deep, profound loneliness for 25, almost 26 years, and I don’t know how to change it.

 

I'm finding more and more that other people don't truly know how to socialize, have friends or maintain friendships. You could be doing nothing wrong. I used to reach out all the time and everyone was always busy or flaky but would always say that they wanted to hang out. I stopped reaching out. Friendships are a two way street and I'm not going to be the only one who puts in effort anymore.

I understand life and families are important, but at least don't fake the importance of your friendships and how you wish you could make time if you don't actually have the decency to maintain them and show respect.

I don't drink or smoke either. A lot of people don't care that I don't, but you're right that it closes a lot of doors because I also hate bars and clubs. I just wish the feeling of community and meeting people your age just to hang out was more prevelant where I am. Once you're done with college and you're an "adult" it can be difficult to meet people. Everything is so scheduled and there's so little spontaneity. I wish I could just call up a friend or two and be like "hey, you free to grab lunch" but that just doesn't seem possible where I am in life right now.

 

When your older and not in a situation where you regularly see someone (work or school) I feel like you need to explicitly invite someone to a specific thing and not just say "for sure we need to hang" or something like that. The first thing I always invite people to is karaoke and everyone loves that lol. But like say let's go this specific night instead of being vague

 

There's so many people who just still bail or say things and never follow through even if you make concrete plans