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Mental Health Thread • Page 267

Discussion in 'General Forum' started by AelNire, Mar 9, 2016.

  1. ChaseTx

    Nuke the site from orbit. The only way to be sure Prestigious

    Daughter's mom took her to a therapist today to see about starting appointments, which is all good but obviously I wasn't there to participate in that discussion. And going forward if I were to take her to appointments like I want to, I have to ask off of work. She's so controlling of everything.

    She also has been talking to her at length about these issues and it makes me worry that she could be making things worse or even putting thoughts into her head. I think the best thing to do is treat her normally unless she has an issue. Eh... I'm supposed to be the one to carry her insurance and in theory I should take her to all her appointments and talk to all her doctors, but it's something she takes control of. I'm exhausted
     
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  2. Kiana

    Anyway, don't be a stranger Prestigious

    It's almost four and I've been up for nearly an hour. Can't wait until I fall back asleep an hour before my alarm goes off and then I am too tired to get up when I need to. Then I'm gonna be tired all day. I should prob frame the day more positive than this but siiiiiigh. Each day I know I'm not happy but idk what I need to do to get there
     
  3. BirdPerson

    fuck tammy! Prestigious

    Twas a resounding success! And I woke up to a text from my dad apologizing for asking the invasive questions!
     
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  4. K0ta

    Trusted Supporter

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  5. Shakriel

    I'm just so tired of thinking about everything Prestigious

    Excellent news, on both fronts!
     
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  6. ChiliTacos

    Trusted Prestigious

    Wooo that's great news!
     
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  7. DarkHotline

    Swedish Festival Enthusiast Supporter

    Everything is overwhelming and I’m fucking sick of it. I’m tired and I don’t want to do this anymore.
     
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  8. Kiana

    Anyway, don't be a stranger Prestigious

    Back when I was younger I had an extremely difficult time holding conversations with people who are in survival brain state and not using their executive functioning. I've always been fairly logic-driven and even more so when I was younger. I was very black and white in my thinking. As I got older I learned about trauma and the brain and why people don't always respond to things the way I would and why that's ok, and it's helped over the years. It's rearing it's head again tho. I think as I'm struggling more and more to gain footing with my own mental health, I find myself reverting to what I know which is logic, facts, etc and having a hard time coping when someone is coming from a more emotional place. And there's nothing wrong with coming from an emotional place. I'd argue its a healthier response than mine lol, but I feel like I'm regressing and shutting down.
     
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  9. Shakriel

    I'm just so tired of thinking about everything Prestigious

    Hate how I'm incapable with disappointing people, whether they truly care or not, that part doesn't matter.

    Boss was out beginning of this week so I worked from home. Really just two days in office since Friday is my normal day to work from home and he seemed disappointed I wasn't coming in (means hes basically by himself/be lonely more than anything else). Or he's just still tired from the trip and last few long days. All my brain is fucking thinking about. Hate my brain.
     
  10. RyanRyan

    faint metronome on my left side

    INCOMING JUVENILE/PETTY RELATIONSHIP WOES.

    I’m not sure if this is the right place to offload/shout into the void, but I have crippling jealousy issues that stem from massive insecurities.

    I’ve just started a new relationship and it’s an odd one to put it lightly. She lives 2/3 hours away by car. We’ve both moved to Japan from different countries to teach English. We met during an intense 2 week training course, where we spent nigh on every waking moment together. We briefly decided we were together, but she doesn’t use her phone much at all, and as a result I barely got to speak to her whenever I wasn’t around. (She once referred to herself as my ghost girlfriend). So what I assumed was *normal* amounts of texting in a ~long distance relationship ended up being too much for her. She broke it off.

    Since then I spent Golden Week (a 10 day series of public holidays in Japan) with her, and we promptly got back together. I was supposed to be visiting there for the weekend as a friend, but after 2 nights we were a couple and I stayed for the entire holiday. It was perfect.

    Now, I was cheated on in the past. I say this because ever since, every relationship I’m in I’m terrified of losing my partner and obsess over every little detail. Examples - my S/O is going to a party? Oh no - she’ll find someone who lives in her town and dump me. She’s hanging out with literally any male whatsoever? They’re a threat. They’re all better-looking, funnier and more interesting.

    I can’t tell her any of this because I’m resigned to being more ‘chill’ with her to accommodate for the fact she doesn’t like using her phone or having intense conversations/conflict over text/call.

    LONG STORY SHORT I GUESS:

    How do people cope with jealousy in a long-distance relationship without fucking it up? I’m not here to dictate who my girlfriend spends time with, and I trust her. She’s monogamous and we’ve actually broached the topic of cheating/open relationships before - we’re on the same page in that they’re a big no no. She’s been telling people I’m her boyfriend. So why is it that I’m still terrified constantly?

    I’m in Japan so I can’t see a counsellor, and it’s so incredibly embarrassing that I just feel sick and want to cry all the time. I can’t tell my friends or family because they all think everything is going smooth and I’ve got my shit together. Urgh. I don’t expect any answers here, or even a reply at all. I know it’s petty. Just yeah.
     
  11. I’m largely an introverted person, I’ll feel much more comfortable being by myself than around other people. It always leads to some breaking point where I isolate myself a little too much and end up feeling way too alone.
     
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  12. Shakriel

    I'm just so tired of thinking about everything Prestigious

    If that isn't me, too.

    I'll get really anxious and be like, well fuck no one I can reach out to.
     
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  13. eight30

    Regular

    I keep stretching myself too thin because I’m afraid of telling people no, then I isolate myself because I’m exhausted and spend 70% of the day in bed and feel like absolute trash.
     
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  14. personalmaps

    guppy Supporter

    idk if this is helpful but uhhhh same. my therapist keeps reminding me that time spent for myself is valuable, so i'll remind you too.
     
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  15. learning when and how to say no is so important. still doing that myself.
     
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  16. eight30

    Regular

    That is helpful. Thank you!
     
  17. PureBlueSF

    It's out of my hands Supporter

    After a long period of feeling pretty depressed, i'm finally starting to feel better. I'm starting to settle into my new job and i've been making a more consistent effort to hang out with friends. For the first time in a while, i feel like things are starting to look up.
     
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  18. BirdPerson

    fuck tammy! Prestigious

    Out of the hospital, home in my bed. Today was very long and mostly unpleasant. And I'm entirely dependent on my gf right now. Totally helpless. Tough day for her too. I know this is temporary but fuuuuuuck
     
  19. PureBlueSF

    It's out of my hands Supporter

    Well so much for this, because I woke up feeling so fucking sad today. I had a great day yesterday but then everything just had to be ruined by these weirdly vivid and super emotional dreams I have when I go to sleep.

    That being said, my hope is that it's just a small bump in the road rather than a dive off of a cliff.
     
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  20. iCarly Rae Jepsen

    Oh goose Supporter

    I feel like if I'm feeling anxious or depressed about things that are silly I can at least be like stop being a dummy brain but worrying about climate change and the fact that our generation will never have job security seems to make sense, but I also know it's not my burden and not moving forward with my life won't help shit
     
  21. Shakriel

    I'm just so tired of thinking about everything Prestigious

    I totally get this. I get depressed and anxious about how little anyone in power seems to care about climate change; just reading the news about it can fuck me up for the day. I worry about job security every day, whether it's my sister's, friend's, or my own (I'll never feel secure in my job and will get super anxious if I ever make a mistake. I worry this mistake, no matter how small or insignificant will somehow be the straw the broke the camel's back and I'll be out on my ass looking for a job. Especially now that I'm somewhere with an extremely high cost of living and i tend to buy things when feeling depressed, lik a fucking idiot.) /sorry for the off-topic rant at the end.
     
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  22. PureBlueSF

    It's out of my hands Supporter

    I love learning that I'm being excluded from things by certain members of my family all because I said no to something I'm not qualified to do

    Makes me feel really fucking great

    I fucking hate my family

    It's probably only a matter of time before I end up in a psych ward because of the shit they put me through

    Fuck this

    Sorry that this is all stream of consciousness-y, I'm just so fucking fed up with feeling like this
     
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  23. Kiana

    Anyway, don't be a stranger Prestigious

    All I want is to be brave and have integrity and when I feel like I lack those traits I spiral down hard.
     
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  24. DarkHotline

    Swedish Festival Enthusiast Supporter

    I start therapy on Wednesday, nervous about it. I’m tired of dealing with my ex over our child, I’ve made strides to better myself for our daughter but that’s not enough and now lawyers are gonna get involved. The stress and anguish this is causing me is eating me up inside, I just want my daughter in my life.
     
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  25. Shakriel

    I'm just so tired of thinking about everything Prestigious

    Today is a bad mental health day and I just wanna disappear.
     
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