Mental Health Thread • Page 164

Wow, that's a shame. I'm sorry to hear all of that. My advice would be to just keep trying to be there for her as much as possible and reaching out, but maintain a little bit of distance so that it's not consuming your life and burdening your mental health. If I may ask, do you know what sort of pain medication(s) she was prescribed after the accident? I know that's not really my business and I don't want to jump to any conclusions, but the abuse of medications post-accidents is so real. I've been seeing it a lot in the suburbs around Philly where I grew up. If the patterns of behavior you mentioned continue, maybe try reaching out to her parents or something? I dunno, it sounds like a tough situation and I really hope it all turns out okay.

 

I'm not sure tbh. She got in the accident the day before I moved out and whenever I would try and talk to her she'd downplay what happened. Last I know she was living with her parents because she couldn't afford rent after I moved, but idk if she still is. I just feel awful cause I noticed she was spiralling even before her accident and of course like nearly dying doesn't help.

 

Yeah, definitely not. You're doing all the right things trying to there for her, trying to hang out and catch up, but ultimately it's also on her to meet you halfway to make those things happen. Maybe also try having your stepmom text you to let you know when she's at her work? I dunno if that's asking a lot but it's just a thought.

 

Struggling a lot and it's pretty much all triggered by work. My mind has been going to a dark place that it hasn't really in years. I impulsively decided to Google therapists in the area and smh screw rural town for real. I'm def gonna have to commute for something if I follow through which is irritating.

 

Okay I googled and found an office I'd call but they're not open tomorrow so I need to keep the motivation going until Thursday. If I don't post in here on Thursday saying that I have called, someone call me tf ouuuut

 

Do people not see that there is something emotionally/mentally wrong with me?

Am I good at covering it up or are people just dumb?

I think people are just dumb.

 

I hope you do make the call. I hope you know this whole thread is here for you.

I think a lot of people are just so caught up in their own problems that they don't see when other people are struggling.

 

Thanks. I am going to try. I am usually very chill and composed but I've been a wreck. But it feels like people aren't listening. I feel like I'm being fairly blunt with saying I'm struggling to cope and nobody seems that concerned to check in with me. I haven't had like actively destructive coping mechanisms in years and the other day the thought flashed in my brain when I was upset and now I'm like ughh ok I should call a therapist. My dad did notice a bit actually, but idk I also hate worrying my family. Aside from my lil sister who was too young to remember the big blow up, my family all witnessed me and my depression as a teen and I've been "better" for years and I don't wanna pull them all back into it. Idk. I know it wouldn't bother them but I hate worrying people and having ppl fuss over me . So apparently I want the attn of someone to notice I'm struggling and also I don't lol.

 

I feel a lot of this. I hate 'burdening' people. However, it's taken me a long time to realize that I'm not burdening people close to me; those people are in my life because they're wonderful people who I love and care for and they love and care for me as well. You had a bad thought and your first reaction was to look into finding a therapist, that is fantastic. There's a ton of strength in recognizing not only when you need some help but also following through. You're going to make it through. Let us know how that call goes!

 

I don't know where to post this but I figure this is the best place. I really wish I grew up in a household where talking about sex wasn't taboo? I heard all these comments like, "outside its 2017 but in this house it's the 1950s (fml)", "I'm not allowing any boy in my daughters rooms" and "they can fuck in someone's car but not in my house" from my dad and it brought me down. His outlook on sex is one of the many reasons why I'm so distant from my parents. I refuse to tell them anything remotely personal. My sister handles everything much better than I do though and I'm so jealous. She's at her boyfriend's house at the moment (of course my dad won't let her stay the night) and she tells my parents everything. I wish I could be that open but I don't know how to be. I try to imagine what it would be like if my parents discussed safe sex instead of just "no sex". I'm very private towards them. I've been in a relationship for a long time and my parents don't know about him. Yeah right, I'm going to tell them about my long distance relationship, which my dad thinks only "fucked, insecure people" have. Female masturbation was never mentioned in my house either. I don't know if it's normal to discuss it with parents but please let me know if you ever have. When I started to feel aroused in my teens I pushed it down because I believed it was dirty and wrong. I've never had sex with a man but I have with women (of course I never stayed the night - my dad never let us have sleepovers, and my parents will never know) so I've learned to keep everything a secret. I wish it wasn't this way. I want to be open and honest and not have lingering thoughts that I don't deserve to have the healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship with my boyfriend. I wish my parents were different and I wish I was as strong as my sister. im sorry for such a long, rambling post. I needed to let it out

 

The worst part of mental health is how quickly it can flip from good to bad. I’d been riding high for like a week or two, so much so that even a funeral didn’t drag me down. Now, in a matter of a couple hours it takes all I have to not just go back home and crawl in bed for the rest of the day.

 

The fucking worst.

 

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Just had my latest phone interview. Have no concept anymore if I'm doing well on these calls or not. Also worried I may have shot myself in the foot for this job by doing too much at my current job. Lol, did not expect that. Sure does make me feel like I'm getting vastly underpaid where I currently am...

 

Life falling apart like my mental but i keep trying, we'll see how long it lasts.

 

I'm not sure if you're just looking for a female perspective, and if that's the case, obviously I can't add anything. I grew up in a pretty strict Christian home. No sex until marriage, masturbation is a sin, etc. Even all through high school I didn't really think too much of it. But looking back, I see how unhealthy it was and how it affects my relationship with them to this day (I'm 27). I wish I could talk to them about marriage problems, etc, but it's just way too uncomfortable at this point. They've relaxed their stance quite a bit over the past 10 years, but it's just too late for me to start opening up to them.

I don't really have any advice, but I can definitely relate.

 

Any perspective is helpful! I'm sorry to hear it's still so uncomfortable. I'm 21 and they only started to relax and encourage me to go out when I was 18, when they used to only let me go to friends' houses. By then I was too fearful and anxious to do anything and it's definitely contributed to how closed off I am from social interaction. My parents are Greek Orthodox Christians but not very religious, but I suppose the way they grew up/their beliefs influenced how they raised my sister and I... not an excuse by any means in my opinion though

 

Feeling frustrated. Someone at work keeps insisting I did something I did not do, but she doesn't say it to my face. She tells other people. And the annoying part is she thinks I said this awful thing about her when I really said a positive thing about her. I don't wanna confront her I guess cause I don't wanna out the people who told me about it. I couldn't care less if someone doesn't like me. Sometimes personalities don't mesh and that's fine. But when it's something not even true I feel like I get upset because I hate when people have perceptions of me that are off. I try to be very deliberate of what I put out into the world and it bugs when ppl distort that.

Just another reason for work to be a source of stress and dread. I almost forgot about calling for a therapy appt tomorrow but this has reminded me

 

I would confront her about it because it's hurting you and she's thinking something that isn't true. That's not fair on either of you and it's bringing unnecessary tension. you don't have to tell her who's said anything, and if she asks you can say you want to respect people's privacy. and also she should know that to avoid awkwardness in the future, it would be better to directly confront you or anyone she has an issue with instead of making it worse via passive aggression and animosity , as it doesn't help anyone and doesn't resolve anything.

 

I have the best damn psychiatrist lol...when I saw her Monday for my not-sleeping, I told her about how my anxiety is up and I had a job interview Tuesday, and didn't want to be like nervous-stomached to death. She looks right at me and says, "Can't you just smoke a bunch before you have your interview?" Was not expecting that from her, but we both know I shouldn't be prescribed any benzos or anything thanks to my lovely addict brain. So now she's got me taking trazodone at night to sleep and is switching me from Lexapro to Zoloft, which she says will help more with the anxiety. And I did take a bunch of rips off my vape pen before my interview, which I thiiiink went pretty well. So yeah hahah

 

Was it this thread where someone posted a database of therapist for low-income or am I mis-remembering that from someplace else?

 

Do you have friends at work that know you wouldn't do something like that? She'll just end up shooting herself in the foot with other people at your job if they know that that's not something you'd do. If you don't feel comfortable confronting her about it, maybe try to just keep being positive and kind towards her. If she keeps behaving that way, it's going to keep reflecting poorly on her more than you. Sorry you're dealing with that :/

 

Yup

 

Thank you. Going to look through that later tonight.

 

I think almost everyone knows it isn't true. I'm sure she has a few work friends who believe it which bums me out, but ultimately I've worked there longer and normally have a reputation for being positive (I've been stressed out a lot this year so that might be out the window tho lol) so I hope a majority of ppl don't believe her. I want to try and do what @storm said and confront her but I have a habit of chickening out so I'm gonna try my best. I feel like she still won't like me and that's fine, but I've heard this false rumor she spread about me by multiple different ppl at multiple different points in time and I'm just over it tbh