Mental Health Thread • Page 391

That's tough. It's always hard when stressors not directly related to your relationship bleed into the energy between you. As long as you both recognize that it's not necessarily either of your faults, you sound like you're on the right track! I hope things get better for you all soon!

 

I get to pursue my master's degree without paying for tuition as a benefit of working for a college. Today, I spoke with the program director of Clinical and Mental Health Counseling, just to introduce myself. It was great and she gave me a lot of information to consider, but... she said the final internship is like, "quit your job-level full-time," and now I'm not sure what to do. Especially considering I'll likely be trying to start a family about two-thirds of the way into the program.

 

Is it a paid internship? And how long is it?

 

The internship would last one semester. Likely unpaid, but I suppose it would depend on who it was with. One nice thing is that I've already had future opportunities offered to me by my psychiatrist and a family friend.

 

that’s tough but possibly doable, definitely would require a ton of planning ahead of time.

 

Thanks. Yeah, I don't know...I only really have a month and some change to decide. Gonna have to talk with the wife and my family and see what I think. It's definitely what I want to do -- this is my opportunity to really go for it -- but these decisions affect more than just myself now.

 

yeah that’s not a lot of time for a big decision like that. Hoping it all works out for you though man!

 

Thanks man!

 

I was literally diagnosed through a virtual visit last night. I've been working with a therapist for two years on a totally unrelated issue and took the session to talk about my concerns. She initiated a few tests, which were all indicative, but also said that it was no surprise to her based on her observations. She was able to diagnose and refer me to an in-house nurse practitioner for med-assessment. Absolutely no reference to interviewing family or anything like that.

 

That's awesome, I'm glad that is working out for ya! I thought about going through Circle Medical, although I heard mixed reviews. Ideally, I'd like to get CBT from someone who specializes with ADHD, because I can't live with the side-effects of stimulant meds. I know those work the best, but they completely messes up my sleep.

 

Haha it’s so weird. I absolutely hate the sensation of feeling my heartbeat pulse through my ears, so I asked for zen music to take the edge off.

 

I want to do one so bad but I’m claustrophobic as fuck. Think I could still handle it?

 

It's hard to say because we did a couples float in an open pool, so I haven't tried the kind that has a pod cover you pull down. But I did some reading up and you can totally just leave the pod wide open, it's all about what's comfortable for you.

I do get a little claustrophobic from hot and humid rooms though, so I didn't love being unable to really dry off after. Had to put on clothes while still quite damp haha. Didn't bother me while I was floating though

 

So I was started on Strattera for ADHD. I'm happy that it's a non-stimulant as my anxiety's been under control without medication for years and I was afraid a stimulant would trigger it. Anyone have any experience with this?

 

No experience but I'm very curious how it works out for you! Adderall made me very irritable when wearing off, and Ritalin sent my heart rate and blood pressure skyrocketing.

 

I'll definitely post my progress in here. My wife had tried Strattera back when she was in high school but she said it made her nauseous. I'm hoping that's not the case for me, but at this point I'm just happy to have an option.

 

I took Vyvanse and Adderall (not at the same time) for ADHD. They both added some anxiety, heart palpitations for a bit, but Vyvanse was the only time in the past 8 years where I felt like myself/a functioning human being. It was amazing. I felt like I could actually do things. There's parts of me that wants to try it again. I'm basically just a lazy depressed shell now.

I hope yours is successful for you because if it is, it will be life changing.

 

I don't think I'm going to be able to go for my Master's degree. And I think that's the right decision considering everything going on in my wife and I's life, but I still feel like I'm mourning a really great opportunity.

 

That’s tough dude. Big of you to make the decision based on both of your needs, it’s not always easy but it’s part of a good relationship imo. Take your time to grieve but you never know when a new opportunity may present itself. Sending good vibes

 

Thanks man. I really appreciate the kind words.

 

That’s what we’re all here for

 

I just don't know how to do things anymore. Something happened over time where I just don't know how to take care of myself or have motivation to do anything. My parents do everything for me.

What do I do? How do I change?

 

It would probably be a good idea to talk to them about things. Even if they already know you’re struggling, I would hope they’d listen to your worry that they do too much and would step back and give you the space you need

 

Maybe I misspoke. My parents are wonderful and loving. I've just become so used to having them as a safety net that I don't even remember how to do things myself. I'm really scared of doing things on my own because I legitimately don't think there's anything I'm good at, I can barely clean the house most of the time.

I want to be "normal". Have a job, have my own place and live. But I don't know how to anymore.

 

Have you talked to a therapist and/or psychiatrist about anxiety, depression, ADHD, etc. and/or tried medication?