Mental Health Thread • Page 426

I’ve basically been sick for a month and not getting any better.
I had a bad cough and 100 degree fever for two days in the middle of last month. The fever went away, but not the cough. I can’t talk., I’m super congested, and my head hurts. I took Covid tests (negative) and got rest a lot, since I don’t really get sick. Urgent care told me some sort of virus I had brought back asthma I had as a kid and they gave me an inhaler. It’s not really helping. I went to my PCP today and she gave me a second inhaler to take daily along with my emergency one. The emergency inhaler is as needed, but I need it all the time. I can breathe better for an hour. I don’t need to be hospitalized yet, but since I don’t have Covid, they’re basically just telling me to rest.

 

I’m weirdly in the same boat right now and it’s kinda freaking me out. Got pretty sick for like 2-3 days a couple days after NYE - fever, cough, congestion, all of that. Took two COVID tests on two separate days (two separate brands too), both were negative. I’ve since recovered from the fever, and the cough has improved a bit, but chest congestion has only improved slightly and the sinus congestion barely at all. I’ve got what feels like a constant sinus headache and chronic fatigue - the last few nights I’ve randomly fallen asleep as late at like 7:00 and that never happens to me

Might try to get into a doctor next week if things don’t take a significant upturn over the weekend but what you’ve described is exactly why I haven’t yet

 

My mom is always encouraging me to do things that cost a lot of money but not in a helpful or constructive way. Just stating things like it's no big deal. For a while it was wanting me to go back to school for my masters degree. Lately it's wanting me to buy a house. Like those things are just easy peasy. I finally responded "okay give me the down payment then" cause like ???

 

Boomers have no concept how hard it is now to do these things.

 

She's Gen X I feel like she should know

She did respond so hopefully she backs off. I feel like she does it out of projection a lot. Like she wishes she'd gone to college and stuff. Tho she still can if she wants! And yeah she has a house but she didn't get one until she met her husband who had one. Before that she rented too. It'd be more helpful if she was like "you should buy instead of rent. Let me help you research loans for first time buyers" or something idk. Instead it's like... let me state fairly obvious facts that do nothing to help lol

 

I’m doing so fucking poorly. The last few weeks have been hell and I’m just worn out and done with everything.

naps and walks used to help me temporarily out when in a funk but the last few weeks they just make me feel worse after.

 

January is the worst month of the year. February also sucks (although one bonus is both my wife and I have our birthdays that month). Just gotta make it to mid March and then I know it gets better

 

For the first time knowing the feeling of not having an internal monologue. It almost makes me feel “normal”, I can’t even explain it

 

Sometimes I feel so depressed because I just want to live somewhere with a decent Healthcare system and liveable wages with affordable housing and community third spaces where it's walkable and people support small local businesses and it feels like an impossible ask in the U.S.

 

This is honestly my biggest struggle in my life right now. I don't want to work for any companies here because I don't want to be part of this ridiculous system where my taxes aren't even helping me in the areas I need most especially good healthcare.

I think about moving overseas a lot.

 

It feels hopeless sometimes. I do what I can. I shop local as much as possible and I volunteer/donate, I try to serve my community in my work, and I vote in my local elections but some people are just hellbent on keeping things awful it seems and idk how to make it better.

 

I've been watching so much stuff on subpoenas, government oversight, audits, etc and it just feels like no one will ever be held accountable in the current system and the system isn't capable of changing or at least changing fast enough for it to matter for the little guys. I'm not willing to spend the rest of my life helping out people I don't respect, people who don't care about others and people that do everything possible to maintain positions of power while having no morals.

I used to see a lot of people saying "oh yeah, well just move then!" and honestly? We should. They want to get fleeced by the people they think are supporting them, that's on them. I have a life and a family to take care of.

 

Ripping off the bandaid and trying to actually confront and deal with my issues is something I needed to do but all I’ve done is look back at my life with regret and shame. It’s made me crazy depressed along with the weather and I’m always just bummed out lately.

 

So, I think I’m really getting to the place where I’m comfortable identifying as queer. My wife has been super receptive and supportive. I’m pretty sure I’ll start casually bringing it up with friends this year. It’s the best I’ve felt, mentally, in quite some time.

 

Congratualtions!! That's amazing. So happy for you. Your wife sounds like a great partner.

 

I’m finally clean because I want to be but I don’t know what comes next and I’m really scared

 

I’m just really over this fucking world and life.

 

I always second guess posting this stuff because of the, “cliche,” of it all.. but the pain is temporary man. Love chatting horror with you. Always available for a vent sesh.

 

I’d be lying if I said societal woes and general alienation due my personal and political beliefs from those around me hasn’t massively contributed to my various addiction problems throughout the yeas. like 2015 was when things kicked into overdrive for my addiction and a big part of that was the beginning of the election cycle exposing close friends and family as ignorant at bwst and straight up bigots at worst. the only way to not care was to self medicate with numbness

 

It's getting hard to live. My wife and I make 30k more than my parents did when they had two kids, and we still struggle with our bills. We literally JUST got to a semi-comfortable place with our budgeting where we had a little wiggle room, and now the financial planner they arranged for her at work apparently gave her a nightmare scenario after looking at our financials. Too much debt, spending too much each month (which is insane, we're very fiscal), need life insurance, not supposed to just be letting our school debt sit. What are you supposed to do when preparing for the future means not being able to enjoy anything in the present? I can't imagine we're the only ones in this boat. If anything, I thought we might be doing better than some because we own our house.

How are we supposed to afford kids when daycare costs as much as our mortgage? How are my kids expected to live if we can't even afford to? Just incredibly discouraging news, through and through.

 

Is it possible that this financial planner was trying to scare her into buying life insurance from them?

 

Life is just so frustrating

 

The number of people I know who have decided one of them becomes a stay at home parent once their kid reaches the age where they need day care or whatever because LOSING AN ENTIRE SALARY is CHEAPER than having two people work and pay for day care is insane. Feel like it literally happens or is the decision that 50% of married couple I know with kids decide to do.

 

We moved to a different state for that reason.

 

Has anyone had a late adhd diagnosis and how did you go about getting one. A friend of mine told me just to list symptoms, but don’t tell them “I think I have…” bc that will make it seem like you’re looking for pills. ADHD was never something that came to mind until the past year or so when I heard people’s stories how they were late diagnosed and symptoms, and those symptoms related to me so much. I tried going on to my clinic website and seeing if I can make an appointment with a psych or psychotherapist since they can diagnose and rx, but it either says “not accepting new patients” or “accepting but referral only”. Why tf would you ask someone for a referral if they’re struggling and seeking help. It’s my money. The doc is getting paid either way. The worst they can say to someone is I can’t rx you right now.

I’ve been listing my anxiety symptoms as well as adhd (according to online), but really any symptoms I’m feeling that don’t seem norm. A friend of mine gave me some of their Adderall and honestly for the first time in forever, I didn’t feel tired or what I call my “tired crash”. I was actually able to get some things done where otherwise I would only be able to complete half the task before getting exhausted (recently saw chronic fatigue was a symptom. I’m also trying to take my vitamins since my pcp is convinced I’m tired bc of low levels)

also can’t see a dermatologist without a referral either. Dumb.