I have no qualms with polyamory but I personally don't have the emotional capacity to love other people if I'm with a guy. My boyfriend have discussed it and we're both set on staying monogamous.
yeah i think i personally have too many trust/anxiety/self-loathing issues to ever feel comfortable or safe in an open relationship. i think to a degree that's indicative of unhealthy ways that I can be clingy, but it's something that i can manage better in a closed relationship rather than an open one. i like polyamory for me in theory but know that it would just exacerbate the stuff i can barely keep contained when i'm alone, let alone if you involve other people
One commenter said that particular phrase : *after just coming out to a friend* "But you don't...'LIKE-like' me, do you?" Which is exactly what I'm most afraid of when it comes to reveal my sexuality to people (especially friends who I don't trust enough / I'm not close enough)
it's not like hetero people are attracted to every member of the opposite sex so that never made sense to me either
Got my hair cut again and some new glasses. That plus the binder make me feel a lot better when I look in the mirror. One other thing. My mom changed her FB pic to me yesterday with a big proud "that's my girl!" and I felt so crappy about it because I just can't ever imagine saying "might not be your girl, call me this new name" and stuff, and "oh yeah you got Stephanie tattooed on your arm 15 years ago, about that..." and what all that would do to her. And my dad knows I have something going on but not what..and man how could I ever fully kill their little girl, how could I do that to them? Not feeling the greatest today. I know I need to find a therapist but I also I don't want to deal with this and I want it to go just go away and that will totally happen right?
i wish i had good answers for you but i don't and i'm not qualified at all to speculate and theorize on this so this is all i got:
I spent the weekend at a boys house and I feel like a new person this week. I didn't realise how sad being alone was making me. I don't know if it will be a thing or whatever but it was really nice and I feel so much better now. Also could be the fact he had two dogs and they loved me and cuddled into me for two days hahaha
Trying to figure out how to be a positive and happy social worker at work today, while on the inside I am an angry, sad, scared lesbian.
I can definitely relate, I try not to avoid labels because it just makes me feel like there's something wrong with me for maybe being asexual, I also think it's possible I just haven't made that connection yet who knows
I feel you do belong. Asexuality is a fairly complex and poorly understood thing, but to me sexual attraction means as much to being in the community as gender does, that is it doesn't mean much. Sexual attraction is but one small part of being queer. You've got a letter in the title here, so you're always part of this community
Really struggling with the gender thing recently. Feel like I've hit the peak amount of femininity I feel comfortable expressing considering my body type, current life situation, and everything, and it's driving me nuts because it's not enough to fend off the dysphoria for long.