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Do you want children? Why or why not • Page 3

Discussion in 'General Forum' started by Yasqueen4, Sep 25, 2017.

  1. sleepy

    pale earnhardt jr.

    dog dad is an acceptable life if I never do have kids.
  2. Borat 2: Vengeance

    Difficult as ever Prestigious

    I don't know, I don't really like kids. I remember this little gaggle of four kids that lived in my neighborhood growing up, they'd like try and make fun of me and call me 'Michael Jackson' and they thought it was HILARIOUS. I don't feel equipped to provide proper care and just generally deal with a child at this point, which is okay, but I don't know. Maybe if I really loved someone and they wanted them really bad. I'd be open to convincing one day I guess.
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  3. Dog with a Blog


    “I want to have a daughter

    I want to have a daughter

    So I can finally have someone around the house who can fit their hands
    In the Pringle can
    Yes, I'm still on the Pringle cans thing! Yeah!
    I'll move on, alright?
    But that is priority número uno”
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  4. Whatjuliansaid

    News on once the clouds are gone. Prestigious

    I mean... I have a cat tho

    Seriously though, I used to want them but now I'm not sure cause like idk how long the earth will be a thing and it's like why bother then?
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  5. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    I lean towards no, but idk where I'll be in the future. I work with kids now and I love them all, but I get to step away. I can't imagine not getting that. I get pretty down when I don't get my "me" time and like no mother I know gets any. I like spending my money on things for me or trips or whatever. I also like to decide to go to a movie or dinner or hang out without coordinating babysitters and it's a bummer that lots of my friends run into that so we can't just do things without it becoming a whole ordeal. I miss when we'd be like "hey I'm bored, let's get dinner and watch a movie or go shopping" cause now everything has to be so planned in advance. I watch how stressed parents are and they all say it's worth it, but I guess I'm not ready to put myself on the back burner like that.
  6. Yasqueen4


    What age do you work with? I'm a nanny for 4, 3, and 1 yr old. I'm in the same boat as you where all of my friends are having kids so scheduling anything with them is like this big ordeal. I get it tho. What I don't get is when my one friend refuses to stay out late once in awhile to hang out with me since she has to get up and take care of her kids. Really? It's seriously one night every few months. You won't die of exhaustion. Maybe I'm not being understanding enough...
  7. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    I work with ages 3-5 and sometimes toddlers. I'm not comfortable with infants tho cause I haven't worked with any yet!

    Yeah I know some ppl like that. some of my friends/family who have kids I still see regularly cause it's not their entire identity and they take time to do something away from the kids once in a while. It's the people who motherhood consumes everything in their life that I don't really see. I kinda get it. I love my nephew and spending every moment I can with him. I can only imagine how much stronger I'd feel if he was my own child. But at the same time I think it's important for parents to step away once in a while cause I feel like you'd go stir crazy or have a huge meltdown once ur kids grow up and leave and u don't know what to do with urself.
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  8. angrycandy

    cinch your robe Prestigious

    I like to think I want at least one child but the more I actually give it thought, the more it seems like a terrible idea.
  9. Henry

    LISTEN TO CHAI Moderator

    I want a kid if I can skip everything up until they are like four
  10. lina555


    I want a kid but not now. Because I think it must happen when I have already built my career.
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  11. nfdv2

    Trusted Prestigious

    on one hand I want kids very much and think I could be a good parent with the right partner.

    on the other hand I'm extremely independent and need far less social interaction/human connection than the average person to feel okay so I don't know if these things will be compatible with having a life-ish partner or parenthood. I also worry about implicit gender norms affecting career stuff sometimes

    but I definitely want to try. probably wouldn't ever date someone seriously who is straight up not open to having biological kids and/or has starkly different views on parenting

    in the meantime I'd like a cat
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  12. Dog with a Blog


    I can't wait to show my eventual kids stuff like metal and Paul Thomas Anderson movies.
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  13. scroopy.noopers

    : (

    I would consider adoption or mentoring, but not passing on my genes; my family's dna is riddled with trauma and is just generally unstable. Also, the world is an awful place. I also don't want to get married.
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  14. elemenohpe

    Irregular Prestigious

    No... my wife and I can hardly afford to support ourselves
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  15. JulieLynn

    Resident Eye-roller Supporter

    I have always wanted to have children. I got pregnant about 3 years ago this coming April. 2 weeks later I was having a miscarriage, the pregnancy was ectopic and they had to remove my left ovary that was consumed by a dermoid cyst. I am 34 a month from tomorrow and I am now going through early menopause.

    This is not how I pictured my life. But thank god for my godchildren and my best friends little girl Eva. My friend was 5 months pregnant when I lost my baby and she was the only pregnant woman who didn't make me cry.

    So now I have two 5 month old fur baby kittens and they are probably worse than actual human children.

    It has taken me over 2 years to get to this point of being ok with how things worked out.
  16. MysteryKnight


    Babies are gross, little kids crazy and annoying. Plus, they are expensive af. I'll pass
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  17. Doomsday

    Trusted Supporter

    I like children but I don't think I'll ever want to take care of one myself. Maybe if I ever get married, which I don't think will happen either. Never say never though, I'm only 22.

    I'm happy being an uncle though! My nephews are excellent fun and I don't have to deal with the consequences of getting them too hyper
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  18. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    My coworker keeps saying I'd make a great mom because I think she's amused by all my rants on socialization and stuff. But idk. I think I could make a good mom if I needed to be, but those times I do get frustrated and feel like my mom, it makes me never wanna have kids because I feel like it is in me to act the way she did. Even tho I work on undoing that everyday, it will always be part of me and under the surface when I get upset and I don't want to be triggered into that place with kids. Also what I said before about needing a lot of alone time. I'm sure feelings change when u have a kid but I'm not interested rn
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  19. kassie09


    I do but at the same time I am VERY selfish and love my sleep, I can't imagine not sleeping until noon and doing whatever the hell I want

    But I LOVE babies and am a baby nurse. I just hate kids.

    I get married in September and I'll probably pop out a few kids so I have someone to take care of me when I'm old and shit.
  20. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    Every time I say I don't want kids, a lil kid happily yells "Teacher Ana!!!!!!!" And my heart just melts smh!!

    But then I remember the middle school years and have hesitations again lol. I'm too emotionally unavailable anyway.
  21. Garrett

    it's a banger Moderator

    I would love to be a father. Kids are amazing and raising them to be great people is one of the best things we can do to help positively change the world. Which is a lot of responsibility, but also something that just becomes the daily part of life with them. As they age and develop personalities and interests it reminds you just how awesome and diverse being human actually is.
  22. domotime2

    It's an Albany Expression Prestigious

    I want to take my kid to a concert, a baseball game and that's it.

    so i guess no..not worth it. I think there are other things that involve being a parent
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  23. summertimejesus Dec 24, 2017
    (Last edited: Dec 28, 2017)

    Birds and Guitar Supporter

    Ever since I was little, I never really wanted kids. As I've grown older and developed a strong sense of what I want out of life, having my own kids doesn't fit into the picture.

    Reasons are:
    1.) I've always been extremely independent and don't like others having to rely on me 24/7. Even having my wonderful little kitty makes me realize how ill-prepared I am for a dog since I'll think about her when I'm out and think how I'd have to rush home if she were a dog.

    2.) I highly value my sleep and "me/my friends" time.

    3.) I can barely afford to pay my rent at the moment let alone worry about raising a child. I was raised in one of the most expensive parts of the US (SF Bay Area) and now live in NYC so I don't have a bunch of extra cash floating around.

    4.) The commitment. Raising a child is a life-long commitment! I'd never be the type of parent to cut off the support to my kid once they turned 18 because I know it takes a while to get your life together.

    5.) Overpopulation! I'd never have my own offspring even if I wanted kids.

    That said, I think kids are magical and would enjoy teaching/working with them but definitely not to raise as my own.
  24. BirdPerson

    fuck tammy! Prestigious

    It'd be highly irresponsible for me to bring children into this world and I'll leave it at that
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  25. Carmen SD


    When I was much younger I wanted 2 kids. Now I don't want kids. I can't stand people who say "you'll change your mind when you find the right person"... My right person won't want kids either.

    My reasons:
    I don't want to pass down my genetics. I don't have good genetics and it's likely my kids will have my bad genes. I don't want them to go thru the hell I went thru bc of it.

    I would say my mental health, but my mental health could have easily been avoided if my parents listened to me which they didn't. It stemmed from the bad household environment I lived in.

    I would want to go give my kids all the things I wasn't able to have. I know that won't be possible. I didn't have much of a childhood nor good memories.

    Other reasons I don't want to share because that would mean opening up about things that pretty much causes my mental health issues.
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