I just never provide references. I forget people I work with now, how the hell am I to remember people from the past?
As a person with a fairly professional career, no college degree, and a weird but stable work history, I find shopping my resume with “references available upon request” is usually best. Your cover letter is the thing anyone cares about- if you wow there, the rest of it isn’t super important. The job market is extra grim right now everywhere, so don’t feel like it’s just you or that you aren’t deserving of opportunities.
Fuck I don't wow there either I suck on paper even though I'm not incompetent and the exact opposite is what prospers
My trick is to just never provide a cover letter, either. For whatever reason (possibly because my cover letters are shit who knows) skipping this and just sending my resume results in more interviews for me.
I was a finalist for my dream job and was passed on it. The feedback I received was a resounding "you are ready for this! This was a super close call, keep it up you're almost there!" However, I have gone completely numb emotionally numb as a result, I'm now just going through the motions in every aspect of my life and speaking confidently despite it.
I'm really tired of my life being a constant struggle with nothing to show for it and no end in sight.
Just to top off the acne thing someone at work today was like "are you okay? I saw you earlier and was going to ask if you weren't feeling well. you don't look well." Like Thanx I know I look like trash why are multiple ppl commenting on it omg
*Thinks about how much I already think* *Tries not to think so much about thinking* *Definitely going to die young*
Been struggling with increasing levels of anxiety over the past few months. It can get really bad at night, basically once the day is over and I finally stop focusing on stuff and lay down to go to sleep. My brain takes over and I go into panic mode. Haven't found an effective way of dealing with it yet.
Trying to not have a full scale breakdown with all the unknowns and stress that’s happened this week has me losing my mind. I’m having such a hard time keeping it together and I truly just want to curl up in a ball forever
Finally get to go home and just fall apart. Held it together during work and then an annoying after work party for our company’s anniversary. Smiling while feeling supremely lonely during that wasn’t fun.
I hate crying every day. I want to Find happiness again, but I really feel like it’s not in the cards for me. Just like anything good in life. For the longest time I felt like I was meant to suffer and it actually happened and is continuing to happen. Still hoping I get really sick and I can let myself die
Had a dream that I did to my boyfriend exactly what my ex did to me. I cheated on him, made up excuses to justify my behaviour, ghosted him and emotionally abused him. It’s fucked me up all day. It’s been seven years but I still regularly question my self worth. All my fears about our relationship have been playing in my mind over and over again and I feel so weak now. He’s been amazing, taking care of me like he always has. 20 days until I’m heading off to England, to his home and to his life! I need it more than ever
That's progress! I hope the dream is just your anxiety manifesting itself ahead of the trip/move (I wasn't sure haha). But that's so soon and exciting!
I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years today and it feels like a death. Thanks to everyone who has offered kind words in the past on this. He's an amazing person and thankfully it seems like we will be staying in each other's lives but it will be really hard for the next few months as we figure out our next moves in life. I would not be the person I am without him and I struggle to see the future without him as well. As much as this is something I initiated, it still feels like absolute hell. I really can only tackle one day at a time.
Hey congrats, in a sense, for finally pulling the trigger and doing right by you. That long together can’t be easy to end. I am curious if he was surprised by it? either way, I wish you (and him) the best. Now go find yourself a big tiddied goth gf.
Thank you for the support. He wasn't surprised. He was hurt of course but I am in awe of how comforting he managed to be even while I was the one blowing up our lives. I think we both realize that this is nobody's fault and that sometimes things don't work out.