I have so much heavy shit coming down the pipeline and I’ve fucked myself over in such a bad way the last year it looks like I’ve lost the most important person in my life and I’m going to have to do it alone. I at least have to operate like I’m alone for the foreseeable future and that that’s the likely outcome. It’s daunting and overwhelming and I’m just so lonely. I gotta get my shit together, get clean, and get mentally/physically healthy, and so much more. I don’t know how I’m going to do it all or how I’m going to get through it.
Had my second UTI in the last year, having lower back pain and my hands and feet have been tingling since last Tuesday, so I'm now in the ER waiting room at my PCP's request. Feeling anxious and a little pissed at my fiance who just wanted to drop me off instead of staying with me even though she has regular migraines and I always stay with her in urgent care. Ugh. I'm scared and nervous. Idk how appropriate this is for this thread, but figured it might be since it's triggering my anxiety
Ugh I'm sorry to hear that you're not feeling well. And I can understand being scared and nervous alone in the ER. My ex would always go to the ER with me, or he would stay until i was settled. I hope they are able to make you comfortable and you're not there too long!
you will get through this just like you have everything else. it will take courage but you can do it. I wish you nothing but the best
I completely understand. it probably feels impossible to you at this point but even if you have to take baby steps towards getting there, that's okay. just do the work necessary to be the person you want to be and have the life you want to have. this all seems like flowery language and a bunch of platitudes but I really do believe we can all grow as people and I have faith in you. just please remember to have faith in yourself too
It will seem harder to do it alone in the beginning. I'm on year 2 of alone in everything and its honestly what I needed. 24 year old me never would have made it to this point. But because I have no kids, no partner....Its just going to be me taking care of me forever (Or so I think because trying to date at this age, this time in the world...hasn't really worked out well for me.) But you got this, we all have your back!
Meant to thank you for this. It's probably my second biggest insecurity, so it's nice knowing I'm in good company.
I can't relate to being afraid to drive, but I have come to the sad realization that I can no longer drive when its dark out. I mean, I can, but its difficult. Its worse if its raining or snowing. and then there's everyone's bright ass headlights reflecting off everything. My eyes are just not what they were 10 years ago. I think its the #1 reason I don't really go anywhere after work or on the weekends.
I wish I could be a real person, but I really want to be left alone except for my wife and cats. I have pretty bad social anxiety and the fear everyone hates me, so I avoid everyone to avoid embarrassing myself by doing or saying the wrong thing.
I dealt with this over the summer, cut a lot of people out because of it. What I learned though is that true friends and family accept you for who you are. It’s easy to worry about what ifs and saying the wrong thing but if people can’t accept you for you without doing or saying everything right in their eyes, are they really worth chasing after?
You can find the right person, it’s not impossible. Dating in your 30’s imo is less casual and more get to the point, which can be intimidating and not fun at times but at the same time, you got shit to do too. Why waste time?
Question, what is up with guys 35 and up ghosting? Like the last guy I went on a date with, we had a blast and made plans for the following weekend and he just *POOF* vanished.